Recently, the chat records of a well-known quantitative investment big V have been widely circulated. The Ding surname Big V said in the WeChat group:
"When my son was in elementary school, I bought him a good mobile phone, did WeChat for him, and made a lot of money to let him invite female students to eat snacks. Anyway, I don't raise my son, just let him go to the scum, give me a few more babies, he now (the second year of junior high school) already has two girlfriends... Educate him personally, and give me a baby when I am in college. My life is too hard, from childhood to adulthood to study, thirty years old is still studying, I do not want my son to live my life like this, I let him scum. ”
This astonishing tone has caused public dissatisfaction, and many experts have criticized that "this statement impacts social order and good customs, and group imitation will lead to the degeneration of social atmosphere."
In this regard, Ding Da V said: "Pass it on casually, don't care." ”
In fact, leaving aside his successful personality and his mixed career achievements, the concept of his godson is actually his own concept of human life, which has been recognized by Chinese men for thousands of years but dare not declare it.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Jia Fu "has a great name for the heavens, and the hundred generations have tasted the grandeur of steaming", this luxurious life of nearly a hundred years of prosperity and Yang Yang originated from the two brothers Jia Yan and Jia Yuan who accompanied Emperor Taizu to fight in the Jiangshan. Their age was burning with passion, and they were also born into death, and when Jia Yan was carried out of the pile of dead people in the million army by his own horse boy Jiaoda, he didn't even have to drink water, and he almost died of thirst.
Their youth suffered and took risks, but there was no pleasure and ease. Fortunately, they succeeded. The ultimate goal of the ancients' achievements and fame is to "seal the wife and shadow". Needless to say, most of the wives are of the same generation, and they have struggled and suffered together. And the son? As long as they reincarnate correctly. The hardships they should have suffered in their lives have been eaten by their fathers. So their lives only need to be enjoyed.
And their fathers, in fact, are happy to see their children enjoy themselves. When the fathers succeeded, they were already middle-aged and elderly, and many blessings could not be stopped, and could only be left to their children and grandchildren.
Jia Yuan, who had licked the blood on the knife edge, would have been happy to smile at Jiuquan if he knew that his grandson Baoyu was lying high in the Red Courtyard, and there was an attacking attendant Qingwen to supplement Qiu Yujun to feed Tang Fangguan to sing.
Of course, according to Grandma Lai, the old masters were beaten and scolded by their fathers when they were young. But what is the purpose of being beaten? What we can see is that Jia Lian was beaten because he opposed his father's fan of taking stone nerds, and Jia Rong was scolded for running to rest before his father when he was beaten for the Dragon Boat Festival. Bao Yu was beaten because he had offended the Zhongshun Palace and forced Jin Ju to die... In short, they all seem to belong to the category of dealing with the world, and they have nothing to do with becoming a talent, persuading students, and so on.
There is a law here, that is, all young masters who have the right to inherit grow up to be scumbags without exception. For example, Jia Shu, Jia Zhen, Jia Lian and Jia Rong are all alcoholics. Because they know that they don't have to work hard to have everything.
And Jia Zheng, who has been good at reading since childhood, is the second son, and originally had no right to inherit, because the emperor gave him extra grace and rewarded him with an official to do, and he has since relaxed, rest assured to be the five-pin official, and every day after work, he is drinking tea and chatting with a group of Qing guests.
Also because he knows that he can't give his son a good future, and his son is more, so he is more powerful than anyone else, Jia Zhu and Bao Yu are scolded by him to go to school, because he has a deep sense of insecurity.
Jia Jing of Dongfu was able to study hard and take the entrance examination, probably because he was the second son. Later, when his father and brother died, he knew that the glory and wealth of both his son and his son were guaranteed, so he immediately gave up his title to his son and went to cultivate on his own. It can be seen that working hard to learn to take the career path is not his interest in the first place.
And those eldest sons who naturally have the right to inherit have begun to recruit beautiful women from the second generation of the Jia family. Although Jia Daishan has been dead for many years, there are still six concubines who are still alive, and it is estimated that in the early days, there were old and sick deaths, difficult births, etc., so Dai Shan is indeed not shallow, and this Yanfu can continue to be forgiven to Jia. If Jia Lian hadn't married Feng Jie, a vinegar jar, eighty percent of them would have already had a large number of wives and concubines. Although Jia Baoyu is not the eldest grandson of the long house, because of Jia's mother's pampering, he has received special treatment, and he is as beautiful as a cloud in the house at a young age.
