When I was young, I felt that love is a simple thing, love is love, and not loving is not loving.
However, as I grew up slowly, I found that "love" was not so simple. Some love doesn't always exist. Some love has time.
There is a line in "Chongqing Deep Forest": "I don't know when to start, there is a date on everything, saury will expire, canned meat will expire, even plastic wrap will expire, I began to wonder, in this world, what else will not expire?" ”
When I first heard this line, I couldn't really understand it. But when we grew up, we finally discovered the true meaning of this sentence.
It turns out that not all feelings, after meeting, there is no separation. It turns out that there is no reason to love, and it is the same without love. Slowly we know that in the adult world, there is always a way to love you, and not loving is a reason.
Yeah, it's like we can never wake up a person pretending to be asleep. Like a man who is about to leave you, maybe once loved you and liked you. It's just that his love is called once loved.
Suddenly, I thought of the sentence: "As long as two people firmly believe that they can last forever, they can last forever." Indeed, on the face of it, this sentence is a needless repetition. But in fact, this is really the key to whether the feelings can go on.
Through such a passage, we can also understand why those couples who encounter difficulties and obstacles can go on. Because they love each other enough.
I also finally understood why two people who were in love with each other did not go to the end. Just like Sun Shaoan and Tian Runye in "Ordinary World".
The two of them belong to the green plum bamboo horse, and the personal relationship between the two has been very good since childhood, that is, the kind that no one can do without the other. Someone bullied Tian Runye, and Sun Shaoan would be angry for her. Sun Shaoan's clothes were torn, and Tian Runye would also help him sew them.
Indeed, in the book, we can also see that Sun Shaoan loves Tian Runye, but this kind of love is to be discounted after all. Because when Runye confessed to Sun Shaoan with "I am willing to be with you for a lifetime".
Although he was also very excited and happy. Because in Sun Shaoan's heart, Tian Runye has always been his "goddess". But he eventually refused. The reason for the refusal is "I am for his own good" and "the gap between the two of us is too big".
So he did not dare to face Tian Runye again and began to avoid her. But is he really doing this for Tian Runye's good? Is it really because of the status gap between the two people?
Rather than saying that the two people were separated because of family reasons, it is better to say that he still did not love enough, more often just thinking that he loved Runye, but in fact, he did not love as much as he thought. Because what can be defeated by reality is actually because of not loving enough.
As someone once said, "There are always more ways than difficulties." "It's not that fulfillment is love. If all of us think that way, then there's no need to talk about feelings, because there are always a lot of good people.
Because people who are emotional at a glance, how can they bear to be just ordinary friends!
It's like seeing a question like: "Why did you love each other so much before, and how can you be so determined when you break up?" ”。 If you ask him why, he can say a lot of reasons, and all of them are for your own good.
But among these reasons, he will never tell you, in fact, the reason why he wants to leave you is very simple, because I don't love you anymore, that's all.
Because if you love enough, how can you bear to give up. You know, life can't be perfect, and love can't be smooth. There will always be some problems. Do you have to give up because you encounter these problems?
If you have such an idea, then all feelings will not bear fruit.
In fact, we all know why we are abandoned in our feelings, because we have not been firmly chosen or not loved enough. Because all departures are premeditated. It's just a decision made after weighing the pros and cons.
This is also why some people can act so determined after breaking up, because they have made a decision a long time ago, and he just said it after he adapted to it.
As someone once said: "People who love you will always find you, people who don't love you are reasons, love lies in the details, and not loving also lies in the details." "Not because you're not good enough, not because you're a lot of problems, it's just that he doesn't love you anymore."
Because in the adult world, the person who loves you will always have many ways to love you, and the person who does not love you will always have many excuses to give up on you. So when you meet someone who has always loved you, you must cherish it.
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