This morning, the news of Big S's marriage detonated social media.
The memory of the Internet seems to be still stuck in the storm of her divorce with Wang Xiaofei, and it did not happen, and the parties suddenly rewrote "history".
In this festival that encourages female strength and female independence, Big S announces the marriage of his friend Gu Junye, who has known him for more than 20 years, which is really symbolic.
Netizens sighed that "TV dramas don't dare to shoot like this", while witnessing the return of her "queen" - ignoring controversy, daring to love and dare to hate.
Interestingly, the current celestial phenomenon is also calling for us to live out the freedom and independence of love. Because Venus, which symbolizes emotional relationships, is located exactly 0 degrees in the constellation of Aquarius and merges with Mars.
Just two days ago, the goddess of love ended her 4-month journey in Capricorn to officially enter Aquarius and will remain until April 6.
Shocking love affair exposure, emotional relationships that do not play by the rules... From the events of the Big S, the influence of the Venus Aquarius, we can see it.
So, in the next 1 month, what kind of emotional and loving atmosphere will Venus entering Aquarius bring us? At the level of relationships, what should we pay attention to?
The seating of this maverick Venus, who advocates individuality and freedom, calls us not to attach ourselves to any external emotional standards, but also tortures our hearts – are you really independent or resist intimacy?
Because, love and freedom, can live up to both.
Those who love me in the world, try their best to hold me;
Your love is not like that, your love is much greater than theirs, and you set me free.
- Tagore, "Gitanjali"
When Venus, the god of love, enters Aquarius from Capricorn (and also away from Pluto), it seems to be freed from the "shackles" of stagnant and repressed reality, eager to show a more detached and unrestrained emotional aspect.
As the last wind sign of the ecliptic, Aquarius represents a highly developed mind, TA pursues the prosperity of spirit and thought, the independence and publicity of personality; is a like-minded group, all people are born free and equal; is friendly communication and the resonance of ideas...
Arguably, Aquarius is actually a very idealistic sign. This ideal tends to transcend the boundaries of the material world and touch a purer stream of consciousness (the symbol of Aquarius).
So if I were to label the love that Venus symbolizes in Aquarius, I think it would probably be the closest or best embodiment of "platonic love" to The Seat of Venus. Love is not satisfied with the combination of carnal desire and emotion, it needs sparks and resonance at the spiritual level.
This is why, in many astrological guides, Venus Aquarius is always considered to be looking for a lover who is "like a friend", because they focus on the "qinser and chime" of ideas and values. And an intimate relationship does not have to be "you and me" and "earburns".
Venus Aquarian love requires communication and similar interests, but it also needs to maintain a certain degree of independence and space.
Unfortunately, this nature of Aquarius is not entirely in line with Venus's need for intimacy and pleasure. Although this seat is different from the focus of Venus Capricorn, the emotional relationship it corresponds to is also very "cold".
In other words, Venus Aquarian love, while friendly, egalitarian, and stimulating and fresh, doesn't necessarily have to be truly engaged and truly emotionally connected. Often, in intimate relationships, this can also cause confusion and loss: is this independence a natural manifestation of love, or a means of avoiding intimacy?
This problem may also be the one we have to face and reflect on in the field of relationships in the 1 month that Venus entered the water bottle.
However, one of the precious things about the Venus Aquarius is sincerity, or authenticity. The love it highlights is less of an "idol plot" that needs to be glossy, or a vow that craves too many sweet words, material rewards, emotional attachments, and so on.
This kind of love is less intentional, and less concerned about what emotional standards and values the mainstream or others have adopted.
The love of Venus Aquarius will be loved because you are you. That is, for Venus Aquarius, love happens because outside of all the definitions of fame, class, status, nation, faith, etc., we are still the most unique but interconnected souls.
When such a soul finds another soul that is equally unique and willing to understand each other, the throbbing of the heart is possible.
That unique voice within you, your rebellion, your eclecticism, your unknown side... If there is a kind of love that wants to see you like this, it may be the love of Venus Aquarius.
On the most positive level, such a love will encourage you to bravely blossom into your true self in the relationship. It is not only the greatest reward for you, but also the love between you, the greatest reward.
Because, in the emotional realm of Venus Aquarius, love doesn't have to be bondage, love can give you freedom.
So, when Venus enters Aquarius, what kind of atmosphere and state will our relationships and emotions tend to take in the next 1 month?
First of all, Venus's love in Aquarius is not very conventional. So during this time, both personally and socially, we may experience or hear some unusual, shocking emotional events. For example, netizens "turned right" to become lovers, suddenly "called" acquaintances who did not feel before, met the old, or fell in love with new people at first sight, and so on.
During this time, our consistent attitudes and thoughts about relationships may also undergo a "180-degree" change, or we may want to make new attempts in the relationship and emotional spheres. In addition, during this time, the direction of relationships and feelings may also be difficult to predict or difficult to maintain a steady state, and some relationships may suddenly begin or end, or enter a new stage without preparation.
