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In this world, although people are independent individuals, as long as they live, they will have social interactions, the difference is that some socialization is useful, and some socialization is useless.
What we have to do is to value useful socialization and abandon useless socialization.
Objectively speaking, a person's success and failure have a lot to do with the people around them.
The near Zhu is close to the ink and the black is the truth.
In our lifetime, the influence of those around us is really too important.
Many people especially like to make friends, thinking that one more friend will have one more road, but in fact, it is not, making friends requires never quantity, but quality.
Even if you have a lot of friends around you, but you don't really treat you, even if you have few friends around you, if you can communicate with you, then doing things will achieve double the effect with half the effort.
Ineffective social networking is really useless, and really smart people have given up on these two invalid social networks, and I hope you are too.
01: The three views are different and each is an alliance
The most distant distance in the world is not the distance between the mountains and the sea, but the distance of the three views, although they are close at hand, but they think completely differently from each other.
We can't say who's right or who's wrong, because there's no right or wrong at all.
If the three views are not compatible, if you have to force each other, you can only sacrifice yourself for perfection, and if you can't stand it, you will become a familiar stranger.
With others, we seek happiness, if happiness is gone, what else to talk about getting along with?
This point is deeply understood by his friend Wang Ning.
Wang Ning is a particularly positive person, when encountering things, the first thing he thinks of is the good side, but he has a friend who is not like this, always complains when encountering things, and sees the bad side.
At first, Wang Ning also advised the other party, hoping that he could relax his mind and not just look at the bad side of things, otherwise it would be particularly painful, but later he found it completely useless.
For example, every day at work, Wang Ning is particularly happy, after getting up in the morning, he feels that it is a day full of vitality, after a day's work, he feels too happy to return home.
It was a wonderful feeling to have delicious meals and to have a home away from home.
On the other hand, friends, do not think so, every day up is particularly uncomfortable, feel that there is no freedom at work, do not feel happy, back home feel particularly depressed.
Despite the delicious meals and the warm home, he couldn't see it at all and felt that he was the unluckiest one.
In this way, Wang Ning slowly alienated the other party.
When talking about this matter, Wang Ning sighed:
"The three views of people are really too important, and people with the same three views feel happiness, and people who are different from the three views can only feel pain."
I especially agree with Wang Ning's words, in general, people with similar interests will naturally resonate; people with the same three views will naturally be able to communicate better.
Never try to melt into a circle that doesn't belong to you, even if you melt in hard, you can't feel happiness, you can only feel pain.
At any time, you must know that the best way not to belong to your circle is to stay away, and only by staying away can you better embrace your own happiness.
Really smart people do not force the different circles of the three views, and they feel that instead of wasting time, they should spend more time looking for happiness and looking for people who have the same three views as themselves.
02: Circles of inconsistent words and deeds should be left early
Getting along with positive people can achieve positive results, and getting along with negative people can only achieve negative effects.
Circles that match words and deeds will make a person grow better, and circles with inconsistent words and deeds will only harm a person.
Maybe you are a positive person, but if your friend is not, then once the time is long, you may also become another person, and when you regret it, it will be too late.
Friend Wang Juan is especially glad that she and her girlfriend broke off the relationship, otherwise she may not be able to succeed in the graduate school now.
At that time, when she broke off relations with her girlfriend, Wang Juan was also particularly uncomfortable in her heart, although it was very uncomfortable, but she knew that she had to do it.
A girlfriend is a person who does not act in words, and the plans she makes are always not implemented well, and if you ask her why she is like this, she will have a bunch of reasons waiting for you.
For example, some time ago, Wang Juan and she made an appointment to go to graduate school together, and at the beginning the two of them swore that they would not give up if they were not admitted, everything was fine, but after insisting on it for a while, the girlfriend did not do it.
She began to fish for three days and dry the net for two days, directly complaining that the examination was too painful, not only that, she also said that now the internal volume is so strong, even if she is admitted, it is also a worry to find a job in the future, rather than this, it is better not to take the exam.
During that time, the girlfriend always brought negative energy to Wang Juan, at first Wang Juan directly ignored it, but after a long time, her heart would inevitably waver, she knew that this would not work, and she had to think of a way as soon as possible.
After thinking about it, Wang Juan had to black out her girlfriend, she knew that it might not be appropriate to do so, but there was no way to do it for the sake of examination, if she was allowed to influence herself again, basically there would be no good result.
In this way, after the noise of her girlfriend, Wang Juan went all out, she knew how difficult it was to study for graduate school, so she did not dare to have the slightest slackness, and could only insist desperately.
She couldn't remember how many lonely days and nights she had spent, nor how much she had given, but when she saw the results, she felt that everything was worth it, and she finally got in and realized her dream.
Talking about this matter, Wang Juan was really full of emotions, she said:
"If you don't put your mind into it and continue to be in this circle, then there really won't be such an outcome."
Now Wang Juan is particularly open to the circle, and she feels that there is really no need to keep the circle that does not help her growth, because this will not only not help herself in the slightest, but will hurt herself.
In fact, this is the case, some circles we are a waste of time, want to quit and feel embarrassed, if you do not quit, the pain can only be yourself.
People live in this world, they have to be responsible for themselves, and they understand the importance of circles.
Associate with excellent people and strive to realize the value of their lives, rather than associating with people who have been complaining and feeling that they are unlucky when they are not born, otherwise they will only harm themselves.
In the days to come, I hope that each of us will understand the importance of the circle, know what circles can be mixed and what circles cannot be mixed, and strive to do ourselves well.
Only in this way will your life path not be too bad.
Encourage with the King!
About the Author:
Su Xiaobei, a young emotional writer and marriage counselor, focuses on marriage recovery and intimate relationship repair.