Yang Lijuan, a 16-year-old girl, launched a crazy chase for Andy Lau for more than ten years just because of the fate of one side of the dream, and finally not only lost her youth, but also caused her father to commit suicide by jumping into the sea, and her family was ruined, and the tragic price was regrettable.
Now that she has returned to her ordinary life, she seems to have let go of her obsessions, but her life trajectory has long been rewritten by her past star-chasing experience. What is the regrettable life of this post-80s girl?
Photo of Yang Lijuan and Andy Lau
A dream that starts a crazy road to star-chasing
Yang Lijuan was born in an ordinary working family in Lanzhou, Gansu Province, and her parents gave her meticulous doting, providing this only daughter with a very superior material life.
When she was 16 years old, a meaningful dream changed Yang Lijuan's life, in the dream, she saw a portrait of Andy Lau hanging on the wall, and the words on both sides of the painting read, "You are especially close to me, you meet me in true love".
Yang Lijuan recalled the plot in the dream
After waking up, Yang Lijuan had an indescribable heartbeat in her heart, she told her father about this dream, and her father actually said that she had the same dream. For a while, the Yang family firmly believed that this was a marriage destined by God, so a 13-year star-chasing road officially began.
In order to meet Andy Lau, the first thing Yang Lijuan did was to drop out of school, she focused all her energy on chasing stars, did not study, worked, did not socialize, and only had her parents and Andy Lau in her life.
Yang Lijuan's family chases stars
In order to go to Andy Lau's concert, she did not hesitate to go back and forth between Hong Kong and Beijing, and her home was full of Andy Lau's records. When asked "Who is more important, Andy Lau or his parents", Yang Lijuan replied firmly: "Andy Lau is more important, I like him in this life, and it makes no sense to me to anyone."
"If I don't see Andy Lau, I will never marry" such paranoid remarks attracted widespread attention and discussion at the time.
In order to satisfy their daughter's wish to see idols, the Yang family's parents did not hesitate to give everything. They sold the property to raise money, and my father sold a kidney. When the money was spent, they went to loan sharks, and even fell to the point of begging for food for a time.
Yang Lijuan picture
At that time, Yang's father once said, "I will climb to Hong Kong to accompany her to see Andy Lau." In this process, Yang Lijuan's behavior has long exceeded the behavior of chasing stars, and it is not an exaggeration to describe it as "going crazy".
However, in the face of their daughter's almost crazy behavior, Yang's parents not only did not stop it, but kept accommodating her unreasonable demands, which eventually led to a big mistake.
Yang Lijuan picture
See the idol of your dreams
In March 2007, after many twists and turns, Yang Lijuan finally met Andy Lau in Hong Kong, and Andy Lau was participating in the event that day. Yang Lijuan and her father came to the scene a few hours in advance to wait, hoping to meet their idol.
Towards the end of the event, the organizer specially arranged for Yang Lijuan to take a photo with Andy Lau on stage, and when Yang Lijuan stood next to Andy Lau, she was overwhelmed with excitement.
Yang Lijuan and Andy Lau took a group photo
She held Andy Lau's hand tightly, trembling and unable to say a complete sentence, in front of the camera lens, Yang Lijuan looked at Andy Lau obsessively, her eyes showed adoration, just a few minutes of getting along, it had made her feel extremely satisfied.
However, this meeting did not end Yang Lijuan's road to stardom, she believes that she and Andy Lau are a destined pair, and just a group photo is far from enough.
Yang Lijuan's father
Yang Lijuan then proposed to have a private meeting with Andy Lau to express her love. This almost crazy request was rejected by Andy Lau's team.
Yang's father, who was already mentally broken, decided to commit suicide to force Andy Lau to agree to his daughter's request, and he left a 12-page suicide note, which was full of accusations against Andy Lau, and he believed that it was Andy Lau's indifference and ruthlessness that drove his daughter to a dead end.
If Andy Lau had agreed to meet Yang Lijuan earlier, perhaps there would not have been today's tragedy. He even asked the Hong Kong police to intervene and hold Andy Lau responsible for his death.
Yang Lijuan's father died
Yang's father's suicide note was quickly exposed by the media, causing a huge sensation, and for a while, the story of Yang Lijuan's family became our discussion. Many people are talking about what makes a girl chase stars so crazy that she forces her father to commit suicide.
For Yang Lijuan herself, almost all of her remarks came to reprimand her, thinking that she ruined the entire family. Overnight, Yang Lijuan was infamous as a "crazy illegitimate meal".
In the face of doubts and accusations, Yang Lijuan seemed at a loss. On the one hand, she has to deal with the blow of her father's suicide, and on the other hand, she has to bear the pressure of public opinion.
A suicide note left by Yang Lijuan's father
The intertwining of various contradictions made this fragile girl almost collapse, and she began to realize how much damage her actions had caused to her family.
However, the obsession with Andy Lau has been carved into the bone marrow, and it is impossible to get rid of it in a short period of time. The death of her father was like a hammer hitting Yang Lijuan's heart.
Interview with Yang Lijuan
She began to take a sober look at what she had done, realizing that she had pushed the whole family into a situation from which it would never recover. Feelings of guilt, self-blame, and pain came flooding in.
In order to fulfill her father's "last wish", she mustered up the courage to sue Andy Lau and demanded that the other party compensate 300,000 yuan for mental damages.
