Among the four ancient civilizations, only Chinese culture has not been interrupted and has continued to this day, and has maintained the relative stability and purity of the Chinese national bloodline.
The Chinese nation has been living endlessly for thousands of years, and the ancestors have stubbornly multiplied and survived through countless hardships, relying on the Chinese "family rules" passed down from generation to generation.
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The rule of success: unyielding struggle, fate by oneself
Sima Qian recorded Chen Sheng's uprising in the "History of The Chen ShiJia": "And if the strong man does not die, he will raise a big name, and the prince will have a kind of feeling. ”
This means that when a strong man dies for meritorious service, he must not die in a nest, and the prince will be a natural noble breed? Why can't we!
The reason why this sentence has been praised throughout the ages is because behind it is a heroic spirit that is not willing to be mediocre and does not succumb to fate, and it is a kind of dissatisfaction and confrontation with the injustice of fate.
Unlike other civilizations that regard religion and the worship of gods and ghosts as a social bond, our Chinese ancestors adhered to the highest standard of "self-struggle" for social development and personal livelihood.
Chinese always believe that a good life needs to be created by oneself.
When all the kings of the great powers of the Central Plains indulged in taiping, it was the Qin King Yingzheng who "cultivated and defended the weapons of war internally, cultivated and woven", "fought with the princes of the outer and horizontal", and the remote small states in the western region rose overnight to become the ten thousand multiplied powers in the Central Plains.
In the end, the Qin people, who were bowing down to the world and the self-reliant Qin people, realized the dream of seven generations of emperors who "ordered the eight states and marched toward the same rank".
When all the Jiangdong courtiers hugged their heads and asked to surrender, it was Zhou Yu who said Qiankun, Join Liu Bei in the west, and reject Cao Cao in the north.
Offering serial links, applying bitter meat, making the anti-ma, using deception, a night of chibi fire, a thousand autumns and clear water rivers, leaving a thousand autumn myths for posterity that "between talking and laughing, the tree ashes are extinguished".
Do your best and obey the destiny of heaven; if you don't succeed, you will become a benevolent; if you can't make a meritorious achievement, you must also fight for no regrets!
Chinese civilization can stand for thousands of years, relying on this momentum!
This is why the "Tianxingjian, gentleman with self-improvement" in the "I Ching" will become a major endorsement of the Chinese spirit.
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The rules of being a man: be a true gentleman, daji the world
A gentleman is the ideal personality of Chinese for thousands of years, and a symbol of profound cultivation and noble character.
Confucius said: "A gentleman asks for himself, and a villain asks for everyone." ”
True gentlemen will almost be harsh on themselves in order to seek "selflessness and breadth in their hearts"; but they will not be harsh on others, and they will always be tolerant and generous.
There is a saying in "The Mean": "If you are right about yourself and do not seek from others, you have no complaints." The upper does not complain about the sky, and the lower is not special. "Put yourself in the right place first, rather than focusing on asking others first, so that there will be no resentment."
"Self-righteousness" means that a person has a strong ability to reflect, often reflect on his own shortcomings, and cultivate himself internally; "not seeking others" means that a person has no desire to control others and does not be harsh on the outside.
A gentleman requires himself to do everything well and lead by example, which can naturally impress others, and people are convinced and will not complain.
Only by being righteous can we transform people; only those who are benevolent can love others.
Mencius said: "Therefore a gentleman is different from others, and he has his heart." A gentleman has a heart of benevolence and a heart of courtesy. The benevolent love others, and the courteous respect others. He who loves others, he who loves others, he who respects others, he who respects others, respects others, he who respects others, he ”
The benevolent person loves others, which is the ideal moral and social state of Confucianism, which advocates the way of love.
If everyone only cares about their own interests, mutual suspicion, vigilance, and trampling, in the end their own interest cake can only be left in front of the one piece and smaller and smaller, but also worry about being robbed by others, want to eat more can only rob others.
In the long run, it can only be a lot of defeat and injury, and no one can fall well.
"The poor are alone, and the poor are good at their own, and the poor are both good for the world." "Good for oneself" and "the world" are the foundation of the Chinese people.
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Rules of the world: Abide by the rules and regulations, there is a ruler and a degree
The Tao Te Ching says: "Man's law, earth's law, heaven's law, heaven's law, and the tao's nature." The "nature" here is the natural nature, the "formless" nature.
This means that the laws of man are on earth, the laws of earth are in heaven, the laws of heaven are in rules, and the rules are in nature.
There are still laws between heaven and earth, not to mention the human world. Rules and laws are not wrong in themselves, but there is a distinction between big and small, reasonable or not. Heaven and earth and all things are orderly because of rules, and the world must rely on rules to be orderly.
The state has the state law, the family has the family rules, and people are based in society, and there are always rules to be followed.
There is a work and rest system for going to school, there is labor discipline for going to work, there are traffic rules for driving, there are first-come-first-served queues...
This is true of society, as is the nature of people's own management and life trajectory.
Diet and rest should be regular, the body can be healthy; with the bottom line of principle in mind, people will not follow the tide, unscrupulous means, and have no lower limit. Taken together, the road of life can go long, steady, and far.
And the way people get along with each other, there must be a ruler.
There is a ruler between the distances, and the interaction should be done in a measured manner. Neither cold nor distant nor too intimate; neither unprincipled help nor indifferent.
Lao Tzu said, "The great is gone, the passing is far away, and the far is opposite." ”
If the feelings have been heating up, they will definitely recede, which is the law of nature.
Zhuangzi said: "The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship of villains is as sweet as liquor." ”
People's feelings, light as water, such a relationship, can be maintained for a long time.
If they have been inseparable and continue to heat up, then the time between the two will probably not be too long.
Faint fellowship, shallow joy, chatting, talking, not hiding, not tired, this is the best state for people to get along with each other.