Recently, I was chasing the drama "The Rest of My Life, Please Give More Advice", and the three views and cultivation of Lin Zhi school in the play really made people particularly like it. Although, she is just a sensitive little girl who likes to cry. But her three views are very positive, especially when experiencing great family changes, she quickly adjusted her mentality and became the backbone of her parents.
In the play, Teacher Lin, like many fathers, loves his daughter deeply, but he is not good at expressing it, which leads to the contradiction between father and daughter. However, for Lin Dad's education method, he still particularly agrees, especially for his daughter's interpersonal relationships and dressing.
It is precisely because of The strict requirements of Lin's father, the same age of Lin Zhi school, she has no overly revealing clothes, no exquisite makeup, and even goes to the bar, which is the first time in her life. The correct education of parents makes Lin Zhixue extra kind and cheerful, but at the same time extra brave and strong.
In this era of "daughter preference", daughters are the treasures of their parents. It is also in this way that after many girls are born, they become the "princesses" of the family, the kind that is afraid of melting in the palm of their hands. Parents have no bottom line of love, eager to give the best things in the world to their daughters.
As a parent, the greatest hope is that her daughter's future can be happy. However, the wrong method is used on the road of education, but it will make the girl suffer more in the future. Imagine: growing up in the overprotectiveness of their parents, many girls are innocent and cute, and they don't understand the dangers of the world at all.
In this way, as long as they enter the society, they are easily deceived by people with hearts, and the last person who is hurt is definitely themselves. Meekness, well-behaved and sensible are no longer the standards by which girls are good or bad. Maybe a long time ago, gentle and virtuous was the best word to describe a girl, but now it is definitely not.
I like a saying: kindness with sharpness, ability at all times, courage to protect themselves.
It is said that society is sinister, and adults as parents should have the most say. Those docile and well-behaved girls, who are always bullied in life, seem perfect, but they have no ability to protect themselves. Whether at work or in future married life, you will always be wronged.
That being the case, stop asking girls to be "well-behaved" and "docile." Smart parents should cultivate the "wildness" of girls, so that they can keep their kindness and learn to protect themselves.
The so-called kindness is to teach girls the correct three views, not to do things that hurt others, and not to do things that hurt themselves. In life, be a person with a bottom line and principles. Remember: Kindness is not about letting a girl wronged herself and then helping others.
On the way to training girls, these aspects must be "wild"
1, the physique should be wild, it is very important to protect yourself
Previously, when choosing interest classes for girls, most parents would focus on dance. I always feel that girls who have learned dance since childhood can not only have their own strengths, but also have a more outstanding temperament. But now, more parents are focusing on taekwondo and martial arts.
Quite simply, I want girls to have the ability to protect themselves. Learning taekwondo from an early age will exercise the spirit of hard-working girls and will make them more courageous. Especially in the face of harm, you can protect yourself and bravely say no.
2. The personality should be wild, and resolutely do not seek perfection
Perhaps in the eyes of many people, girls with hot personalities are always a little unreasonable. But it is precisely because of their wild personality that they can do not seek perfection and not hurt themselves because of anyone. In the cultivation of personality, there is no need to make too many rules for girls, as long as they do not hurt people.
Girls who often have a more wild personality dare to express themselves out loud and be brave to be themselves. Even in the face of harm, you can fight back, rather than being "stupid" bullied. Most importantly, they know how to communicate properly with people in interpersonal relationships and future workplaces, reducing a lot of unnecessary harm.
3, the heart must be wild, in order to achieve their own
In this society where men and women are equal, girls should also become the leaders in the industry, exchanging their own efforts for the life they want. Instead of silently taking a back seat and being a housewife with her palms facing upwards. Moreover, we must start from the wildness of the heart, and do not have the mentality of going with the flow.
You know, "ambition" is never a derogatory term, it is a manifestation of brave chasing life and dreams. The life you want needs to rely on your own efforts, not the handouts of others. Therefore, cultivate a strong heart for girls, so that they have dreams from an early age and strive for them.
Written at the end: Always believe that excessive kindness and meekness is cruelty and harm to oneself. Especially when encountering danger, kindness is the most hurtful weapon, so it is necessary to do things with a sharp edge. For things you don't like, you must say no in time, and girls who know how to refuse can live happier.