If you are not rich and handsome, but go after a Bai Fumei, because of the difference in value and be rejected, it is understandable, after all, you have not met the standards in Bai Fumei's mind. But if you have good conditions yourself, to chase a girl who is equivalent to your own conditions is also rejected every time, the reason is not as simple as it seems.
Below, let's take a look at the reasons why you are rejected every time you chase girls, and in order to catch up with the girl you like, so that she will no longer reject you.
First, the reason why chasing girls is rejected every time
1, the girl is too important
Actions are dominated by thoughts, once we like a girl, then our actions are generally impossible to hide, and there will certainly be intentional or unintentional dedication. But can we really get the girl's favor by doing this? I believe that everyone understands the truth of "nothing to offer courtesy is not adultery or theft", which will only make girls suspect that our motives are not pure, feel pressure to escape, and naturally will eventually be rejected by girls.
2. Acts of being too gentlemanly
It is undeniable that the behavior of some gentlemen will indeed get the good feelings of girls and can close the relationship with girls, but if you behave too gentlemanly, do not understand the interest at all, ignore the emotions and feelings of girls, then when girls have such an impression, they will only treat you as an unattractive ordinary friend, drawn into the circle of friendship, and cannot upgrade the relationship.
3, pay too much to girls
Chasing a girl is good for a girl, and it is right to pay for a girl, but if you are too good to her and pay too much, such behavior is like a promoter in a supermarket, even if you don't buy something, the other party will say that it's okay, and then introduce you to this thing, I can understand in my heart that the purpose of this person is to let us buy his things.
In the same way, your various behaviors towards girls are also to make girls accept you, which is purposeful, which will make girls feel pressure and naturally will not easily accept you.
And once you pay too much to the girl, according to the sunk cost effect, just like gambling, the more you don't see the desired result.
Second, let the girl you like not reject your method
1. Guide girls to pay affection
People will always pay no attention to the things that are easy to get, and the more they pay, the more they will cherish.
In fact, chasing girls is the same, only by guiding girls to pay for us, will let girls care about us, so that we can not be rejected in the process of chasing her. And if you will only blindly pay when chasing girls, and will not guide girls to pay feelings, then you will certainly not be cherished by girls, and the final result will only be rejected by girls.
Take the fact that the girl asked you to help, you helped the girl, saying that she should do it, then she will not remember your efforts, because she did not pay anything.
If we take a different approach, say, "Do me a favor, you have to invite me to a big meal," and use a similar equivalent to show your value, but don't go too far, asking for something that is worth far more than you pay, so as not to backfire.
In this way, you not only deepen the impression in the hearts of the girls, but also have a dinner with the girls you like, why not enjoy it?
The same is true for chatting with girls, if the girl asks you some personal information, you will directly tell her that such an interaction is meaningless, if you add some conditions when exchanging personal information, such as exchanging information in the way of rewarding the girl with a small red flower and first letting the girl do some small things, guide the girl's emotional investment, when she finds that she spends more and more emotions on you, and even usually always thinks of you, you are not far away.
Of course, when guiding emotional investment, you must have value, can not empty gloves white wolf, there must be points that can attract girls, such as her playing your instrument, your photos, your dance, singing interest, you can use this as an opportunity to show your corresponding value, build attraction.
2. Grasp the initiative of the relationship
When men and women interact, the initiative is very important. But too many boys in the pursuit of girls, always can not control their sense of needs, like in a short period of time, in the case of not knowing the other party's intentions, they will clearly tell each other their intentions, after doing so, in fact, in this relationship has lost the initiative, can only be decided by the other party whether to like you.
Therefore, if the chasing girl wants not to be rejected by her, then we must grasp the initiative, take the final decision in our own hands, do not express good feelings without moving, retain a certain sense of mystery in front of the girl, and let the girl be curious about us.
You must know that girls are a very curious creature, full of curiosity about unknown things, and want to explore. If you want girls to be curious about us, you must occasionally be immodest, bring her curiosity, make her unable to think through what you are thinking, so that she will always think of "eh, why is this person like this" when she is fine, for example:
M: How did you spend the weekend?
F: I haven't thought about it yet
At this time, many people will say "hello pitiful, I will accompany you" so that it will only expose the sense of need and be rejected, at this time we reply like this: "Is your quilt sealed you" First to stimulate the girl's emotions, and then say: "I know a fun place" deliberately sell the guanzi, and then say: "Your quilt can't help but want to go" Do not say that the girl wants to go but the quilt wants to go, so that the inviting girl will not have a strong purpose, she will be more likely to accept your invitation.