At the same party, the same old mother who suffered from fate, everyone's state of mind may be 108,000 miles apart.
Author | Martian housewives
Last month, our high school dorm mates had a "meeting" after many years.
The young girls of that year, when they meet again, they all laugh at each other as greasy aunts and bald women.
At the beginning of the gathering, everyone informed each other of their professions, and found that some people were already big leaders and big bosses, and some people were just ordinary small employees.
The same beginning of youth is now on a different mountain.
The gap is a bit large, and the atmosphere is inevitably a little awkward and deserted.
At this time, I don't know who asked a question:
"How are your children learning?" Is it not worrying? ”
In an instant, everyone's desire to communicate was ignited, and you said a word to me, and the meal was directly eaten to the restaurant and closed.
Sure enough, the old mother's heart is iron, no matter how good the peers we meet, we will comfort ourselves:
Fate sometimes has to have it, and fate must not demand it at any time.
But the part of the old mother's heart about the child is always fragile.
Through careful observation, I found that among the old mothers who were spitting on the stars, there was a hidden chain of contempt.
And the division of this chain of contempt depends on nothing else, but on the child's academic performance.
Tier 1:
Having a natural bully is actually a winner in life
The so-called natural learning bully is the kind of bully who goes to class casually, plays crazy after class, writes homework casually, and never needs to make up lessons.
Without too much effort the day after tomorrow, you can easily crush everyone, but isn't it a natural bully!
Generally people are born to breathe, and they are born to learn and learn.
Because the memory and understanding of knowledge are top-notch, the natural master does not need to spend too much time brushing up on the problem.
Once you read the theorem, you will understand it; if you read the book again, you will remember it all.
Compared with other bully mothers, everyone's communication with natural school bully mothers will be more cordial.
We were surprised to find that her understanding of children's learning was similar to ours!
She also didn't know how many units her child had taught math;
Do not understand what the main points of composition training at this stage are;
The abbreviations for various English certificates are black-tongued in the clouds;
I don't know the various exercise books on the market.
But when it comes to the child's grades, the closeness disappears and is replaced by a naked gap in the score.
One of the most common words of the natural bully mother is:
"Oh, I don't care if the kids learn."
What a versailles sentence!
We want to find a sense of superiority in the eyes of our naturally born bully mothers, but we only find purity and innocence.
Damn it! What she said was true!
She really didn't worry about anything, and the child automatically grew into a bully!
Born to be a bully not only has excellent grades and is not biased in subjects, but also good at many other things:
Musical instruments, sports, fine arts, door and door metropolis;
Cooking, housework, public welfare, everything to get started;
He wasn't even nearsighted, and even his temper was particularly good.
Proper polygon warrior!
When God created the Natural Scholar, was it in the hot summer?
So what windows didn't close for him?
The mother of the student bully is really a person who was hit by luck!
If the baby is buying lottery tickets, the prize she wins belongs to the extent that the prize pool of all mankind is drained.
Second Floor:
Children like to do problems, and mothers and children change their lives against the sky
The children of this group of mothers may not be as talented as natural students, but they have the biggest advantage, that is, they are resistant to chickens!
The so-called chicken resistance is to tolerate the mother's chicken blood level well.
Chicken-resistant children will get up half an hour early in the morning to read the classics in the morning;
On the way to and from school, it will definitely be used to listen to English;
Take notes during class, collect wrong questions when writing homework;
All homework must have been completed before school.
Because, he still has to go to his mother's homework bureau when he comes home!
The hard-working mother must be a person who knows every aspect of education in particular.
They will make educational plans for their children and know how to choose suitable extracurricular exercises and tutors for their children.
If you have any problems with your children's learning, it is always right to consult them.
When we meet a mother who is born to be a bully, we often lament the injustice of fate and think: It is better to lie flat.
Yes, the child who will only be stupid when I get it in my hand, can I change my life against the sky?
But when we meet hard-working mothers and see how their children have made little progress under their scientific planning and strict supervision, we will suddenly suffer from the onslaught of anxiety:
It turned out that I dragged the child's learning legs!
Here I warmly remind, do not just learn people chicken dolls.
Because the frequency of the occurrence of industrious problem babies is only slightly greater than that of natural academic hegemons.
A mother with chicken blood is often present, but a chicken-tolerant child is not.
If the mother chickens blood and the child is not tolerant of chickens, that is, the emperor is not anxious about the eunuchs, not only can not produce results, but also may be killed.
Third Floor:
The results are stable at the bottom, and the inner volume is abandoned early
You wonder, how can a scumbag mom not be at the bottom of the chain of contempt?
Simple, because their children's grades are stable and firm!
Once you accept the fact that your child can't learn from the bottom of your heart, life will suddenly change.
