When it comes to feelings, there are always some people who are particularly paranoid, and they are still persistently entangled in the case of knowing that the other party does not love themselves.
In their hearts, they will feel that the other party does not love themselves, just because they have not given enough.
As long as you lower your posture, as long as you pay all your sincerity, then one day you will move the other party.
But the reality is that the person you want to see when you trek through mountains and rivers in your feelings will not remember you at all, he will only remember the people he has seen after trekking through mountains and rivers.
Heard a quote:
"Falling in love with someone who doesn't love you is like holding a cactus, and the tighter you hold it, the more painful it will be."
The twisted melon is not sweet, blindly persistent, will only bury their own good time in vain.
So, if the other party doesn't love you, then what you have to do is not to entangle, but to turn around in time and stop loss in time.
Entanglement cannot be loved
Emotion expert Tu Lei said:
"Everything in this world is not a point of hard work and a harvest, especially love, you have a thousand points of hard work, you may not have half a point of harvest, because love is so wonderful." 」
Indeed it is.
In a relationship, it is never that the more you give, the more humble you please, the more the other party will love you.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A man can't help but fall in love with a girl.
In order to make the girl fall in love with himself, the man will send the girl a loving breakfast every day, and will wait early at the door of the girl's company to pick her up when she leaves work.
But in the end, the girl came together with another person.
The man was very upset about this, and then asked the girl: "Does he have me to be good to you?" Have I loved you like that? Why would you choose him? ”
Faced with the man's three consecutive questions, the girl only replied with one sentence, that is, "Because I love him." ”
Just five words, it is better than all the hard work of men, although it is heartfelt, but this is the reality of feelings.
When he loves you, then you don't have to work hard, you don't have to pester, you don't even have to do anything for him, he's coming to you.
And when he doesn't love you, then it's useless for you to deliberately appear next to him, the sugar you send him is not sweet, you are every three to five, what are you doing, in his eyes and the nature of the sales text message is the same.
Those who don't get it, don't wait any longer; if you don't have a hot heart, don't be stubborn anymore.
Because in the end, you will find that all your entanglement with someone who does not love you can only turn into a joke in the end.
Entanglement will only bitter yourself
Writer Susan Foward once said:
"What brings a relationship to a tragic end is attachment."
In the relationship, forcibly pandering to a person is like wearing a pair of shoes that do not fit the size, which will only grind the feet red and swollen.
Truly good feelings never need to be flattered or pleaded.
And, in the face of a person who does not love you, the more perseverance you are, the more you will eventually break your head and bleed.
In the TV series "Only to Meet You at That Moment", Su Mo has always been deeply in love with Shao Mingze, but due to some external reasons, Su Mo left Shao Mingze to go abroad alone.
Many years later, Su Mo returned to China, but at this time, Shao Mingze already had someone he liked, and Su Mo still couldn't let go of Shao Mingze in his heart.
In order to be able to save Shao Mingze's heart, Su Mo not only constantly pestered, but also became extreme.
Ultimately?
In the end, not only did shao Mingze not change his mind, but also hurt the heart of his boyfriend Lin Xiang'an, and let himself be tormented and tortured.
Lu Qi said in "Love Needs Stop Loss":
"In this world, you get what you want. If you get something you don't want, you have to throw it away in time, otherwise you will get more and more wrong. ”
Getting a relationship is never about entanglement and humility.
If the other party does not love you, then even if you do everything in your power, you will not let the other party have a little more tenderness for you.
On the contrary, the other party's indifference and desperation will only make your heart like dry grass, withering and decaying day by day, and in the end it will only be you who will suffer.
Never pestering someone who doesn't love you
There is a saying:
"There are some things that you like no matter how much you like them, and they don't really belong to you; some people are destined to give up no matter how much you linger." 」
A person should have the most basic pride in his or her life, both men and women.
When he doesn't love you, then you have to understand that in the end, you can only humble yourself and get no benefit.
Not only can you not make someone who does not love you fall in love with you, but even if it is a touching look, the other party will not give you.
In this world, everyone deserves to be loved, cherished, and pampered.
You have to believe that whether you are good or bad, there is always someone who will always wait for you. And only if you forget the person you shouldn't love, will you make room for the person who deserves to be loved, and better love the person you should love.
For the rest of your life, never dwell on the person who doesn't love you, but know how to turn around decisively.
As you move forward, you will discover new landscapes.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.