"Hope for the son to become a dragon, hope for the daughter to become a phoenix" is the voice of many parents, but have any parents ever thought about what kind of cruelty their children will experience after desperately squeezing into the first-tier cities?
I have a relative's child who has excellent academic performance, so he was successfully admitted to a prestigious university in Beijing and stayed in Beijing to work. When we got together during the New Year, everyone said enviously: "Or your children have a career, they have all become Beijingers." Unexpectedly, the child's father said: "The difficulty of being admitted to a prestigious university and a prestigious university, he has settled in Beijing, but life in Beijing is not easy, his old and dilapidated house, only one room and one hall, we have hundreds of thousands of foreign debts, he still has more than one million loans, when will this be able to pay off ah! ”
After the children went to Beijing, the pressure on their parents' lives increased sharply, and young people did not have an easy time in big cities. The leap of an ordinary family to this big city class is a huge test for two generations.
The pressure of life in big cities is also deeply felt. Although on the surface, we made a lot of money, but after paying off the mortgage, plus the education costs of our two children, there was not much leftover, and we often felt that we were busy in vain. This is the living condition of many young people in first-tier cities.
We enter and leave high-rise buildings, sit in the most convenient transportation in the world, and enjoy the spiritual satisfaction and enjoyment brought to us by the bustling city, but we often feel lost and helpless.
The pressure of work is huge, the pressure of life is not small, when we talk to our parents, they will occasionally complain: "It is better to go back to the hometown, how comfortable it is to live in a large square meter house, find a stable job, and it is much easier to go to nine to five." ”
Maybe the hometown can accommodate our physical bodies, but it can't put aside our restless souls. Although it is hard work, we are still willing to work hard and are not willing to give up easily.
Many young people around us, although their work in Shenzhen is hard, but also do not complain, and strive to pursue their own goals in life. However, the parents of the hometown constantly urged that instead of having no house and no marriage partner, it would be better to go home and find a stable job.
Children squeezed into the first-tier city life, but also shows that they are capable, idealistic young people, parents should support them or should they keep them by their side? I think this should be based on their actual situation, in fact, there are still many places in big cities.
Big cities have the benefits of big cities, and the educational resources that children enjoy are of very high quality
The pressure of life and work in big cities is very large, but why are there still so many people trying to stand firm and stay? We are very tired in Shenzhen now, and it will be much more comfortable if we return to the small county.
But the question is, how much insight our children will have in a first-tier city like Shenzhen, and the educational resources they enjoy may be the extent that small counties and towns will catch up in another 20 years.
We are now going back, and when it comes to the generation of sons and daughters, they still have to do their best to get out, and it may be more difficult at that time. Therefore, we are now a little harder, the educational resources enjoyed by children, the living environment are different, if sooner or later there must be a generation to work hard, it is better to be earlier than a little later.
The future of the child has always been the road that each generation of parents want to work hard to pave, and in order for the child to go more smoothly, parents think that "after suffering our generation, future generations will enjoy it." "Therefore, there are also good struggles in big cities.
Moreover, the more children without family backgrounds, the more opportunities there may be in big cities.
In the big city to develop a little better, or at home in a small county better, I think everyone's specific situation is different, but also really the choice is not the same. If we are in the county town, there is an industry that can inherit the "rich second generation", or the family with a very good relationship in the county town, it will be much easier to stay in the county town.
Some people look down on the "old people", in fact, since their parents have such resources, they enjoy it, life is easier, and there is nothing wrong with being better.
If your family is poor and white in the county, you might as well go to the big city to fight, because the level of fair competition there will be much better than the county.
You will work and promote in a relatively fair environment, your personal ability will be the most important, and no one will care about your family background. And if you choose the right one and spell out the world, you will become a rich generation.
The child's own choices are the most important
If the child has more education and ability, and personally prefers life in the big city, parents should still support the child. The child's knowledge, professionalism, and what kind of platform he is suitable for development, let him find his own stage.
For parents, there is no need to put too much pressure on themselves, we will do our best to pay for our children, as for the child's future life and career, it should still be based on his own efforts. The companionship and efforts of parents are still very limited after all.
Although the city is cruel now, it is also the closest road to dreams and success, and there is competition and motivation. Moreover, only by working hard at a young age can we have the ability to filial piety to parents, raise children, and give happiness to our families.
Big cities have star-studded prosperity, there are dreams that countless people strive to pursue, hometown has our dearest people and decades of good memories, respect your own soul, live the life you yearn for, you are the happiest.