In the past, I could only see the child's test papers, the way he wrote homework, but now I can see the flowers of spring and the snow of winter;
In the summer, they will go to the countryside to escape the summer, instead of being busy finding summer care for their children;
Autumn will drink the first cup of milk tea, rather than rushing to find an institution to pay the fall tuition.
They proved to everyone with their own experience:
The child's grades are not good, and it does not affect our eating, drinking, and sleeping;
Life doesn't turn out of the ordinary because of a bad test paper.
I love chatting with optimistic scumbag moms, who are a rare little freshness in this age of anxiety.
Their life motto is:
"Grades don't matter, be a person, the most important thing is to be happy!"
But when I carefully studied a large number of optimistic scumbag mothers, I was even more anxious!
I found that except for a small part of them who are really big-hearted, most of the others are just big family business!
Kids really can't read books? Never mind! Just enough to go home and inherit the family business!
If you like the diploma of Tsinghua Peking University, it will be better to invite a few more employees who graduated from Tsinghua Peking University in the future!
The really calm scum mothers are a group of people who don't need to carry their children's inner rolls.
They step on the auspicious cloud composed of deposits, holding the pagoda of the real estate base, jumping out of the five elements and three realms in a tendon fight, watching us learn for our children to die and live in the distant clouds.
If you're at a party and you meet a group of particularly optimistic scumbag moms.
Don't blindly learn from their open-mindedness, first inquire about their wealth.
People's Buddhist system may be perfumed with the fragrance of the renminbi.
The average person does not have this deposit temperament.
Fourth Floor:
Grades go up and down, money and mom
So who is at the bottom of the chain of contempt?
If the source of happiness in life is jagged, then the source of suffering is uncertainty.
And we are a group of people who live in uncertainty every day.
Our biggest uncertainty is whether this child will work or not???
In the beginning, we believed that children must be OK, so from the moment they fell to the ground, we began to give our all to nurture.
Teach ancient poetry at the age of 3 and Phonics at the age of 4;
Listen to English grind your ears, do experiments to enlighten scientific ideas;
Go to the surrounding countryside on weekends to play planting and tell them that "every grain is hard";
When the Leo meteor shower came, he stayed up late to take them to observe, telling them that the stars were actually big stones.
We are flexible and enlightened, entertaining and educational, and think how can it not be good to raise children in this way?
As the child gets older, our expectations of him drop dramatically.
From 985 and 211 at the age of 3 to "one book is good" in the third grade;
From "undergraduate on the line" after graduating from primary school to "only seeking general high school" after graduating from junior high school.
Some people will say, children do not learn well, do not force it, physical and mental health on the line, do not roll.
Heck, if every parent could easily let go, there wouldn't be so much trouble.
It feels like stock speculation.
When many people see the stock price falling, it is difficult to cut the meat and leave the market immediately.
Because I have invested in the past few years, paid ah, these are sunk costs.
We will think: do we want to hold on a little longer, maybe it will rise later?
Shareholders will not easily "cut meat", let alone parents can give up their children so easily.
So many years of pay, is a sunk cost!
For their future, even the slightest opportunity is hope!
If Heaven had given me a less intelligent child at the beginning, I would have died in my studies long ago.
But the child is not stupid, even a little fine, when you scold him, he still knows to go to his grandmother as a rescue soldier.
But you say that the child is smart, b and d will be confused, multiplication distribution law several times is always confused.
They're like a bunch of tightrope-walking acrobats, staging thrills with you all day long.
The previous exam, online, we are happy, think that pu high hope!
This time the exam, the exam was broken, we were lost, and suddenly felt that going to work was not interesting!
The results are good and bad, the rankings are up and down, and the hope of the middle and high school entrance examinations is bright or extinguished, and sometimes there is none.
Is this schooling? This is playing with my heart between my palms!
This is the old mother at the bottom of the chain of contempt:
Desire to lie flat, forced to roll inward;
Chronic anxiety, occasionally rejoicing;
Life is normal, nervous disorders.
When he goes to work, he is a middle-aged man who has a good age, and when he is reading, he is Ma Jingtao, who is roaring at his children.
Finally, I want to tell you --
If you find your colleague's big sister, who suddenly left the scene to answer the phone when an important meeting, please don't blame him, it is the class teacher's phone, don't answer it;
If your girlfriend is happily nagging with you one second, and the next second you read a WeChat and your face is dark, don't worry, they are not strokes, they are receiving their children's test results;
If your leader holds the mobile phone WeChat and sends an endless message, and from time to time writes and draws on the paper, most of them are not problems in work, but children who encounter problems in homework, and ask people everywhere for advice.
This is just a bunch of old mothers at the bottom of the chain of contempt.
If their long-term lonely circle of friends suddenly sends a child's full score test paper, beautiful handwriting, awards, etc., please don't be stingy to give them a thumbs up.
Because this is their rare highlight moment, and it is also their motivation to continue to persevere on the child's learning path!