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The German philosopher Fichte said: "Once a scientist has made achievements, he should forget what he has done and often think about what he should do." ”
The prosperity is like a cloud of smoke, and as soon as you turn around, you are gone. If you still hold your hand and don't let go, you are a grain of dust abandoned by the prosperity.
In this life, the most correct way to live is to live in the present.
As a retired elderly, we must see our age clearly, but also understand the truth of society, accept what cannot be changed, and change can be changed. Follow the development of life, promote yourself, and life will naturally go smoothly.
Therefore, the following four habits need to be forced to develop themselves.
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First, force yourself to abandon the circle of the workplace and return to peace.
Ouyang Xiu, a literary hero of the Northern Song Dynasty, made friends such as Mei Mei Yaochen and Fu Bi when he was an official in Luoyang, and when he was an official in the imperial court, he selected a number of officials such as Su Shi, Su Rui, and Zeng Gong. Everyone is not busy meeting friends with culture and governing the country with culture.
In the fifth year of the Qing calendar, Ouyang Xiu was framed by political enemies and demoted to Chuzhou.
From hugging back and forth, to going alone. His mood was very uncomfortable, and he often borrowed wine to pour sorrow.
Idle, he wrote the "Drunken Pavilion", saying: "Those who stagger their chips, sit up and make noise, and the guests are also happy... The sunset is already on the mountain, the shadows are scattered, too guarded to return and the guests are also from it. ”
Probably after accepting the arrangement of fate and seeing the ups and downs of life, Ouyang Xiu wrote an article entitled "The Tale of the Drunken Pavilion in Chuzhou" and said: "Only the rock wind comes, and I am still awake." ”
It turned out that when the wine woke up, he felt the sound of birds and flowers, and heard the sound of streams flowing through the rocks. The best day is walking in the mountains.
In the wine glass, life seems particularly lively. Put down the glass and always think about it.
People love to be lively, otherwise, everyone will not yearn for the north, the vast and deep, but will love the countryside and valleys.
However, when you retire, it means that you have to leave the lively place and return to peace. No matter where you live, what others call you is a superficial courtesy, don't take it too seriously.
Different mentalities, different perceptions. But it is not difficult to find that the real happiness is between the mountains and the water, not in the cup changing.
Without a circle, you can study with peace of mind and take good care of your family. Friends who covet the "wine bureau and dinner" in the workplace, cherish the honor and interest exchange in the past, will lose the happiness of the old age. Therefore, by habitually rejecting circles, life will be free again.
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Second, force yourself to be kind to your daughter-in-law and son-in-law and cherish your family.
Many elderly people hope that their daughter-in-law and son-in-law will be kinder to themselves and can get the filial piety they deserve. But they didn't think the other way around—you treat your daughter-in-law and son-in-law as outsiders, so why should you be an "outsider" to be filial to you.
For example, when marrying a daughter, as soon as he opens his mouth, he will ask for hundreds of thousands of dowries, so the son-in-law becomes a poor and destitute person, what filial piety will he take in the future? The mother-in-law blows her beard at her daughter-in-law and stares at her daughter-in-law, directing her daughter-in-law to do this and that, how can the daughter-in-law have a good face?
If you think about it, your kindness to others will one day come back to yourself; the same is true of your evil towards others.
Smart people, from the day of retirement, will take the initiative to help their children do something, habitually thinking of the good of their daughter-in-law and son-in-law, rather than remembering their ugliness.
They are all family, and there are inevitably contradictions. Son-in-law and daughter-in-law are not your flesh and bones, and if you want to "see yourself as yourself", you need a long run-in period. If you are not generous and do not know how to take the initiative to show kindness, it is difficult to do so.
When protecting the children, at the same time to the daughter-in-law and son-in-law, the family has a temperature. The family is harmonious, and the elderly have to rely on. Don't think that with a pension, you will be alive and well, and no one will take care of it.
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Third, force yourself to talk less and do more, and less trouble.
After retirement, we like to call friends and companions. A group of people go to see the scenery, take pictures in the flowers, and frolic among the mountains and rivers.
Because I have a hobby, I have made friends with like-minded people.
Stepping out of the circle of the workplace and joining the circle of life is a natural thing. But we also need to see the fact that everyone's cognition is different, the level of people is different, and the amount of pension is different.
If you're used to being opinionated, then you're going to be unable to get along with the people around you. What others say, you don't like to hear, because it doesn't express what you mean; what everyone wants to do, you don't want to participate in, because it doesn't meet your requirements.
The most terrible thing is that you can't get used to something, you have to say it, causing others to be unhappy. Therefore, there is also a gap between the elderly, and even quarrels and turns against each other.
Cultivated old people are accustomed to looking at people's strengths and not people's weaknesses. Thus, in his eyes, he is a good person. If there are people who are not suitable, it is good to leave quietly.
From the day you retire, there will be no conflict of interest with anyone. The original intention of interacting with people is to have fun. Verbal disputes are meaningless, and it is better to quit. Be yourself, set an example, and be ashamed.
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Fourth, force yourself to strictly self-discipline and keep your body.
Many people, before retiring, think about going to bed early and getting up early every day, exercising, and staying away from the poker game. But after retirement, after a few days of persistence, I gave up, and my life became "lazy" from then on.
Haruki Murakami once said, "Running is something I have to do in my life no matter what. ”
Take the exercise thing as a must-do thing, rise to a certain height, and you will get better and better.
No matter how much you have a pension, as long as you are in good health, you earn it. On the one hand, the matter of medical expenses has nothing to do with you; on the other hand, you live a long time and get more money. You kill two birds with one stone.
Force yourself to do something every day, and over time, you don't do it one day, but you don't get used to it. This is the "inertia" of action that dominates you and pushes you down the path to health.
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The philosopher Immanuel Kant said, "Freedom is not arbitrary, but self-mastery." ”
A person's fate is always in his own hands. If you live as a free and loose person, you will have nothing.
Therefore, we must consciously do something, go in the established direction, and don't lose ourselves.
People are old, leaving the workplace, life has become the main battlefield, and all happiness is hidden in the bits and pieces of life.
Consider the long term, accumulate steps day by day, and blessings will come naturally.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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