In interpersonal relationships, especially intimate relationships, this period of time, rather than physical and emotional closeness, we may pay more attention to the collision and spark of minds, or more eager to fight for some independent space. Therefore, this is often a period of active long-distance love, online dating, and remote contact, which may be a "cooling off period" for some people.
In addition, this is also a period of time when fraternity is emphasized. We will have more opportunities to connect with friends, communities, like-minded groups, organizations, etc., online and offline, meet new people, enter new circles, etc. In the process, many people may meet the object of their choice and further develop a more intimate relationship.
Because the emotions and values highlighted by Venus Aquarius are very personal, this means that at the personal and social levels, we will have more discussions and interpretations of relationships, marriage, and gender issues, among which more personal voices will be heard. It also means that sexual minorities may receive more attention during this time.
As mentioned earlier, Venus Aquarian love focuses on reality. Therefore, during this time, we may be more eager to be honest in the relationship, or to seek a more authentic emotional state, and to be more willing to speak or share the truth. Communicating objectively, clearly, and openly helps us solve problems in our relationships and relationships during this time.
Let my love envelop you like sunshine and give you radiance and freedom.
- Tagore's "The Flowing Fireflies"
Tip 1 Break the constraint,
Enjoy the moment of love
Celestial Signs: Venus, Mars combined with Aquarius
Key impact period: March 6 - March 17
Focus on the constellations: Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, Rising- Descending Axis in Aquarius, Taurus, Leo, Scorpio 0 degrees - 11 degrees.
The most passionate celestial phenomenon at present is none other than the combination of gold and fire. These two stars related to love, closely accompanied by Capricorn all the way, collided with Pluto at the end, and now, together, they have entered the constellation of Aquarius.
The combination of gold and fire will stimulate a strong emotional desire and tension. Therefore, during this time, our need for intimacy and love will be more intense.
When Golden Fire comes to Aquarius, we are more likely to experience the feeling of being "on top" in the realm of emotional relationships, especially when we meet new potential objects. However, this feeling may come and go quickly.
It seems more like a strong urge and longing than love. And how long it can last, and whether it is enough to support each other to actually enter a relationship, it is difficult to judge at this time.
Yet the combination of gold and fire in Aquarius originally calls on us to break the rules of reality.
After all, our culture has always implicated emotions with so many external rules and considerations that we often forget that the quality of a relationship does not depend on whether it seems stable or long enough, but on whether we truly enjoy every moment we are with each other.
Therefore, Aquarius also calls on us to be honest about our feelings. If we aspire to experience love and intimacy, this period is a good time to act courageously, to confess or end ambiguity.
Just don't expect too much from the vow of "eternity" at this time.
Tip2 Are you "pseudo-independent"?
Celestial Signs: Venus Quintile Uranus, Venus conjunction Saturn
Key impact periods: March 17 - March 21, March 27 - March 30
Focus on the constellations: Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, Rising-Descending Axis in Aquarius, Taurus, Leo, Scorpio 10 degrees - 13 degrees, 19 degrees - 22 degrees
As mentioned earlier, the Venus water bottle is an emotional landing with a "cold feeling". This feeling of coldness is not a Capricorn-style depression and slowness, but an emotional and emotional alienation - a sense of distance from intimacy.
During the 1 month that Venus is in the water bottle, this is an issue that we need to pay attention to.
In particular, when Venus leaves the union with Mars, it will form a hard phase with the two guardian stars of Aquarius, Saturn and Uranus, respectively, which makes the issue of intimate alienation at the relationship level, or "avoidance attachment", more prominent in the second half of Venus's entry into the Aquarius.
However, a glimpse of the mechanisms behind it may help us learn to develop truly healthy, independent emotional relationships.
The low desire for intimacy has long become a "cliché" of social networks. This brings me to one of the shadowed sides of the water bottle – pseudo-independence.
In a way, entering into an intimate relationship with another person means not only that we sacrifice a part of our selves and our freedom, but also that we need to step into a borderless realm of emotions and feelings that are beyond the control of the mind.
Love may be beautiful, but if we are accustomed to relying on reason, love is even more dangerous and unpredictable.
As the psychology describes the "avoidant attachment personality", behind people's avoidance of intimacy, it is not the resistance to intimacy itself, but the activation of a self-protective defense mechanism.
Because, if you don't feel it, you won't get hurt. We avoid stress in intimate relationships by showing indifference and indifference.
So we seem to be both independent and sober, emotionally "self-sufficient" and do not need others, but this independence is actually a false independence, because we are just closing ourselves off.
And a truly independent person does not resist intimacy.
Just like any healthy, mature relationship, you can both need each other and explore outward. It is based on the true willingness of two independent, but not isolated individuals, to express love and to be open to love.
It depends first and foremost on how much we are willing to open up to our true emotions and feelings, even if it is complex and changeable, fragile and sensitive, even if it will crush you, overpower you———— even if it will hurt you.
But without an open heart, it will not hurt. But an open heart will also become stronger because of love.