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Retired, idle, nosy.
It seems that after many people retire, they will become more enthusiastic, visit the door more often, chat more opportunities, go shopping, and like to call friends and lead companions.
In fact, good days are light. Leaving the workplace means not only freedom, but also "giving in and resting." Leave the big stage of the world to young people and stand on their own.
The writer Su Qian once said: "True alienation always loves to wear warm clothes; true enthusiasm, but always a estranged outfit." ”
Obviously, if you are too enthusiastic about the following things, you will hurt others and hurt yourself, so it is better to "turn a blind eye" and stay out of the matter.
02
The right and wrong of the original unit, do not inquire, are all over the clouds.
During the Song Dynasty, Wang Anshi served as prime minister, and Su Dongpo served as an errand boy in the Hanlin Temple. The two people's views are different, so there are many contradictions. The chancellor Lu Huiqing was jealous of Su Dongpo's talent and secretly provoked relations.
Su Dongpo has been degraded many times and is inextricably linked to Wang Anshi. Supposedly, the two of them were wrongdoers.
After Wang Anshi retired to Jiangning, Su Dongpo went to Changzhou to take up his post and specially visited him.
The two men drank wine and talked and traveled to Zhongshan together, putting aside all their grievances.
Later, Su Dongpo wrote a letter, saying: "Gao Youjin Shi Qin Guan is too vain... It's not easy to come by. May the public borrow less teeth and teeth, so that the weight will be gained in the world, and there is no hope for anything else. ”
With the help of Wang Anshi's name, the reader Qin Guan was elected, and Su Dongpo's idea was very good. But Wang Anshi refused, saying, "Hearing that Qin Jun has learned the most wonderful way, is it not to laugh at my and Gong's hobbies?" ”
There is a way, not in its place, not in its own government.
Man, to know the advance and retreat, to understand the sophistication of people. In the workplace, people have not left, and the tea is cold first. If you want to focus on workplace matters, you don't have to.
The original old colleagues occasionally get together, but it is only a kind of human care, it is to give up the past grievances, drink a glass of wine, let the heart be relieved, not to let yourself have any connection with the workplace.
If you retire for a few years and then go to the original unit, you will find that many colleagues have left, and all you see are strange faces, how can you "mingle together"?
If someone mentions the original unit in front of you, you will probably be interested, but you have to stay calm, don't inquire, don't prove the authenticity, you just have to laugh it off.
03
Let them deal with the quarrels of their children on their own, and learn to decentralize.
In your fifties, you may encounter the option of "taking a back seat". That is to say, you have not left the unit, but you have left the high position and have rarely cared about some major matters.
Give power to young people, and you'll be less stressed.
At home, you can't give up the position of "parent", but you must know how to put power down and let your children be in charge.
There is a way is, not home, do not know that chai rice oil salt is expensive. Only when the children are in charge can they truly feel the pressure of life and dare to shoulder the burden.
At the same time, the children will bring a lot of noise because of family chores and work troubles. As parents, you should learn to listen, but don't interfere too much, and don't make choices for your children.
In this world, even confidants can't really empathize, but just want to do everything they can to help. The relationship between parents and children is like a kite and a kite flyer, one to fly high and one to go far.
As a parent, give a heart to your children, and you can't forget the fact that "life is separated by a layer of skin".
Your enthusiasm for your children will make them very unfree. And because of the generation gap problem, the concept and opportunity are different. Parents' thinking is mostly outdated and cannot mislead their children.
For example, if a child wants to go to an online platform, the parents do not know anything, but also point fingers, which is obviously excessive; the children quarrel because of property, the parents must say justice, but can not force the children to accept.
The power of the "parents" has been lowered, and the parents have truly entered the stage of "raising the elderly".
04
The things that make a fortune, don't actively participate in, are all things outside the body.
The "principle of reciprocity" tells us that when we get something of equal value, we have to pay something of equal value. There is no such thing as a free gift.
Apply the "principle of reciprocity" to the matter of getting rich, and you will find that the wealth that people can get in this life is created by themselves, and others cannot help it.
Maybe you'll pick up a few bucks occasionally, but when you lose them, you'll lose a few bucks.
The people who tell you that "something can make a fortune" are not trying to help you, but are staring at your pension and wanting you to invest in him all the time. When it comes time for him to lose, you are the one who cushions your back.
After retirement, your greatest wealth is pension. As long as you are in good health, you are making money. Therefore, you should exercise more and learn more about the method of health maintenance, rather than buying any financial products, health care products, and not making major investments.
05
Young people's love, do not try to match or break up, respect "free love".
It is written in the "Spring Terrace": "Bondage is not a husband and wife." He was unwilling to marry reluctantly, and it was inevitable that the couple would turn against each other. ”
In ancient times, although marriage required the words of the concubine and the order of the parents, there was still room for maneuver, and some people would retire after being betrothed; after marriage, they would write a letter of resignation; and some people would remarry and remarry.
Now, we all encourage free love and help young people match, which is a reasonable thing to do, but over-enthusiasm will cause disgust.
Many people will get close to some elderly people after retirement, and everyone will talk about the situation of their children and hope that their children will get married as soon as possible. But children don't think so, they have their own opinions.
Helping the owner today to match, tomorrow going to the west house to explore the truth, such an approach is obviously the behavior of the "long-tongued woman". Tie the red line, point to the end.
There is a way, salty eat radish, light worry.
It is enough to make the marriage of children happier and happier, and the marriage of others should go with the flow.
06
Feng Jicai wrote in "Dusk is Poetry": "I like the state of confusion, I want to say goodbye, clouds and smoke cover, half asleep and half awake." The clearer and more beautiful the things of thought, the more vague and beautiful the things of vision. ”
When people reach dusk, the greatest sobriety is that they are quick in their thinking and confused in words and deeds. Only obscurity produces beauty.
Interpersonal communication, preferably, you don't bother me, I don't bother you.
Emotional interaction, preferably, gives seven points of warmth and leaves three points for yourself.
Family care, preferably, it is your right to make suggestions, and it is his decision to listen or not to listen.
For the rest of my life, watch people do things, as light as water.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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