Essay | Liu Zhimin: The Growth of the Little Devil (VII) - Apology

The Growth of a Little Devil (VII)

- Apologies

Text/Liu Zhimin

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After picking you up from school in the afternoon, I met Yang Zhenye in the community square, he was standing there with his mother playing bubble blowing, you ran to Yang Zhenye and reached out and snatched the bubble tube, I immediately stopped you: "Chang Chang, it is not right to grab things, if you want to play, you should consult with Zhenye." "You didn't react to my words and started playing with the bubble tube." Seeing the situation, I quickly said to Zhenye, who was robbed: "Zhenye, let Chang Chang play for a while, is your bubble good?" Are you two going to play together? "Thanks to Zhenye is a generous child, he said yes, so you two play together."

You two take the bubble tube for a while, one blows bubbles, one chases bubbles, and you play very well. But playing, for some reason you two chased up and ran, it was Zhenye chasing you, you held the bubble tube in your hand, Zhenye ran fast, a moment to catch up with you, as if you did not want to give the bubble tube to Zhenye, so you raised your arm to throw the bubble tube out, I and Zhenye's mother ran over to see, the bubble tube broke, the bubble water spilled on the ground. I criticized you and asked you to apologize to Zhenye, but not only did you not listen, but you were still there. Seeing that Zhenye was about to cry, I quickly said: "Zhenye, I'm sorry, Chang chang broke your bubble tube, he didn't do it right, aunt apologized for Chang Chang for you." "Zhenye's mother said that it was all right, small toys, broken, I bought him another one." I only remembered to go to the commissary to buy another one for Zhenye, Zhenye's mother of course did not let me buy the meaning, I insisted on paying. Of course, it costs a lot of money, but it is not a matter of money, I hope to stop making Zhenye sad, and second, I hope to let you know that what damages others need compensation. I didn't say anything to you when I did these things, because you were still preventing me from buying zhenye, and I know that you don't know your mistake yet.

When I got home, I had a good talk with you.

I said, "Chang Chang, you broke Zhenye's bubble tube, how come you are still angry?" ”

You pout your mouth and don't speak, and I know you have something in your heart that you can't express.

I pulled you over and took you in my arms, and you cried wow, and I waited for you to vent your emotions.

After a while, I said, "Why did Chang Chang throw that bubble tube and tell her mother?" ”

You didn't speak.

I said again, "Does Chang Chang still want to play with that bubble tube and don't want to give it back to Zhenye?" ”

You nod.

"Then Chang Chang should give Zhenye a discussion at this time about whether he can let you play for a while, you can say: 'Wait for me to play for a while and then give it to you?' ”

"Hmm." You're listening.

I went on to say, "It's not right for you to throw away the bubble tube, you think, if your toy is thrown away by other children and broken, will you be sad?" Then you broke Zhenye's toy, Zhenye will also be sad, do you see him crying? Baby, if you break someone else's things, you have to do two things: one is to apologize, and the other is to make compensation. Mom bought a bubble tube for Zhenye again, just to help you compensate, now, should Changchang apologize to Zhenye on the mobile phone? ”

You seem to understand, but you are embarrassed, or you may not know how to apologize.

So I said, "Baby, let's make a game first." Now, I'm a kid too, we play together, I have a toy in my hand, you want to play, you can say to me: 'Let me play with your toy for a while okay?' ’”

You start with a very small voice, I encourage you, you slowly and naturally become generous, you say: "Let me play with your toys for a while okay?" I said, "Good." "I handed you the toy, and you're happy." After a moment, I said, "If you ask me for a toy and I say no, what do you do?" You say, wow, forget it, I'm going to play something else. "Come, give it a try. You said it smoothly.

Then, I said, let's pretend it's your toy, I broke your toy and see what I do. I threw the toy out of the way, and then, with an angry look, stood up and turned around and came back and said, "I'm sorry, Changchang, I shouldn't have broken your toy." ”

Below, replace it with you breaking my toy and you apologize.

This time, you did it naturally.

At the end of the game, I opened Zhenye's mother's WeChat and said to you, now, do you apologize to Zhenye?

You were very happy and agreed with a serious expression, so you used the WeChat voice function to say: "Yang Zhenye, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have broken your toy." ”

Under my guidance, you said again: "I will learn to share later, and when we have time, we will play together again." ”

When your aunt received the message, she praised you, and you replied, "Thank you aunt." ”

Mother's Conclusion: Usually, young children do not realize that they have done something wrong because they do not know what to do, especially when they have done something wrong and cry, because they seem to perceive something that is not smooth and do not know how to express it. In this way, we should give the child understanding, and then give him the guidance of the correct way, let them vent their suffocating emotions, and then slowly learn what to do.

【About the Author】Liu Zhimin, a teacher at chiping District Experimental Middle School in Liaocheng City, Shandong Province, a member of the Liaocheng Writers Association, and the deputy secretary-general of the Chiping District Writers Association, loves literature, likes to read, and loves life. Confession of literature: For many years of fighting with this world, I feel that I am still glorious and interested, only because of you- literature, thank you for not abandoning, red dust has you, I am not alone. His collections of essays, "Every Step Counts," and "Hey! Little Man".