Filial piety comes first. Many people may say to their parents when they are young: "I will raise you in the future, and I will take good care of you!" "But when I grew up, maybe because I was too busy, maybe a lot of things happened in the middle, causing my children to forget about it." Many times, children have their own study, work or family, and it is too late to take care of their parents.
When going out, it is rare to call home, sometimes, or parents take the initiative to send messages, some parents do not want to disturb their children, they dare not call, can only send a message first, ask the child if there is time. Whether going to school or working, children often ignore their parents at home, but parents treat their children with concern.
How many people call their parents because they miss them? Most of the time it is to ask for living expenses, or to find parents for something else. And back at home, there are many people whose parents are older, sometimes even the mobile phone function is not very skilled, some parents will ask their children how to use the mobile phone, completely patient to teach them how many people? And when children are young, it is they who teach children to talk, walk, and use chopsticks over and over again...
Many people think that giving money to parents is filial piety, but in the past, children also wanted busy parents to accompany themselves, and when children grow up, parents also need the company of children.
The majority of people who really interpret filial piety by deeds do not make up the majority. In Henan, there is a girl who uses actions to prove that even if her mother is sick, she will not feel that it is a drag. Her mother became a vegetative person because of an accident, and in order to take care of her sick mother, she not only took her mother to school, because of hard work, she was already white-headed at a young age, and she did not abandon it, took good care of it, and she finally married with her mother. What happened to this filial daughter? Why did her mother become a vegetative person?
This girl' name is Di Huimin, born in 1995 in a rural family in Kaifeng, Henan, the family is not rich, but the family of five is happy and harmonious, or relatively happy.
Di Huimin is the eldest child in the family, there are two younger brothers below, she has been very sensible since she was a child, not only helping her parents take care of her two younger brothers, but also always helping to do housework. Every time there was good food, the first thing she thought of was her brother. She also often takes her younger brother to play, which makes her parents worry a lot less.
It is said that sensible children do not eat sugar, and although Di Huimin, as a sister, has sacrificed a lot, she never feels that she has suffered losses, because she loves her family, takes care of her family, and has family affection, she is relatively happy.
In school, Di Huimin has also maintained a good grade, although it is still some distance away from the top few in the grade, but she is very diligent and studious, and every time she improves a little, she will one day become a particularly good student. Her efforts, her parents also cut in the eyes. Although her parents were farmers and did not have much knowledge, they could not help her with their homework, so they could only encourage her. She did well in the exam, and they were happy for their daughter; they didn't blame her for not doing well.
It is because of her parents who love her like this and always take care of her emotions and feelings that Di Huimin lives so happily. A harmonious family is really very important for children. Although their lives are poor, and sometimes they have to think about buying something, the family is still very happy.
Later, Di Huimin also successfully entered the Lankao No. 1 High School, the high school learning task is still relatively heavy, early self-study began very early, every day when it is not dawn, the students have gotten up, and sit in the classroom and recite things loudly. And it wasn't until the moon rose and the evening self-study was that the day's study was finally over.
However, after Di Huimin returned to the dormitory, she was still reading, and many students would take advantage of the evening break to read more books and do more problems. High school is like this, and many students are afraid of falling behind and rushing forward.
On July 16, 2013, Ji Huimin, who was about to enter her third year of high school, experienced the biggest misfortune in her family, and her family also became miserable because of this incident.
Because they were about to go to the third year of high school, the students of the second year of high school did not go home during the summer vacation of this year, but stayed at the school to start making up classes. Di Huimin called home and asked her parents to send her study materials. But who would have thought that her mother had an accident while delivering books to school.
Di Huimin's mother, Zhang Bang, took her daughter's learning materials and several books and rode an electric car to the school. Their family was in the countryside, some distance away from Lankao Yigao, but just as she was rushing to the county seat, she suddenly fell on the side of the road.
After Receiving a call from her father, Di Huimin rushed to the hospital immediately. Her mother is still in the operating room, and several of her uncle's relatives are here. The doctor came over and asked the family for advice on whether they wanted to give up. Because even if you are saved, you are a vegetative person. Di Huimin's uncle and relatives persuaded her father Di Gangqiao to give up, and he hesitated. But Di Huimin asked, "Dad, if the person lying in it is me, do you have to give up?" ”
This sentence reassured him, and he told the doctor clearly and firmly that he would not give up!
After Zhang Bang was rescued, it was as the doctor said, and she became a vegetative person. Although he breathes, he cannot speak or walk.
In order to treat her illness, the family spent all their savings and owed a lot of money, but wanted to return to the past, unless a miracle happened. After the family ran out of money, naturally she could no longer afford to pay any medical expenses, so the bottom steel bridge brought her home.
After that, the burden on the bottom steel bridge was much heavier, and suddenly it was much older, but the family still had to be supported, so he went outside to work.
And Ji Huimin is also very painful, she pushed everything on herself, because her mother is to deliver books to her, there will be accidents. If she didn't call, her mother wouldn't come over; if she didn't go out, she wouldn't fall; if she didn't fall, she wouldn't hurt her head. And that's what caused all this.
In her third year of high school, her academic performance has regressed a lot, and she has always been lively and cheerful, and she has also become taciturn, often alone in a daze, or hiding herself and crying, teachers and classmates are worried that she will not be able to open, and it is persuasion and has been following her, lest she do something stupid.
In the summer of 2014, the whole country ushered in the college entrance examination. And Di Huimin also played abnormally, usually in the top 20 of the grade, she only scored 502 points in the college entrance examination.
