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Everyone has tough days in their lives.
During those days, you were either bogged down in an economic quagmire, faced an emotional crisis, or suffered from the pain of losing a loved one, or suffered from physical health.
No matter what you encounter, it was a very difficult time. During those days, you lived every day in negative emotions such as anxiety, grief, fear, and powerlessness.
Life seems to have fallen to the bottom, and no matter how hard you try, you can't find a way out.
Many people are depressed and cannot extricate themselves from staying in place for a long time.
And those who have worked hard to survive hardships and come out of the quagmire often become better.
Look closely at those who climb out of the trough, they tend to have all three of these things done.
Take care of yourself and maintain a sense of control over your life
When life is in trouble, do not indulge in entertainment and buy drunk, even if you try to get fit and do housework, you can quickly establish a sense of control over yourself and your life, so as to re-establish confidence.
There is an experiment in Reverse Quotient that shows the important role of control in life.
The researchers conducted experiments on two groups of elderly people in nursing homes, whether they eat, sleep, or do things, almost all of them have to obey the arrangements of nursing staff, and there are very few things in their lives that they can control.
After the experiment began, the researchers gave each elderly a potted plant, and one group of elderly people was allowed to take care of the potted plants themselves, while the other group of elderly people was not allowed.
As a result, the elderly who were able to take care of the potted plants themselves were more optimistic and healthy than the other group, because there was one more thing in their lives that they could control, even if it was only a small potted plant.
When we experience failures and blows, and lose self-confidence, our sense of control over life will also decline, making us afraid to face the dilemma.
But life is never completely out of control.
Even in the most difficult situations, we can do what we can and regain control of our lives.
Su Shi was imprisoned at the age of 42 for the Wutai poetry case, and although he was rescued, his life has since fallen to the bottom.
He was demoted to Huangzhou, but he even had to find his own way to live, and he was meager, and his salary for a year was used up in half a year.
What pained Su Shi the most was that his future was uncertain and his ambitions were difficult to reward, not only could he no longer plan for the country and the people, but in the end he ended up in a difficult situation for himself.
Therefore, when he first arrived in Huangzhou, he was disheartened and depressed, sleeping during the day and drinking alcohol at night.
But strong and optimistic people will not be easily overthrown, and Su Shi finally came out of the dark valley with his own will.
He reclaimed a piece of land in Huangzhou, became a farmer, self-sufficient, and created such a famous dish as "Dongpo meat", slowly, he gradually came out of the haze, his outlook on life was more open-minded, and his heart was more determined.
After Huangzhou, Su Shi's encounters were even more bumpy, and even Huizhou in Guangdong and Danzhou in Hainan were uncultivated barbaric lands.
However, in the face of the bumpy life of the next ten years, he was able to write freely: "Ask Ru Ping's life and deeds, Huangzhou Huizhou Danzhou." ”
Mencius Cloud:
The poor are alone, and the poor are good at the same time.
Although it is great to help the world at the same time, in the midst of difficulties, it is also an achievement to be able to do a good job alone.
When life is in trouble, we may not be able to do much about it, but at least we can take care of ourselves, maintain a sense of control over life, and accumulate strength for future efforts.
Engage in interest and find self-worth
We work hard every day and rarely have time to enjoy life. Occasionally on vacation, many people choose to stay at home to rest and relax, and they can't lift their spirits to do anything.
People always think that they have made enough money to stop and enjoy the joys of life, but the money is always not enough.
Making money is to live a happier life, but what we enjoy in our hearts is happiness, not money.
Many people can't imagine that in fact, a simple painting can make people happy, and a few pots of flowers and grasses can make people happy.
Former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill was famous overseas, but his political career has experienced ups and downs.
In 1915, at the age of 41, Churchill was dismissed from the post of Secretary of the Navy. This incident hit him hard.
To cheer him up, his family suggested that Churchill learn to paint.
Unexpectedly, the political leaders known for their iron fists developed a fear of painting, afraid that they would not be able to draw well, and finally they could write with the help of their teachers.
Over time, he painted better and better, and his heart also regained self-confidence and courage through this process.
Later, every time he was lost in the political arena, Churchill regained his paintbrush, dispelled his frustrations, and regained his confidence.
There will always be dark moments in life, but there are always good things in life that are worth pursuing.
The poet Gu Cheng said:
The night gave me black eyes, but I used them to find the light.
Practice a pair of eyes to find the beauty of life, to find the light in life.
The beauty of life is often hidden in the small things of those hobbies.
Insist on learning, rooted inward, in order to grow outward
When we are young, we are often in a hurry to prove ourselves to the world, and we have only seven points of ink in our chests but we have to show ten.
This approach may be a temporary leap forward, but it is ultimately unstable.
Behind the prosperity of the towering tree is the support of a huge root system, and behind the successful people there are countless hardships and efforts.
When we are devastated, we often complain like a victim about our bumpy fate, but forget to think about whether we are not working hard enough.
What happens to us may not be all of our own making, but the key to solving the problem is often in ourselves.
Wu Mengda participated in an artist training class when he was young, and soon after graduation, he participated in TV dramas, and also became popular with the role of Hu Tiehua in "The Legend of Chu Liuxiang".
Wu Mengda, who became famous too early, quickly lost himself in honor and did not want to make progress, and as a result, he was hidden by the company. Not only is there no drama to shoot, but life is also in trouble, with a debt of 300,000.
At first, he was sad and lost, and even had suicidal thoughts, but eventually he persevered.
In order to "turn over the salted fish", he bought many books, studied and speculated every day, improved his acting skills, and studied for four years.
Appearing in front of people again, everyone was surprised to find that he had changed like a rebirth.
With hard work and strength, Wu Mengda was once again recognized, more and more films, and later partnered with Stephen Chow to star in a series of comedy movies and became a golden supporting role.
In "Heavenly Love", he won the best supporting actor at the 10th Hong Kong Film Awards for the role of "Taibao".
Goethe said:
Man not only has everything by virtue of his birth, but he builds himself by everything he has learned.
Life is a process of continuous learning and continuous improvement.
When you find that the road ahead is not clear, it may not be that fate is bumpy, but that we ourselves are too weak.
At this time, only by continuous learning and strengthening the self can we overcome obstacles and continue to move forward.
This process is like a tree constantly taking root, there is no shortcut, not easy, can only be honed day after day, step by step.
People at the low point, learn to root inward, in order to grow outward.
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When life is at a low point, you will feel very difficult, there is no way out, and you don't know where to start.
The more desperate you are trying to break through the barriers, the deeper you seem to be stuck in a quagmire.
At this time, you may wish to calm down and start with the small things that you can.
Don't feel that housework, calligraphy, and reading are not helpful. On the contrary, countless successful people have proved that it is such seemingly insignificant small things that can help people regain confidence and get out of the trough.
Without accumulating steps, there is no way to go thousands of miles, there is no accumulation of small streams, and there is no way to become a river and a sea. All great achievements begin with a very small beginning.
When you do small things well, you will find that they continue to accumulate energy for you, supporting you to break through obstacles and get out of difficulties and valleys.