And Daishan's younger brother (perhaps cousin) Jia Dairu, because there is no inheritance right, can only move out of Jia Province, hard study for many years, not yet the first, can only open a private school to make a living, although there is also the reputation of contemporary old Confucian, but the family is cold, the only grandson is seriously ill to eat solo ginseng soup can not afford to eat, typical of the rhythm of returning to poverty due to illness.
A parent like Dai Ru would never encourage his descendants to embrace the right and be a scumbag, and he was bent on teaching his children and grandchildren to study hard to succeed. The son was probably over-disciplined by him, died early, grandson Jia Rui followed him as a teaching assistant in the private school, twenty-year-old people, not to mention concubines, even his wife did not marry him, but many of the people in the private school were stupid children who spent days and wine, Jia Rui envied their way of life, and soon degenerated into a hungry ghost, and Dai Ru would never allow him to be close to the female color, so Jia Rui was hungry and did not choose to hook up with Feng Jie, and finally gave up his life in vain.
Similarly, there is a similar situation in Qin Zhong's father and son, whose father's official position is not high, so he desperately forces his son to study hard, and as a result, his son in the rebellious period is addicted to wine and dies young.
For those who are not rich before they are old, it is their greatest wish to try to raise their children to ensure the upward trend of the class. If the child cannot fulfill this wish, it is better to die. The tragedy of many similar teenagers committing suicide because of the pressure to study today also stems from this.
Today, if we look at the roster in the school, those noble and domineering names are mostly children from ordinary families. And those who are really very rich and famous to name children are often relatively simple, either small names of "baby", "babe", "melon", "fruit" or ready-made foreign names "Anna" and "Angel", and so on, there are few names that make people awe-inspired at first sight.
Because parents have different expectations of their children. Wang Shuo said to his daughter: "What do I want her to do?" I don't want her anything. I want her to be happy and happy to finish her life, and I don't want her to succeed. I hate that word the most. ”
Why does he hate success? Because he knows that there is too much to pay on the road to success, he feels sorry for his children and feels that it is unnecessary. These are the words of successful people. Ordinary parents will never say this, they have not yet succeeded, if they do not guide their children to strive for success, then wait to be gnawed on.
Jia Mu connived at Baoyu not to read, and mixed in the girls' pile every day, because she did not expect Baoyu to succeed, and did not expect Baoyu to help her realize the glory and wealth she had not received. However, Lady Wang supported her husband to urge Baoyu to study, and she tried to eliminate the "fox" girl around Baoyu, because she was afraid that Baoyu would be fascinated by sex and delay her efforts. She admitted that she had never enjoyed great wealth, although she married into the gongfu, but her husband was a five-pin official without a knighthood, and she had no talent and ambition, and she loved the concubine Aunt Zhao, the eldest son died, and although the daughter married well, she was only a daughter after all. Therefore, Madame Wang's expectations for her youngest son Baoyu are extremely high, and she expects him to help her turn the tables in her later years.
For such a family as the four major families, the parents themselves are also enjoyed by Mengzuyin, and naturally there is not much motivation to urge their children to struggle. It is better to have a wife and concubine, on the one hand, to meet their original needs, on the other hand, they can also have more children, among which there may be talents who can revitalize the Jia family in the future.
In the feudal era, everyone's values were relatively single, and they felt that there was no way out except for their careers. And in the dprk as an official, they cannot relax, because the companion is like a companion tiger, the political situation is changeable, and it is not certain which step is wrong, the whole family is finished, but if you do not let your descendants take the road, how can they be glorious and rich now? Moreover, even if there is a feudal family like the Jia family, it is inevitable that the fate of the family will be demoted, if there is no capable talent in the family, the political status in the imperial court will decline, and the family will still decline.
And the modern giants don't seem to have to worry about it. The older generation has created a career, if the children have the talent and enthusiasm to inherit the family business, naturally the best, but if the children have no interest in the family business, they can also hire professional managers, continue to develop and manage the enterprise, children enjoy equity, trust, etc., after that, or to do their favorite business, or simply lie flat, all in the overall situation. As long as the child does not take drugs, gamble, or start a business, there is no risk of ruin.
Of course, in reality, there are always some rich people who can't think straight, afraid that their children are idle, even if the children are obviously not talented, they must be heavily trained, and even pay bribes to go to overseas famous schools. After the child gets the diploma, he is often low-minded and cannot take charge of the family business.
My original company is also a well-known factory, 996 career has long been accustomed to, but there are always some customers or leaders have to send their own treasures here to "cultivate and exercise", and our boss often out of business considerations, but also recruited, arrange managers to take these children to do projects.