The school's teacher called and said the school had decided to let her come back for another year for free. But she didn't go, and her father refused. The situation in their family is not optimistic, all the burdens of the family fall on the father's bottom steel bridge, the younger brother also has to go to school, and the mother Zhang Bang is still ill. Therefore, Di Huimin did not choose to repeat the study, but filled in the Zhengzhou Normal College.
When she went to college, Ji Huimin made a bold decision to take her mother to school with her. Although she has two younger brothers, the eldest brother Jie Jie has inherited from her uncle because they have no children, and the second brother Zhengzheng is still in school, and the only one who can take care of her mother is her.
When she came to Zhengzhou, Di Huimin rented a house and placed her mother in it, while she often ran between the two ends of the school at home and sometimes had to work part-time to earn money.
While other college students are dressing up or buying new clothes and shoes, she is still worried about life, others are buying new mobile phones, she is still thinking about how to make money, and she can only buy a second-hand mobile phone, because she is afraid of missing the notice in class. When the female classmates in the same class dressed up beautifully every day, she could only cover her white hair with two dollars a box of inferior hair dye, but this effect was very poor, and it always did not cover for too long. In the six months after her mother's accident, her hair was completely white.
Although the rental house is cheap, it has no windows, no balcony, no ventilation, and no sunlight, which makes the smell inside the house somewhat unpleasant.
Every morning at five o'clock, Ji Huimin already got up, changed her mother's diapers, and after cleaning the room for a while, she began to cook. The mother who became a vegetative person was like a child, and could only eat liquid food, and Ji Huimin would break the meal every time and then feed her little by little.
When the morning was over, it was almost seven and a half years, and Di Huimin said goodbye to her mother and rode her bicycle to school. The rental house is some distance from the school, and it takes her about 20 minutes to ride to the school.
Di Huimin studied life sciences at Zhengzhou Normal College, and her first choice was Henan Agricultural University, because she wanted to engage in planting, and she could start a business in her hometown in the future, but she failed to be admitted, so she chose the College of Life Sciences of Zhengzhou Normal University. "There are no more than two kinds of life science research, one is zoology, the other is botany, which is related to my future dream of planting and breeding." This is what Ji Huimin said when talking about dreams.
Every day after leaving the school, Ji Huimin immediately rushed back to the small rental house, because her mother was unconscious, eating and drinking Lasa were also in bed, and Ji Huimin would use her hands to clean up her mother's dried feces little by little, but she did not complain.
It is said that there is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, but Di Huimin has proved with practical actions that this sentence is not necessarily true.
On weekends, Ji Huimin would go part-time, hand out flyers, work as a tutor, and sell hot pot base. When selling hot pot base, use boiled balls for everyone to taste for free, and then sell the hot pot base. If she sold 20 bags, she could get a salary of 120 yuan, but she would be dumbfounded in her throat, and it was always difficult to sell 20 bags of hot pot base, and she only got 80 yuan each time.
And she has met many well-meaning people. At the beginning of the school year, she did not have the money to pay the tuition, or the teacher put it on her first. The landlord of the rental house, seeing that she was taking care of the mother of the vegetative person, also got a little cheaper and took the initiative to reduce the rent to 300 yuan.
Di Huimin often went to Master Song at the intersection to buy steamed buns, but every time she bought cold steamed buns, Master Song still felt strange, others would buy hot steamed buns, but she had to buy cold steamed buns every time she came. And di Huimin buys cold steamed buns for a reason, because the mother can only eat liquid food, and the mother can not eat steamed buns directly, so di Huimin will crush the steamed buns, just like breadcrumbs, but the hot steamed buns can not be crushed into particles, but the cold steamed buns can be. After Master Song knew about her, he would give her an extra bun every time.
When the school learned of her situation, it provided her with a dormitory for free, and she could live with her mother in a room with a window. Moreover, Di Huimin did not have to rush to the two ends every day.
Ji Huimin needs to change her mother's clothes and sheets frequently, because her mother is unconscious, and defecation will often get on the clothes and sheets, and every time she changes the sheets, she has some difficulty. Di Huimin is less than 1 meter 6 tall, and because of the long period of malnutrition caused her to be thin and small, so she can not pick up her mother, can only kneel on the side of the bed to pick her up first, and then change the wet diapers and sheets.
Every time she washes the sheets and clothes, she will wash them many times, but there is still a smell on the sheets, and when she hangs the sheets on the balcony, the classmates do not dislike or complain, and even donate money to support her, she feels a lot of warmth in this city.
The school also applied for a state bursary for her, and the school also donated a total of 90,000 yuan for her. And her class also spontaneously organized the "one dollar a week" activity, that is, the classmates will donate one dollar each week, and the number of people is powerful, and this activity has continued until the graduation of the university.
The society also knew about her, so they reached out to help this filial piety girl.
In 2018, after Graduating, although She did not start a business according to her dreams, in July, she successfully joined the Chen Zhong Experimental School, serving as a teacher while taking care of her mother.
On May 3, 2019, Di Huimin also entered the palace of marriage, and the other party was her high school classmate, Li Ning. And this time, she also took her mother with her. Li Ning and his family did not dislike or oppose, on the contrary, they were very supportive and encouraging.
In fact, when she was still in college, someone advised her to send her mother to a care institution, but Di Huimin was used to serving her mother, she knew what her mother needed and wanted, and she was also worried about what her mother would be wronged, so she always took her mother with her. And she also took her mother with her after marriage, because serving her mother is a technical job, and even her father sometimes can't feed her, and she is already very familiar with it. After getting married, Li Ning will also help her take care of her.
And Di Huimin's mother also received treatment, although she still maintained a vegetative state for a short time, but I believe that one day, she will be cured!