In the movie "Manslaughter", Li Weijie, played by Xiao Yang, and Ayu, played by Tan Zhuo, are an ordinary couple who live with their two daughters PingPing and An An.
The names of the children carry their full expectations of life. But instead, what should have been a peaceful life was completely shattered by a summer camp that Pingping attended.
PingPing is violated by Su Cha, the son of police chief La Yun, played by Chen Chong, and Su Cha goes to Ping Ping's house to provoke and want to invade Ping Ping again. Ayu and Pingping knocked Su Cha unconscious and buried him in the graveyard next to his home.
In order to protect his family, Li Weijie imitated the criminal methods in the movie, created alibi for his family, and escaped La Yun's retaliatory interrogation.
What impressed me the most in the whole movie was the confrontation between Ayu and La Yun, two mothers.
Ayu is Pingping's mother, La Yun is Sucha's mother, Pingping is violated by Sucha, Ayu and Pingping mistakenly injured Sucha in order to protect themselves, and Li Weijie let Sucha die in order to protect the whole family.
Ayu is both the mother of the victim and the one who hurts someone else's child.
La Yun is an indispensable police chief, and her husband is a politician, rich and powerful, rich and powerful. In the face of Ayu, she is a powerful police chief, and she is also a mother who has lost her child.
Mothers all want to protect their children, and in the face of Layun's aggressiveness, Ayu trembled and said the words, which made people unable to calm down for a long time. Ayu said, "Some children are children, and some children are beasts."
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Why do some children become beasts?
Why do some children become beasts? In Manslaughter, some clues can be found.
Sucha's parents were elite, and they provided Sucha with superior living conditions and "freedom" beyond ordinary people.
After all, his mother Layun is the police chief, and his father Du Peng is a candidate for mayor, and Sucha can call the wind and rain in the city where he lives.
Su Cha's birthday gift is a luxury sports car that ordinary people like Li Weijie can't afford to buy in their lifetime, he doesn't have to be cautious like Li Weijie, and he is careful everywhere, Su Cha himself is the representative of arrogance.
He blinded others, and his mother would take care of the aftermath for him, without even a word of accusation, and carefully bandaged the wounds on his hands.
Sucha was born with a golden spoon, he meets the definition of the rich second generation, and is accustomed to lawlessness. He became a beast in Ayu's mouth, mostly thanks to his parents.
Mom has no principle of doting, Dad is busy with government affairs and rarely disciplines, the most said words are to accuse Mom of spoiling him, and he has caused trouble for himself.
The younger the child, the more malleable it is.
If Su Cha first ran into trouble when he was a child, La Yun did not abuse his authority to help him settle the situation, Du Peng was not busy enough to take care of the children, he and La Yun told Su Cha that it was wrong to hurt others, and he should not do to others what he did not want, and he should bear the corresponding consequences.
Sucha will not go farther and farther on the arrogant road, more and more outrageous mistakes, and die young and die.
The Son does not teach, the Father's fault, the teaching is not strict, the Teacher is lazy. Inappropriate parenting by parents can lead children astray.
Parents' indulgence of their children and bottomless doting will make children vague in their views of right and wrong, not knowing what is right and what is wrong.
Children will only do things to make themselves happy, and will not want to do this right. Just like Pixel Cha, doing bad things at will, there is a mother cleaning up the mess anyway.
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The problem of the child is not entirely dependent on the parents
Some children have become beasts, there are still traces to follow, and some children have become beasts, but there is no answer.
In "The Distance Between Us and Evil", Li Xiaoming fired wildly with a homemade pistol in the movie theater, causing a tragedy of 9 deaths and 21 injuries, including Liu Tianyan, the son of Song Qiao'an, the editorial director of the news station played by Jia Jingwen.
Li Xiaoming's "indiscriminate killing" filled with righteous indignation, brought indelible pain to the victim's family, and made Li Xiaoming's family dare not live in the sun from then on.
Why did Li Xiaoming become like this? Wang Yu, a lawyer defending death row inmates, endured the people's incomprehension and only wanted to find answers.
Wang Yu actively contacted Li Xiaoming's parents and sister, went to the prison many times to see Li Xiaoming, and tried to persuade Li Xiaoming to accept a psychiatric evaluation, but he did all this just to find the answer.
But in the end, there was no truth, Li Xiaoming was executed early, and no one knew what Li Xiaoming would become like this?
In the face of public accusations, Li Xiaoming's mother said that the sentence was touching, "There is no father and mother in the whole world, it takes 20 years to train a murderer." ”
In 2016, there was a "small light bulb" incident in Taiwan. A 4-year-old girl, a small light bulb, was slashed and killed by a man while riding a bicycle, and her head was in a different place.
After the police investigation, it was found that the perpetrator had "schizophrenia", that is, "schizophrenia".
The little light bulb's mother witnessed the tragedy firsthand, and although she nearly collapsed, she did not respond to the people's call for the assailant to be killed immediately.
She said that instead of satisfying public opinion to kill a person, it is better to understand how this person went to crime step by step.
The departure of the little light bulb has become a fact, and she hopes that this unfortunate event will trigger the thinking of the whole society and bring some changes to the world.
