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As the saying goes: a habitual child is like a killer.
It is an instinct for parents to love their children, but this kind of love needs to be placed within a reasonable category, and if parents develop love into coddling, then it is undoubtedly the opposite case of family education.
Speaking of the name "Yang Lijuan", many people will not be unfamiliar, because of the obsession with Andy Lau to the point of almost madness, she was jokingly called "the originator of star chasing" by netizens, and in order to help her daughter achieve her wishes, Yang Lijuan's father paid the price of his life.
Yang Lijuan's father's name is Yang Qinji, yang Qinji only ushered in a baby daughter at the age of 40, so he was very fond of his daughter and almost responded to every request.
Yang Lijuan has lived in the greenhouse supported by her father with love since she was a child, although this is a very happy thing for a girl, but because her father's love for her has reached the point of no principle, Yang Lijuan's personality has also become very willful.
The shortcomings of the daughter are just a kind of cute pampering in the eyes of the father, so even if Yang Lijuan puts forward some unreasonable and excessive requirements in life, the father will meet them one by one.
At the age of 16, Yang Lijuan had a dream about the star Andy Lau, which opened her 13-year crazy chase for Andy Lau.
Yang Lijuan told her father that Andy Lau was her true destiny and that she was going to Hong Kong to meet idols.
Generally speaking, for adolescent idol-obsessed girls, parents will rationally guide them, so that they can let go of unrealistic fantasies and put their minds back on learning.
But Yang Qinji made a surprising decision, he agreed to his daughter's request to drop out of school to chase stars.
As a father, Yang Qinji also knows that his daughter's obsession with idols is an obsession, so he thinks that if he wants his daughter to let go of her obsession, she only needs to meet her requirements.
In this way, Yang Qinji raised money for her daughter's dream, and Yang Lijuan did go to Hong Kong with the support of her father, but she did not meet Andy Lau, let alone get the opportunity to be alone with her idol.
Until Yang Lijuan was 27 years old, she was still running on the road of chasing stars.
The father could not bear to see his daughter disappointed, so he sold the house in the family to support her star chasing, and when the funds were not enough, he even thought of selling his kidneys.
In the end, Yang Lijuan's crazy star chasing attracted the attention of various media, under the arrangement of the media, she finally met Andy Lau briefly, but this side was still not enough, she wanted to continue to have further communication with the idol, but this request was rejected.
When the daughter told her father about her disappointment, the father who loved his daughter as he wanted to die spilled his anger on his daughter's idol, and in the end, he left a suicide note and jumped into the sea in despair, and his last wish was to let Hua Tsai come to see his daughter.
Her father's departure finally made Yang Lijuan wake up, and years of obsession finally came to naught, Yang Lijuan returned to her hometown with her mother after burying her father, and she personally burned all the posters and records about the idol.
Time flies, and now Yang Lijuan has passed the age of confusion.
In a show, she was interviewed by Lu Yu, Yang Lijuan said that after she put down her obsession with idols, she finally returned to a normal life, and now she lives in a rented house with her mother, and she works as a shopping guide in a supermarket, although the salary is not high, the life of the mother and daughter is still simple and stable.
Looking back on her past self, Yang Lijuan admits that she was too ignorant at that time, because of an unrealistic fantasy, she lost her father who loved her most, and she regretted it very much.
There is no doubt that the Yang Lijuan incident is a tragedy caused by star chasing.
But the main reason for this tragedy is not only Yang Lijuan's obsession, but also the parents' love for their children beyond the boundary, from promising their children to drop out of school to supporting their children to chase stars with their lives, in the eyes of ordinary people, Yang Lijuan's father's approach has the same madness as his daughter.
In fact, we do not deny the instinctive love of fathers for their daughters, but in the process of raising children, parents, as guardians and guides of children, must have their own principles.
If we lose our principles in loving our children and respond to all the unreasonable demands of our children, then eventually we will taste the bitter fruit of coddling.
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