However, these stupid children in the company are often lazy and lazy, not learning and unskilled, because the boss told them to take more care, so the managers did not dare to use more - using it would delay the work. Most of the parents of these children are rich generations, so they are not yet accustomed to the life of local tycoons, and they always feel that their origins are based on luck, and the future is unstable, and they must also cultivate future generations into talents in order to inherit the family business and carry it forward. But they themselves were not good at cultivating education when their children were young, and could only hope that famous schools and large factories would help them cultivate.
In fact, such a child cannot learn anything. Wasting their own time also delayed the emergence of capable peers. I have seen a boy who has not worked seriously in the company for five years, and the boss expects his father to introduce customers, so he does not dare not give him a promotion and salary increase, and he takes this for granted, but he did not bring any benefits, and eventually he was laid off.
There is a girl who is the granddaughter-in-law of a celebrity, who has stayed in the company for two years, either on maternity leave or preparing for maternity leave, because the first child is a daughter, and the in-laws require her to have a boy, in fact, with the power of her in-laws, she can be arranged to do a leisurely job, but she has to be stuffed into our company, and she really can't think of it.
There is also a girl who is a rich only daughter, returned from studying abroad, was introduced to our company by her parents, but her personality is really not suitable for part-time work, after offending n leaders and customers, she finally resigned, and then jumped several companies, or could not find a suitable career for her, and finally married a foreign rich second generation who was right at home, and gave birth to three babies, which is to find her correct life positioning.
In fact, the son inheriting the father's business is itself an obsession. Everyone's endowments are completely different. Although Bai Xianyong was given a brave and pioneering name by his warlord-turned-father, he did not become a military expert, but became a playwright and artist; Chiang Ching-kuo's grandson Jiang Youbai was successful in designing and doing business, even without touching politics.
Today's era is progressing because the path to success has increased much more than before, and the liberation of gender has broadened the path of life.
Some people say that the decline of the four major families is the number of qi, the inevitable end of the world, because the children have not come out, but if in modern times, the Jia family can completely hand over to a capable daughter like Tanchun to take charge. Xue Baochao will also be able to run the Xue family's family business prosperously. Lin Daiyu can inherit her parents' inheritance, rely on the trust fund to study abroad, and pursue personal ideals.
Bao Yu did not have to be forced to go to the civil service examination, he could enter the fashion circle and achieve another career based on his personal hobbies.
He can be his own person — he can be his own master.
In short, if the giants must inherit their own flesh and blood, then they can only have more children to effectively circumvent the natural law of IQ return and select the best children to cultivate. As long as Kendoson puts aside gender bias, he can succeed.
But today, more and more rich people are more and more open-minded, they do not ask their children to "inherit the throne", they only hope that their children are good enough. This requires parents to have sufficient financial resources and energy, and one is indispensable. Raising children requires money to buy enough good educational resources, and helping children discover their own talents and develop a better self requires parents to pay a huge amount of time and energy, which is more important than financial resources.
Olympic champion Gu Ailing is considered to be the result of accumulating generations of resource cultivation, and this accumulation is not so much money as the accumulation of high-quality genes and energy.
Grandma and grandpa are intellectuals and sports enthusiasts, mother Gu Yan was born in Peking University, worked on Wall Street, and also returned to China to start a business, to say that there is money, in fact, it may not be more superior than the Ding Big V family. Gu Yan worked as a part-time ski instructor to earn extra money, and once drove eight hours a day to send her children to the snow field for training. The real rich families buy or rent houses near the snow park. Even so, in the training of children to ski, it is also invested in millions of dollars, ice and snow sports is really a rich sport, ordinary people are difficult to do.
Especially in the environment atmosphere of test-taking education, as a netizen said, an ordinary child, even if he has such a talent as Ailing, can only honestly take the college entrance examination, honestly drift north, only in the winter vacation of middle age to take the child to the nearby newly opened ski resort, the first time he stood on the slope, he felt a kind of trembling from the genes, and finally became a ... Ski lovers.
Therefore, Gu Ailing is actually in a relatively relaxed educational environment, guided by her mother to make a wide range of interest attempts, she has been exposed to tennis, piano, dance, equestrianism, football, Olympic mathematics since she was a child... In the end, he found his talent point early and worked hard to achieve success. Because of the mother's dedication, there are such fruitful results.
Who says children from divorced families can't be raised well? But then again, if Gu Yan is not a single mother, but a single father, can Ai Ling have today? I think the possibilities are slightly reduced.
Because men and women, even if they love children deeply, they often do it differently. Most fathers love their children in a way that is to work hard to make money for their children, as for how to spend the children's money, that is the child and the child's mother decide, the more they spend willfully, the more they can prove the success of the father.
