In an old house in a suburban town, the small space is full of furniture and appliances such as TVs, washing machines, mattresses, etc., which the 80-year-old Huang Zhuting has moved from the city.
A month ago, the children objected to his association with the 60-year-old nanny Zhu Hong, and angrily drove Zhu Hong out of the house, and the old man followed Zhu Hong to the countryside without hesitation.
Speaking of his 3 children, Huang Zhuting was indignant: "I discussed it when I was looking for a nanny before, if I get along well, I will marry the nanny, but now they regret it, and say that Zhu Hong is a liar!" ”
This twilight love, which is 20 years apart, is it two old people who have the same heart, or is it a scam?
First, the octogenarian fell in love with the nanny and was kicked out of the house by his children
Huang Zhuting joined the army at the age of 19, participated in the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea, and worked in a food company until retirement after changing careers, with a monthly pension of 3800 yuan.
After his ex-wife's death a few years ago, he lived with his divorced young daughter.
In order to let the old man spend his old age in peace, the younger daughter rented a house next door to the eldest daughter to facilitate the eldest daughter's visit.
Originally, the family was happy and harmonious, until 4 months ago, the arrival of nanny Zhu Hong broke the tranquility.
Ten years ago, Zhu Hong's ex-husband died, when the youngest daughter was only 9 years old, and she worked as a live-in nanny for the family.
After being introduced by a friend, she worked as a nanny for the elderly Huang Zhuting and took care of his living quarters, earning 1500 yuan per month.
At first, Huang Zhuting's children were also very satisfied with Zhu Hong's performance and agreed to be with her father.
Later, Zhu Hong was accidentally injured and bedridden, and the old man Huang Zhuting gave her his own tonic.
It was this move that caused the dissatisfaction of the children, believing that the nanny Zhu Hong had bad intentions and drove her out of the house.
Huang Zhuting, however, vigorously defended Zhu Hong: "If you do not agree to this marriage, then I would rather jump off a building and commit suicide, or go out and crash a car!" Marry her anyway! ”
The elderly Huang Zhuting said that he got along very well with his nanny Zhu Hong, who promised to take care of him for a hundred years and that he "liked her very much."
For Zhu Hong, she has lived widowed for many years and originally did not plan to remarry, but the meticulousness and warmth of the old man Huang Zhuting touched her.
Today, the two old people live in a simple house in the countryside, away from the hustle and bustle of the city, although the daily tea is only a light meal, but also very satisfied and happy.
In order to have a better living environment, the elderly Huang Zhuting wanted to rent a 120-square-meter house in the town and accompany Zhu Hong to the old age, but this plan was once again opposed by his children.
Since the two old men were in love with each other, why didn't the children of old man Huang Zhuting agree?
In order to help the elderly Huang Zhuting, the reporter found his eldest daughter.
Second, the eldest daughter objected, and the nanny Zhu Hong snatched the door and came out
The eldest daughter, Huang Ying, works at a department store, but as soon as she sees the arrival of her old father and nanny, she turns around and leaves like a mouse seeing a cat.
Seeing his daughter's attitude, the old father was immediately angry, he dialed his daughter's phone, and counted her daughter down.
Finally, through the appearance of the mall manager, the old man finally got his wish to see the eldest daughter and the eldest son-in-law.
Speaking of the old father's "crazy move", Huang Ying was very helpless.
The three sisters' financial conditions were not good, but her sister rented a house next door to her house that was higher than the rent elsewhere, just to fulfill her father's filial piety.
However, my father lived in the countryside for 4 months as a nanny and was reluctant to come back.
Old Man Huang Zhuting sat on the side, but he did not say angrily: "All this is your idea, saying what to live together to honor me, it is clear that you want me to ask a nanny to take care of your life!" ”
The old man told reporters that the monthly rent of the house was 500 yuan, he paid 300 yuan, the younger daughter paid 200 yuan, and the nanny was also invited by him to spend his pension.
The eldest daughter and the eldest son-in-law looked helpless: "You found a nanny, and said to the outside world that she was your companion, what does this look like?" ”
Huang Zhuting said: "At that time, I said well, first be a nanny, get along for half a year to 1 year, if you feel suitable to be a companion, is there any problem?" ”
Daughter Huang Ying explained that they were not opposed to her father's remarriage, and since her mother's death, she also took the initiative to introduce several aunts to her father, and finally died without illness.
In the eyes of the children, there is a clear line between the nanny and the partner, how can it be confused.
Huang Ying said that unless Zhu Hong promised to marry her father, they would not agree to her father being with her.
In the face of Huang Ying's persecution, nanny Zhu Hong seemed cramped and uneasy, and suddenly had no idea.
