Author | Inspector (2122 words, about 4 minutes to read)
"If you don't teach, it's the father's fault."
The growth of children is inseparable from the education of parents, and "teaching" is more important than "raising". If you do not educate early and do not attach importance to education, then it will be too late to wait until the child really makes a big mistake, and then think about education or even redeem the mistake.
There are not a few "bear children" around us, why are there more and more children who "don't know the height of the sky" appear?
One of the important reasons is the connivance and excessive doting of parents.
The child obviously made a mistake and needs to bear the corresponding consequences or take the initiative to apologize, but it is a parent's sentence "He is still a child, what do you know?" To straighten out the child, the child has the "protection" of the parents, and the nature "releases the nature" and "does whatever it wants".
However, there must be rules for doing anything on any occasion.
People will not be held accountable because the child is small, but will be because of the child's fault, and the impression of his parents will be greatly reduced, and there will be some doubts about their education methods.
★When the 5-year-old baby was queuing up for nucleic acid, she slipped into the skirt of the girl
Recently, a video caused a heated discussion among netizens, a nucleic acid test site in Shenzhen, everyone was queuing in an orderly manner, suddenly, a little boy of about 5 years old, suddenly drilled into the skirt of a woman in front of him, in an instant, the woman's face was discolored, screaming loudly, and the boy quickly pushed away and covered his skirt.
The people present, apparently shocked by the woman's voice, were also shocked by the boy's voice after seeing the boy being "kicked out".
Some people think it is a child's "prank" and laugh it;
There are also people who think that children are deliberate, without tutoring.
After the boy came out, he looked around and did not feel that there was anything wrong with his behavior, but instead smiled happily and narrowed his eyes into a slit, a "how, I am strong" posture.
This behavior of the boy instantly triggered a heated discussion among netizens:
"I feel that this child should be hiding cats and cats, not intentionally, go home to educate, and you should understand it later, after all, the child's nature is to play, there is no malice."
"If that girl hadn't worn a skirt, wouldn't this have happened?"
"No matter how some children are educated, they will still be very naughty and disobedient, so that children who are born bad are not well educated." If his parents could educate well and manage it, the 5-year-old age would not have committed such unreasonable behavior. ”
Children's greed is not an excuse, girls wearing skirts is not the reason for children to make mistakes, adults are not correct in their three views, how can children not make mistakes?
And the child makes a mistake, but the adult blindly blames the other party, thinking that the other party did not protect themselves. Then the woman is obviously hurt, but she can't apologize and understand, and this upside-down black and white cognition is undoubtedly ruining the child's future.
▼ Is the baby too small or too ignorant?
Although this child is still young, but by his age, he can completely distinguish the opposite sex, and he should also be taught to respect the opposite sex and the rules of the system that need to be observed in public. However, this series of his behaviors is completely inconsistent with his age.
Is the child too young? According to his age, it seems that he is about 5 years old, in the preschool stage, should receive the education he deserves, in fact, he is no longer a "child", a "little man". It should be understood that you can't casually touch the opposite sex, let alone touch women's skirts, so his behavior has caused everyone to be surprised.
● The child's ignorance stems from the adult's negligence.
In public, adults should take good care of their children, do a good job as guardians, and tell them what behaviors are resolutely not to do, especially when participating in some group activities.
This "ignorant" act of the child is obviously avoidable, and it is precisely because of the indulgence and neglect of adults that some situations have occurred.
▼ Children have a strong memory
The reason why many women are very angry about this incident is also because although the child looks small, his memory has been formed, and even after adulthood, he will remember what happened when he was a child.
Many parents will think that "children are still young, and some of the pictures and things they see and experience now will be forgotten when they grow up." "But in fact, he remembers everything.
Children's memory from the age of 3 slowly formed, some things, their memory time is relatively short, but for them interested or stimulated by some kind, then this picture will be printed in the mind, memory time will be extended.
Many adults can also clearly recall an incident or a certain picture and clip that happened when they were 5 or even 4 years old, so now many women will resist similar phenomena such as "mothers take their sons to women's bathhouses" and "boys go to public places of the opposite sex" to protect their rights and dignity.
When this 5-year-old boy grows up, he recalls how he felt when he went to the bottom of the girl's skirt. Is it regret? Is it shy? Is it proud? Or are you proud? Whatever the mood:
●The most important thing is the guidance and education of parents.
If the parents go home at that time and teach the children to respect others, then the children will understand their own faults and slowly correct them later; if the parents turn a blind eye and do not pay attention to it, then once the child develops with nature, how to be happy and how to come, and finally it is likely to make a big mistake without knowing it.
▼ Small mistakes are left unchecked, and they will become more intense in the future
There is a saying that "steals oil when you are small, steal cattle when you are big." ”
Although making a small mistake when you are young does not have any big consequences, if the parents do not discipline in time and do not tell the child how wrong and what should not be done, then the child cannot form the correct three views, and it is likely to continue to act according to his own wrong understanding, then when he grows up, the probability of making a big mistake will increase greatly.
● When going out, the child's words and deeds represent the quality of tutors and parents.
Parents should fulfill their duties, take good care of their children, abide by the rules and regulations, respect others, have good intentions, and set a good example for their children, then the children will naturally have a bright future, otherwise, once they make a big mistake in adulthood, they will eventually have to pay for their actions, because parents cannot protect their children for a lifetime.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
"Small children" is not an excuse for them to make mistakes, not to mention the premise of parents to evade responsibility, children may be young, but their thinking is gradually maturing, their memory points are gradually forming, parents should use an objective, adult perspective to educate children, tell them that it is right and wrong, rather than blindly conniving.
I hope that parents will no longer treat their children as just a "little child", and do not make a big mistake in the end, harm their children's lives, and let themselves be remorseful.
Parents, how do you see this child's behavior?
(Image from the Internet)