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In life, the right way to love people is really important.
Sometimes, it is not the two people's own feelings that are problematic, but the way they love each other has some clues, so that it in turn affects the development of the relationship.
Don't believe it, a woman can calm her breath at 3 times and basically eat her lover.
01. In the ambiguous stage, it will take the initiative to promote the relationship between two people, but it is not eager to take the initiative to determine the relationship;
Two people together, the most beautiful stage, should be each other's ambiguous stage, the heart has each other, just hide this expectation and like in the heart, occasionally reveal a little of their own careful thinking to each other, pluck each other's heartstrings.
This ambiguous stage must be there. At this time, the two people, whether it is patience or the beautiful expectations of this relationship, are in the best time to continue to move forward. In this process, it is conducive to cultivating the feelings of two people and further realizing the exchange of souls.
However, this stage is not necessarily too long, if the ambiguous time lasts too long, it may have the opposite effect, until the end it stays in the ambiguous stage, never pushed forward, the seed of love has just sprouted, it is strangled in the cradle.
Girls with high emotional intelligence, in the ambiguous stage, know how to take the initiative to promote the relationship between two people, but they are not eager to determine the relationship, they will give boys some signals, to urge boys to do this thing. On the surface, they seem to be prey, but they are actually hidden hunters, and everything develops under their control, moving forward according to the established track.
On the contrary, at this time, the girl who could not hold her breath, obviously the time had not yet arrived, but she took the lead in puncturing this layer of ambiguous window paper, and suddenly cooled down the love that was about to heat up to the highest point, so that in the next relationship, she has been at a disadvantage.
I know a girl and she's just like that. Originally the two people are good feelings, chat is also more pleasant, as a result, she took the initiative to say her thoughts after less than a week of ambiguity between the two people, the boy's state at this time is basically: he has a good feeling, but the good feeling is not enough, the like for her is not enough, need to continue to cultivate good feelings, so there is no time to confess.
As a result, she suddenly spoke too clearly, but it led to the next two people's chat content, losing the initial imagination and liveliness, as if completing anything, becoming more dry and awkward, and later they also determined the relationship, but the girl has always been at a disadvantage.
This result, from the time she prematurely and took the initiative to break through this layer of relationship, was basically doomed.
02. When there is a contradiction, give two people a certain amount of time to think and reflect on the problems in it, rather than blindly rushing to reconcile;
Some girls, especially the party who loves more deeply, when there is a contradiction, they really can't hold their breath at all, as long as they don't speak for a day, they are anxious in their hearts, a thousand kinds of drama, ten thousand assumptions, the other party did not come to coax themselves in time, they will always be entangled.
as follows:
Why didn't he take the initiative to talk to me, did he dislike me?
What was he thinking, ignoring me all the time?
If I take the initiative to reconcile with him, will I look very cheap;
I want to find him...
Although sincerity has always been very important between people, in many cases, certain routines are often more popular.
In intimate relationships, there is also a certain game. As a girl, if you expose your sense of need prematurely, you will gradually lose the initiative in this relationship.
As boys, when they fully realize that each other's emotions are very determined, the basic personal efforts will stagnate, and the so-called unobtainable will always be in turmoil, and it is always easy to be favored.
Then this relationship, at this time, it is easy to become a person unilaterally advancing.
Therefore, girls who really understand human nature will give each other a certain amount of time to think when there is a contradiction, and can really reflect on the problems, rather than ignoring the three-seven-twenty-one, as long as he comes to coax, even if the matter is not solved at all, he does not care at all, blindly reconciled, the next time continue to blindly quarrel, the focus will always be his attitude, not the root of the problem.
When arguing, the girl who can appropriately delay the sense of need is often the one who occupies the initiative in an intimate relationship.
03. When talking about the ex, it will not break the casserole to ask the end, but point to the end, to save enough face for each other;
There are quite a few girls, in love is particularly prone to a common disease: they are very curious about the boyfriend's ex, like to ask a variety of things, the more asked more, the more asked more and more detailed, eager to listen to the details of the love of two people, all listen.
But, on the other hand, when the boy really talks a little more, they will definitely get angry, thinking that he still remembers so many things, is he still in love with her? Having been apart for so long, I haven't forgotten it, am I still thinking of her in my heart?
Facts have proved that in an intimate relationship, the more things you care about, the more entangled you are in it, the easier it is to make this love more intense and persistent because of this emotion.
In the final analysis, sometimes what they cling to is not this person at all, but the thoughts they spent on this person in the first place, whether it is noisy or noisy, as well as some personal emotional efforts, so that they are not willing to accept the final result.
Therefore, the girl who understands this truth, when the two people talk about the ex, will not break the casserole to ask the end, and will not contradict the person in front of them again because a person who has become a person of the past, so it is not worth it. They asked about the past, just before the relationship began, to have a general understanding of his love history, so that they could have a number in their minds. As for who that person is, what he looks like, what his personality is, what kind of work he does, etc., they will not inquire about it, so as not to beg for food.
A lover who knows how to measure up at the right moment is definitely a plus in an intimate relationship.
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