Zhu Hong said that she had long expressed her opinion with the children of the old man that it was okay to be a companion, but it was necessary to understand each other for a period of time before deciding, but she was only in the Huang family for more than 2 months before being expelled.
Now that she has fallen out with the old man's children and is married, how should the children treat her stepmother?
After thinking for a moment, Zhu Hong suddenly got up and snatched the door and went out, she was emotional and wanted to break up with the old man Huang Zhuting.
"Since your children are not willing to accept me, I will hand you over to your children in front of the reporters!"
Zhu Hong's move made the old man of Huang Zhuting momentarily confused, he chased out the door, pulled Zhu Hong and refused to let go: "I don't care, I will die with you, I don't believe them!" ”
The quarrel of two old people was heard in the whole corridor, and looking at the scene in front of her, the eldest daughter Huang Ying was silent, but her face showed a helpless look.
Things have reached this point, how to deal with it?
Third, nanny Zhu Hong wants to break up with the old man Huang Zhuting
Looking back at the life of the old man Huang Zhuting, it is full of hardships.
He took care of his bedridden wife for 20 years, including XinRu painstakingly raised 3 children, and now that he is in his twilight years, his biggest wish is to live with his nanny Zhu Hong.
Originally, the children did not oppose him to remarry, but the problem was the ambiguous attitude of the nanny Vermilion.
Seeing that the old father "shaved his head and picked a hot head", Zhu Hong still refused to agree to marry his father, in the eyes of the children, Zhu Hong was deliberately ambiguous and plotted against the old father's money.
But how does Zhu Hong really view this relationship?
Early the next morning after seeing the eldest daughter, the old man Huang Zhuting was driven out of the house by Zhu Hong.
She picked up Huang Zhuting's luggage and shouted loudly in her mouth: "We are finished, I will send you back now!" ”
Huang Zhuting's face was full of anxiety, and he repeatedly explained: "I came voluntarily, I will not leave!" ”
"You are voluntary, and your children do not accept me, so what can I do?"
"My children said you were a liar, but I didn't say, where can I go when I leave?"
The two old men tore endlessly until the reporter came forward to comfort them, and then stopped, and the old man Huang Zhuting picked up his luggage and returned to the room.
Zhu Hong said emotionally that because of Huang's children's opposition, she had long wanted to break up, and it was Huang Zhuting's elder who forced herself to live in her own home several times, but the children were all responsible for her.
This time, Zhu Hong took the initiative to reveal her heart to reporters, although the old man Huang Zhuting was 20 years older than her, but the quality was high, he was kind to the body, and he was the object of her favorite.
"We do like each other, but if we are together, we must get the consent of our children."
Recalling the day when she was kicked out of the house by Huang Lao's children, Zhu Hong was still angry.
"I was so angry that I didn't speak for a day, I was a nanny for 10 years, and for the first time someone said I was not good."
As for what to do in the future, the two old men fell silent.
For the old man Huang Zhuting, it is precious to meet a relationship in his twilight years, and his greatest wish at the moment is to gain the support of his children.
What about the final attitude of the sons and daughters?
In order to complete the two elderly people, the reporter found 3 children of Huang Lao to communicate.
Fourth, old fathers were denied alimony from their children
In the rental house of the youngest daughter, Huang Jia, the family gathered together.
Huang Zhuting's attitude became stronger, and he sat at the table and expressed his thoughts loudly: "You must recognize our relationship, and each person will pay 100 yuan a month for me to rent a house until I am old!" ”
The old man's proposal was opposed by his children.
Huang Lao's son said: "She has to be a nanny to get a salary, and she has to enjoy the treatment of a partner, what is such a good thing?" ”
In the view of Huang Lao's son, since he wants to be a companion, the salaries of the two should be put together, and the father's monthly salary of 3800 yuan plus Vermilion's salary can fully meet the daily expenses, but now he asks them for money, which is simply unreasonable.
The father opened his mouth to ask for money, which made the eldest daughter Huang Ying more and more dissatisfied with Zhu Hong.
"At the beginning, Zhu Hong said that living in her house in the countryside could save 4,800 yuan in rent every year, which was changed to renting a house in the town, with an annual rent of 6,000 yuan."
Vermilion's rebellion made them feel uneasy and kind.
The youngest daughter Huang Jia said frankly: "Vermilion is the father's monthly salary of 3800 yuan, and now he is playing tricks to make the contradiction between father and daughter reborn!" ”
Seeing that the children did not agree to pay money, Huang Lao's emotions also became excited: "If you are poor enough to beg for food, not only will I not want a penny, but I will also tighten the belt of my pants to give you money. ”
"How much I have raised you for more than 20 years, and now you don't even give me a penny!"