Andy Lau's attitude
Regarding the incident of Yang Lijuan, a "crazy fan", Andy Lau was deeply disturbed for a while. Yang Lijuan, who was only 29 years old at the time, dedicated almost her entire life to this idol star.
Yang Lijuan cried bitterly during the interview
And his father's suicide was undoubtedly a heavy blow, which not only caused Yang Lijuan's mental breakdown, but also made Andy Lau feel deeply pressured. This music superstar, who has always maintained his own image, is at a loss in the face of the fanatical pursuit of fans.
He was worried that Yang Lijuan would act more extremely, but he didn't want to be involved in such public opinion. Under the pursuit of the media, Andy Lau's psychological pressure is increasing.
Yang Lijuan appealed
During that time, Andy Lau stayed behind closed doors all day and refused to accept any interviews. He was deeply afraid that if he was not careful, he would give Yang Lijuan any "hope", which would cause more serious consequences.
Whenever he recalls Yang Lijuan's crazy appearance, he will feel extremely heartache and guilt. After all, as a public figure, he should be held accountable for his actions, even if the actions of this fan are completely out of his control.
Until 2010, when Yang Lijuan's lawsuit was completely lost, she thought that she had chosen this crazy road of chasing stars by herself and should take responsibility for her actions.
Andy Lau felt a little relieved, the shadow of this incident finally disappeared from his life, and he gradually walked out of the haze of depression. But Yang Lijuan's incident caused deep psychological trauma to him, and also made him more cautious about his fan base.
He regularly communicates with fans to understand their needs and demands. Whether online or offline, Andy Lau will try his best to meet the reasonable requirements of fans and make them feel important.
He said: "I understand what fans mean to celebrities, and I know that I have a responsibility to be an idol. So I'm going to treat them in a more gentle and considerate way. "
Awakening and decadence go hand in hand
Losing this last straw, Yang Lijuan completely collapsed, she seemed to wake up, returned to her hometown in Gansu, and closed her door. She was only 29 years old at the time, but she seemed to have aged a lot overnight. In the past, she was doted on by her parents, and she had to face all kinds of unsatisfactory life alone.
Yang Lijuan and her mother returned to their hometown in Gansu
Without her father's support, Yang Lijuan fell into deep self-blame, and after years of dropping out of school, she had nothing to do, so she could only do some odd jobs in the supermarket as packaging and cashiering, and lived a barely surviving life.
Whenever she sees her peers and friends who have started a family, she will always have a trace of sourness in her heart, if it weren't for the crazy star chase at the beginning, her life trajectory would not be so bumpy.
In those years, Yang Lijuan had a bad life, she was the only daughter of her parents, but now she has to bear the weight of life alone.
She was originally spoiled, but she seemed helpless and vulnerable in the face of all kinds of unsatisfactory life. That once glamorous face was often filled with a bitter look.
In 2014, in an interview, Yang Lijuan cried and said to the camera: "Dad, come back! Reading between the lines is full of self-reproach for the past.
She began to reflect on her behavior and realized that blindly obsessing with idols not only brought harm to her family, but also exhausted her youth.
Yang Lijuan's life is reconsidered
12 years have passed in a blink of an eye, Yang Lijuan is 45 years old, and the once dominant "Andy Lau fan" has disappeared for many years. Not long ago, the famous host Lu Yu made a special trip to visit her when she was recording the show, wanting to know the current situation of this legendary figure.
When the camera focused on Yang Lijuan again, I found that she had changed a lot. The baptism of the years has made her figure blessed, and her face has changed vicissitudes, and she is like the young girl back then.
She and her mother live in a rented house with an annual rent of less than 1,000 yuan. This only daughter, who was once pampered by her parents, now lives a poor life.
In order to make ends meet, Yang Lijuan had to work part-time in a supermarket. Every day when faced with goods, she always thinks of the days when she used to go shopping spree in the mall.
Now, with a monthly salary of only 2,000 yuan, she can no longer spend it at will, and the pressure of life makes her have to learn to be thrifty and make careful calculations for every penny.
In her spare time, Yang Lijuan participates in choir rehearsals, which is the only social activity in her life and a way to relieve her inner loneliness. In the singing, she seems to have found the peace and happiness that she has not seen for a long time. Music became the salvation of her life, allowing her to rediscover the meaning of existence.
When Lu Yu asked about the past of chasing stars, Yang Lijuan seemed very reluctant to mention it. Those crazy years have become an eternal pain in her heart.
Every time she thinks about it, she feels extremely regretful and guilty. "If I could do it all over again, I would never do it again." This sentence expressed the deep regret in her heart.
Today's Yang Lijuan has completely bid farewell to her former fanaticism, and she has begun to understand that the most important thing in life is not to chase the illusory star halo, but to manage the people and things around her. Although life is still difficult, she has learned to face it with a calm mind.
At the end of the interview, Yang Lijuan bowed deeply to the camera. "I am grateful for the past experience that I have learned to cherish. I am also grateful for my life now, which has made me understand what is really important." This once lost girl has finally rediscovered the direction of her life.
Yang Lijuan's story tells us that we must treat idols rationally and not dedicate all our body and mind to each other. Everyone has their own life, and only by pursuing it in a down-to-earth manner can we reap true happiness.