If the father does not have so much money, he can often do work with the child, do handicrafts, cook, etc., but at the same time, he will have high expectations for the child. Zhang Yide's father is like this, making toys for his children, designing dishes, engraving English words, taking photos... The result of this is that the child is happy and shows the talent of the father, and also moves others. So Dad became an Internet celebrity.
Of course, he was also very good, but he was under great pressure. After losing an SAT test, Ichigo's mom said to him, "When you grow up, you'll find that you're just as ordinary as everyone else." You will also be forgetful and mediocre. Stop feeling so special, just do what you're looking forward to. If people are doing what they're supposed to do, all the problems in the world will be solved. ”
I had to refute my mother's words and think, "It was at this time that I realized why my mother left my father when I was only 1 year old."
He hopes that he will not be mediocre, that everything will be the best, and that he will not live up to his father's efforts. Eventually he was overwhelmed, and the result was tragic.
If he is a successful father, he may be more lenient with his children and does not require his children to become talented. Most of these fathers will not have the time and interest to accompany their children to experience so many hobbies and interests, and constantly trial and error. At best, he introduces his workplace and experience to his children, and then arranges them early on their further education and employment, so that the children can take advantage of their father's connections and resources in the industry early on (as I exemplified above). As for whether children can be themselves, whether they can find their own interests and talents, fathers generally can't think of so much. Wherever he succeeds, he can let his son inherit his father's business.
Therefore, many children's talents will be wasted, and it is not just a matter of financial resources.
Some parents force their children to practice piano, dance, and learn mathematics because these ideals were not realized when they were young, so they hope that their children will realize their ideals for them, which is the same as Jia Zheng forcing Baoyu to take the exam. Children are just a tool for them to achieve their ideals. In fact, Ding Da V is the same, but his personal ideal since childhood is not to become a scientist and artist, but to be a "scumbag", so he does not care about the child's ideals and talents, and only hopes that the child will realize the dirty ideal that he himself has no chance to achieve.
Here I really feel sorry for the murderer Wu Xieyu, if he can reincarnate as the son of Ding Da V, it will be a happy life for each other! Wu Xueba does not have to kill his mother to get rid of his hard reading career and live an obscene life, and Ding Da V does not have to bother to teach to get a scumbag son who is born eager to indulge and love women.
The pattern of parents will determine the height of the child. In the view of Ding Da V, a small town with a hard work, a person's talent and value can only be reflected in the reading test, if the child does not show excellence in academics, there is no need to cultivate too much and look for his other endowments - Dad does not have this time and interest.
In addition, due to the distorted growth environment, most of the small town writers do not have too many interests and hobbies and life moods, read and earn a living in the environment of repression of nature, and have not learned to establish a normal concept of gender relations, neither knowing how to enjoy love nor how to manage marriage. Ding Da V, who is a doctor, also admitted that he was "not of high quality" and "old men bragged".
Indeed, in the system of test-oriented education, diplomas and qualities are two different things. A person who only knows the knowledge of textbooks and the skills of doing problems can grow into a money-making tool and an expert in the industry, but their spirit is empty, and the greatest pleasure in personal life is still the original food color.
Like many people with low education, they think that the greatest pleasure in life is to be a scumbag, not to read, to engage women and have more children, is a happy life. It's just that although they all think so, the only one who dares to speak openly is Ding Da V, because he has no business under his name and no customers, so there is not so much goodwill that needs to be maintained, and there is no need to worry about his son's loser losing his own business, so he speaks extraordinarily unscrupulously. He also understands that many people agree with him, so he is not ashamed.
From Ah Q's imagination that after the success of his revolution, he could casually pick and choose Zhao Sichen's sister, Zou Qi's daughter, the wife of the fake foreign devil, and Wu Mama, to the ideal of "pig arch cabbage" delivered by Hengzhong Gao Caisheng a few years ago, and then to the declaration of Ding Da V's "godson into slag", it can be seen that in the past hundred years, the life ideals of the fishing silk have not changed qualitatively.
Even Dong Moumin of Xuzhou, who was poor and crumbling, only bought a woman to lock in the house and give birth to eight sons.
What kind of children can you expect from such fathers to teach?
For many people, the purpose of educating children is to make a living for their children, and if the family has enough money and can't eat enough, the children don't have to work hard. So a few years ago, there was a news report that a primary school student asked his father: "We have six suites in our family, why do I still have to go to school?" "Daddy was speechless.
This shows that the father himself has not read a book, or although he has read a book, he has not experienced the benefits of reading (I mean spiritual abundance rather than taking a diploma and employment).
Therefore, personal qualities and pursuits are passed down from generation to generation, more stubborn than genes. People who are mentally poor, even if they come to work for a while to get rich, they will still be beaten back to their original form in the matter of godsons passing on their families.