Lu Qi said in "Love Needs Stop Loss":
"In this world, you get what you want. If you get something you don't want, you have to throw it away in time, otherwise you will get more and more wrong. ”
It is true that in this world, not everything will develop in the way we envision, and not all efforts will have results.
Falling in love with someone who is doomed to no chance is like holding a cactus, and the tighter you hold it, the more painful it will be.
As you get older and experienced, I want you to understand:
No matter how much you like some things, they are not really yours; some people are doomed to give up no matter how much you linger.
Those who are doomed to lose their connections, just break the connection.
When you forget the person you shouldn't love, you will make room for the person who deserves to be loved, and better love the person you should love.
Humble, can't touch people who don't love you
In the movie "Love Wireless Pull", it is said:
"Love is not something we actively choose, and it doesn't develop the way we expect it to."
Love has always been like this.
If a person doesn't care about you, then it is useless for you to deliberately appear next to him, even if you hold the best thing in front of him, he will not even look at him.
I once watched a video like this on the Internet:
A girl can't help but fall in love with a man.
In order to be able to make men fall in love with herself, she will remember all the preferences of men;
As long as the man asks her for help, she will push away everything on call;
And in order to celebrate the man's birthday, she will spend half a month preparing gifts.
But what women do does not make men have the slightest warmth for her.
Not only was her attitude still cold, but even the woman gave him a gift, and he turned around and gave it to other women.
Emotion expert Tu Lei said:
"Everything in this world is not a point of hard work and a harvest, especially love, you have a thousand points of hard work, you may not have half a point of harvest, because love is so wonderful." 」
In feelings, it is not that you lower your body and make yourself humble to the dust, you can move a person.
Because, if a person really loves you, then he will not bear to see you humble.
And when the other person doesn't love you and doesn't care about you, then he will turn a blind eye to everything you do to him.
Attachment will only hurt yourself
Perhaps, many people who are caught in deep affection, because they are unwilling to treat love, will always think that as long as they insist on it a little more, as long as they do not give up, then they will definitely pay off.
But in fact, your persistence can only move yourself in the end, blindly obsessing over it, which will only delay yourself.
In the TV series "Only to Meet You at That Moment", Su Mo studied abroad for some practical reasons, betraying his relationship with Shao Mingze.
Many years later, Su Mo returned to China, but by this time Shao Mingze had already restarted a relationship and had a favorite person again.
In the face of Shao Mingze falling in love with others, Su Mo was particularly "hateful" in his heart.
And because of hate, she became psychologically twisted, not only blindly looking for trouble for Shao Mingze, but also repeatedly hurting Lin Xiangan, who truly loved herself.
In this way, because of her obsession, she did not let Shao Mingze change her mind, and almost lost the man who had always loved herself and cared for herself.
Writer Susan Foward once said:
"What brings a relationship to a tragic end is attachment."
Treat the person who is doomed to no luck, the relationship that is doomed to not go back to the past, don't entangle.
Because in the end, you will find that you are no longer living with things, but with yourself.
The more perseverance, the more bloody the head is broken.
Only when you know how to break the connection and learn to withdraw, then it is the most decent and the best ending for others and themselves.
People who have no luck, disconnected, are stop losses in time
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said:
"I didn't miss you very deliberately, because I knew that when I met, I should be grateful, and when I passed, I needed to let go." 」
Every encounter in a person's life is caused by fate, and so is separation.
When a relationship is doomed to be fruitless, then what you have to do is not to be grumpy, let alone entangled.
Instead, he knew how to turn decisively and go to the next station.
You must know that when you treat the wrong things and persist, you can only make yourself wrong again and again, and only by quickly cutting through the chaos and ending the mistakes can you regain happiness.
The rest of your life is still long, and when dealing with people who are doomed to no luck, choose to break the link and let it go.
Believe that whether you're good or bad, there's always someone waiting for you not far away forever.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.