In "The Distance Between Us and Evil", Chen Chang, suffering from "mental disorder", brutally killed kindergarten children, and under the defense of criminal defense lawyer Wang Amnesty, Chen Chang, who was bent on death, was sentenced to life imprisonment, and Wang He was also subjected to online violence for defending people who were extremely evil.
Another patient of "schizophrenia", Lin Sicong, was originally a sunny youth, but because of "schizophrenia", he almost made behaviors that hurt others.
When he desperately asked, "Why do I get this disease?" it was psychologically uncomfortable. Song Qiaoping, a psychiatrist who was nearly attacked by him, said Song Qiaoping, "Probably because you are braver."
Lin Sicong's "schizophrenia", because of the timely discovery, received professional treatment, did not bring negative impact to society.
But like Chen Chang, as well as the perpetrators of the small light bulb case in reality, they did not heal in time, turning themselves from patients into beasts, and using harm to others to relieve themselves.
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To indulge children is to raise bad people
We have all learned an allusion: Bian Que met Cai Huangong.
Huan Gong was afraid of medical treatment, and did not treat him in time in the early stages of his illness, and as a result, he was terminally ill and even the divine doctor could not do anything. Cai Huangong became a negative teaching material because of this allusion, but in fact, Cai Huangong's ideas represented most ordinary people.
When small problems arise, they feel irrelevant, there is no need to expend energy, and when the problem is serious, they find that they have no ability to solve.
The same is true of educating children. When the child is young, every move, every word and deed is innocent and lovely, even if the child has some small problems, it does not hurt, after all, he is still just a child.
Just like we often see children running back and forth in the carriage, children who shout and shout in restaurants, children who kick and beat puppies and kittens.
If someone accuses a child of his behavior, there will immediately be a loving voice telling you that they are just children, and it is their nature to be noisy and playful, how can you talk to your child?
Children can enjoy children's privileges, such as celebrating Children's Day, buying half-price tickets, and eating delicious snacks, but can children automatically switch to the adult mode of Zhishu Dali? Obviously not, when I was a child, it was difficult to be polite when I grew up.
In the face of the old man who is unreasonable to make trouble and rely on the old man, people will say, "It is not the old man who has become bad, it is the bad man who has become old." ”
Have you ever wondered how the bad guys come about? Bad people are not genetic mutations, not flying disasters, bad children grow up and become bad people.
What kind of kids are bad kids? Doing more bad things makes you a bad child.
Judge whether what the child is doing is good or bad, you can think of the 2-year-old child in front of you as a 20-year-old, 30-year-old adult, and see if his behavior can be accepted.
For example, the child kicks and punches the puppy kitten, for the child, it may just be a game, in the eyes of adults, it is also a weak child playing with the weak cat, cat, dog and dog, no big deal.
But in another scenario, a 20-year-old adult kicking and punching a cat, cat, dog and dog, can you still feel normal?
The child's concept of right and wrong is not suddenly formed, when he kicks the cat and kicks the dog no one stops, the child will think that this is not a big deal, he does no problem.
When he grows up, he will not suddenly wake up to the fact that the child's concept of right and wrong is formed through one small thing after another.
Just like Sucha in "Manslaughter", he was not born with the label of "beast", nor did he break into a catastrophe since he was a child.
The growth of every child is a process of trial and error. Children make mistakes, and if someone tells him they're wrong, he'll change direction.
The terrible thing is not to make a mistake, but to make a mistake and no one tells him, he does not know that he is wrong, he can only go farther and farther in the wrong direction, far beyond control, far enough to be unable to turn back.
Children are small, and making mistakes will not have serious results. Sometimes correcting the child and helping the child correct the mistake will take more time, which is far less simple than ignoring the child's mistake.
As a simple example, a child kicks a ball and breaks someone else's glass. Let the child face the consequences of making mistakes, parents should guide the child to apologize to others, find ways to compensate, and help people to put the glass well, which will cost time and money.
In another way, ignore the mistakes made by the child, directly pull the child to run far, no one knows who did the bad thing, and it is more dashing to go away.
However, as soon as you leave in this way, the child will also learn, make a mistake and run into trouble, and when he encounters trouble, he must run quickly, and the faster he runs, the better.
At the end of "Manslaughter", Li Weijie secretly crossed the sea and quietly transferred Su Cha's body, allowing the whole family to survive the disaster. All this was seen by the little daughter An An.
An An gave Li Weijie a 100-point test paper, and Li Weijie fulfilled his promise to buy a harmonica for An An. But the 100 points of the test paper were altered with 70 points, and An An also learned to hide the sky and cross the sea.
The child is like a blank piece of paper, and the parents are the main designers. Parents write goodness, children will become good, parents let children grow savagely, children will not find the direction.
No one wants the children they have worked so hard to raise to become bad people, so don't be lazy, don't be afraid of trouble, don't be like Cai Huangong, avoid medical treatment, find problems in time, solve problems.
Nip the child's bad in the bud, tell him right or wrong, and let him correct his path in time. Don't wait until a few years later, looking at the children who can't be disciplined, why me?
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