The Growth of the Little Devil (6)
- Baby, you decide
Text/Liu Zhimin
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Baby, recently there has been another thing that bothers my mother, that is, you do not take the return of the elocution class seriously.
Your elocution class is held every Friday night, and by next Friday, the teacher asks to practice what you've learned at home and take a video to return to the class on your phone. You used to be very serious about returning to class, and I don't know when it started, and there was a situation of coping and procrastination. When you start practicing after dinner, you first find various reasons to say a while and then start, and then you have a hard time starting to act, you stand there with a grimace and small movements, I shout "3, 2, 1, start", you say a few familiar opening words by inertia, and then you probe your little brain and ask your mother: "What is coming?" I remind you that you can pick up a sentence or two, and then I ask, "What's coming?" "I'll remind you two more words, a short nursery rhyme that would otherwise require me to remind you several times. And then when I ask you to write words with the teacher's video again, you don't have to look at it at all, and then when you perform again, you can't remember the words and ask your mother "what's coming", if I don't remind you anymore to let you think about it yourself, you simply don't say it, pout your mouth and run to the side to make trouble. In this way, every time you return to class, it will take a long time and make a little unpleasant.
I thought about it and thought that the solution to this problem was to "change passive to active" .
I had a good talk with you.
I said, "Chang Chang, do you still like to learn eloquence?" If you don't want to learn, you tell your mother, we won't go in the future. ”
Chang Chang: "I want to go." ”
Me: "Why did Chang Chang learn eloquence?" ”
Chang Chang: "Learn the skill, get the award." ”
Me: "Well, it's great for the baby to want to learn skills, so can your mother tell you two stories of learning skills?" ”
Chang Chang: "Good. ”
Me: "Do you remember the time your mother recited The Four Seasons of Childhood?" Mom practiced over and over again at home do you remember? Oh, of course you remember, you also secretly memorized three paragraphs while your mother was practicing! Haha you little clever ghost! Didn't Mom recite well on TV in the end?
It was a pleasure to listen to.
Me: "Baby remember the video of your brother dancing in the street that your mother showed you?" Do you know how your brother learned this skill?
Chang Chang tilted his head and waited for the answer: "How did my brother learn?" ”
Me: "My brother started practicing when I was your age, practicing one action many times, falling down and getting up to practice again, falling down and getting up and practicing again." ”
Chang Chang repeated: "Fall down and get up and practice again."
I said, "Yes, we have to practice eloquence over and over again, right?" Well, Chang Chang just said that he had to learn the skill, right? So now you decide, what time of day to practice? How long do you practice? ”
Chang Chang entered a very serious state, thinking while saying, "Well, OK, practice every night before eating, practice - half an hour." ”
Me: "Well, listen to you! However, I think that half an hour is too long, Chang Chang and his mother will be very tired, in fact, as long as Chang Chang practices seriously, ten to fifteen minutes is enough. You tell me? ”
Chang Chang: "Good! Just ten to fifteen minutes. ”
We clapped our hands and ended the conversation happily.
Before dinner the next day, I saw that you couldn't remember it for a while, so I reminded: "Chang Chang, what did you decide yesterday?" "Oh, Mom, let's start practicing back to class now." I rejoiced and said, "Good! ”
Your performance is obviously different from the past, standing there directly into the state, the first time, or need your mother to give a reminder, you habitually do not want to come a second time, but the emotion is not so strong, I quickly said: "Come, let's set a time on the phone, how long is it yesterday?" "Ten or fifteen minutes, Mom, set twenty minutes." I said, "Okay, listen to you, but we might be able to do it in ten minutes with serious practice." Do you need to watch Vivi's teacher video again now? "Look," you said and sat down next to me, and took the phone from my hand to yours, clicking on the teacher's video to look at it seriously. I was stealing fun in my heart again, because I used to hold the phone, you looked at it twice and ran to play, I asked you to come and see it again, this time you can see that you are actively watching the video, I know that the effect you watched should be good.
Sure enough, you listened intently to watch the video and handed me your phone and said, "Mom, do it again." "This time I photographed you who are seriously performing, both words and actions are very careful, and in the end there is only one place that I did not remember. I express my regret and encourage you to say that you will definitely not be reminded at all. You performed it a third time and finally finished it.
I applauded you and showed you the time, and it only took five minutes! You were so happy that you danced there, and I hit the iron while it was hot and said, "I found that Chang Chang was very serious, and each time it was better than the previous one, look, I completed the task in five minutes!" Maybe it'll be done in four minutes tomorrow! Thank you for saving mom's time, I can do something else now, you can also go play! ”
Mother's conclusion: Respecting the child and giving the child appropriate autonomy will launch the child's own internal drive, and when the child becomes passive to active, many troubles will be solved.
【About the Author】Liu Zhimin, a teacher at chiping District Experimental Middle School in Liaocheng City, Shandong Province, a member of the Liaocheng Writers Association, and the deputy secretary-general of the Chiping District Writers Association, loves literature, likes to read, and loves life. Confession of literature: For many years of fighting with this world, I feel that I am still glorious and interested, only because of you- literature, thank you for not abandoning, red dust has you, I am not alone. His collections of essays, "Every Step Counts," and "Hey! Little Man".