01
As the saying goes: "Right and wrong are only for more openings, and troubles are caused by strong heads." ”
The reason why right and wrong in this world comes to us is because we talk too much. And troubles will come unexpectedly with our strong behavior.
Things like non-existence and defilement are not so much automatic as they are the result of "self-inflicted" things.
For example, in the face of a stranger, we don't even know their details, talk to them casually, and even help them, what is this?
If the other party's character is OK, there is no bad heart, I believe we will not be affected too much. On the other hand, if the other party's character is average, the result can only be "self-inflicted".
The ancients had a saying: "All kinds of self-inflicted wounds are self-inflicted, and hell suffers and complains to whomever complains." ”
Everyone needs to pay for their words and deeds, and everything is "cause and effect".
But it still has to be said that people in the rivers and lakes, there are a lot of chores, we must not manage too much, but we need to achieve the principle of "everyone sweeps the snow in front of the door, and rests on the frost on the tiles of others".
When interacting with people, everything needs to be based on "protecting" yourself. Even if the relationship is good, there is no need to care about these few things.
02
Matters related to "grievances", leave it alone.
There is a saying that "idle things are not managed, idle people are not reasonable." ”
As a person, you must not take care of too many nosy things. Especially the "grudges" of others. At the same time, for some idle people, we must not pay too much attention to it, so as not to cause trouble.
And many people don't think so, think that becoming an "old good person" is not necessarily a bad thing. Moreover, isn't it also a manifestation of goodwill to coordinate from it and be a peacemaker?
Thoughts like this will hurt a lot of people. In the complex and changeable jianghu, the more we like to manage things, the easier it is to become the "number one enemy" of others.
These two people obviously had a conflict, but in order to show your "kindness and kindness", you went to the middle of them and advised them to reconcile.
The result? However, it was hated by both sides of this grudge, and the focus of the contradiction directly shifted to himself.
Be an old good person, manage too many other people's grievances, after all, "good people have good rewards", but bury their own mines, and finally be injured all over the body.
03
Regarding "money debt", forget about it.
There is a saying in the folk: "Human feelings belong to human feelings, and the number should be clear." ”
In many cases, although I have a relatively strong human relationship with you, in terms of money, we still have a clear line and it is better to say it clearly.
For friends, you don't owe me money, I don't owe you money, both sides completely avoid the topic of money, then our relationship can last.
However, if we do not believe in evil and have to involve the issue of monetary interests in the relationship, then this relationship can end here.
For example, if you lend money to the other party, can you really get the money back?
There is a reality that we must understand that the closer the relationship between people, the more the money borrowed cannot be recovered. Once a little careless, the two sides will turn against each other, and even die and do not interact with each other.
Don't underestimate the impact of money. In the face of money, all feelings are just a family, and they cannot withstand the impact of reality.
04
Things about "other people's families" should not be contaminated.
There is a tradition in the jianghu that is worse than that of wives and children.
That is to say, everything is related to the person concerned, and it has nothing to do with other people's families. The parties are a whole, the family is a whole, and after all, they need to be separated.
In the same way, in the matter of "helping", we must not "manage" the idle affairs of other people's families.
The family affairs referred to here actually include a particularly large number of types. There are marriage affairs, parent-child affairs, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts.
There was once such a relative, seeing that someone else's family had a conflict, he mixed in to help him, and finally he succeeded in becoming the target of public criticism, and even his friends hated him.
He especially wondered, you are my friend, I help you, you should thank me, why do you have to hate me?
The reason is very simple, the affairs of other people's families are solved by others themselves, and we have no right to mix them, nor do we have too much to manage.
It doesn't matter to you, just hang high. Taking care of our own household affairs is our own responsibility.
05
Regarding the matter of "gang formation", leave it alone.
In the workplace, there is an unavoidable behavior - ganging.
In order to deal with some people, I pull you to my side; in order to better ascend to the throne, he accumulates contacts and forms circles everywhere; in order to become the best in the workplace, people can only pull each other together and suppress each other.
How do we deal with such a thing? In a word, the circle that should not be entered, cannot be entered. There is no need to offend people, do not offend.
Some people are younger and feel that it is not a big problem to participate in the circle and make enemies with some people. But the reality is that once your circle fails, your ending will not be too good.
For such things as "gangs and factions", we can ignore them, just leave them alone, try to remain neutral, try to do our duty, and don't let others feel that we are a threat.
In the workplace, learn to deal with others in the way of "playing tai chi", although it is a scene, but if we are too real, then the only one who can be hurt is ourselves. That's all.
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