The son did not take his father's stubble and said directly to reporters: "He can go to the court to sue us for filial piety!" ”
Huang Zhuting said: "I will first ask the reporter to help mediate, if the mediation fails, I will definitely go to the court to sue you!" ”
Seeing her father scolding her brother, Huang Jia pointed the spearhead at Zhu Hong, who was silent on the side: "All this is at your behest!" ”
The old man of Huang Zhuting hurriedly maintained the nanny: "What are you pulling her in, I am the head of the family!" ”
"So is she a nanny or your companion?"
At this time, Zhu Hong spoke: "I am the nanny, this time I came to return your father to you, and now everything has nothing to do with me." ”
Seeing that Zhu Hong got up to leave, Huang Zhuting rushed to the young daughter, his words fierce and full of resentment.
"The babysitter I paid for, what qualifications do you have to point fingers at my nanny?"
During the quarrel, he slapped his little daughter directly in the face with a loud slap, causing a moment of silence.
The youngest daughter Huang Jia was also stunned, as the father's most beloved little daughter, she did not expect that her father would beat herself up in order to know the nanny for 4 months.
The Huang family quarreled, from the room to the yard, and the old neighbors who had been together for decades rushed over, and they persuaded the elderly Huang Zhuting to live with his children and put aside unrealistic ideas.
"If you like a nanny, no one will object, but you also have to ask for the opinions of your children, after all, we still have to rely on them to take care of us when we are old."
In the face of the persuasion of neighbors, the old man has always been stubborn: "There are some things that children cannot replace, you must also understand the old man's thoughts!" ”
Neighbors said that parents should learn to be considerate of their children, and the youngest daughter, Huang Jia, is already having a difficult life, so how can she bear to let her take the money again?
No matter how the neighbors persuaded, the old man Huang Zhuting still had a resolute attitude and wanted to accompany the nanny Zhu Hong to the old age.
Seeing the opposition of the crowd, Zhu Hong's emotions also became excited, and she turned to leave, saying that she wanted to break up with Huang Zhuting.
Old Man Huang Zhuting hurriedly followed Zhu Hong, pulling her to show her determination again and again.
The two old men pulled like an idol drama, but they caused the people behind them to laugh helplessly.
In order to resolve the contradictions of the Huang family as soon as possible and let the elderly Huang Zhuting have a safe place in his old age, the reporter contacted the local judicial office to help mediate.
Can this mediation bring peace to the family?
Fifth, children compromise
Before going to the judicial office, Huang Lao took reporters to visit his "new home".
With an area of 120 square meters, this three-bedroom house is one of the best houses in town.
The interior is spacious, transparent from north to south, and standing on the balcony, you can see a turquoise field in the distance.
Huang Lao said that he has longed for a pastoral life all his life, and if he can retire here, he will spend the rest of his life in happiness.
But will the children be able to fulfill his wishes?
At the judicial office, the three sisters expressed their attitude: they hoped to take the old father home to take care of him, and if the father was still unwilling to come back, then they would negotiate a pension plan with Vermilion.
No matter how much the children persuaded, the old man Huang Zhuting could not listen to only a few words, he said: "Vermilion is better than any child." ”
The old man also swore: "If something big happens to me, the nanny will never dump me!" ”
Seeing her father's resolute attitude, the family finally reached an agreement: as long as Zhu Hong was willing to promise in public, she would be loyal to her father, and the children agreed to their relationship.
Will the nanny Vermilion give a satisfactory answer to everyone?
Zhu Hong pondered for a moment: "I don't want to be a nanny in your house anymore, and I won't be angry at anyone whoever I work as a nanny!" ”
Seeing Zhu Hong's evasive attitude, Huang Jia's three brothers and sisters felt even more that their father was deceived.
However, the old man Huang Zhuting not only did not get angry, but thought that because his children drove away Zhu Hong first, it led to Zhu Hong's current attitude.
Seeing that the emotions of the two sides were once again agitated, the staff of the judicial office pulled the Huang family aside to mediate.
The staff said that legally speaking, it is a personal will for Huang Zhuting to walk with the nanny, and the children should not interfere too much.
Even if the elderly do not want to live with their children, the children should respect the opinions of the elderly and should not ignore the economic difficulties of the elderly.
Moreover, since the two old people have the same heart, and the old father has a nanny to take care of, the children can also work with peace of mind.
After some persuasion, coupled with the father's reluctance to give up the nanny, the three children finally agreed to the old father's request.
The children of the Huang family told Zhu Hong that they hoped that the two elderly people would take care of each other, and as children, they would also try to help solve problems in life.
Hearing the words of his children, the old father finally showed a long-lost smile on his face: "I am very satisfied with the result of this mediation!" ”
Nanny Zhu Hong also changed her previous cold attitude: "I really appreciate your consent, please believe that I am a good person, I will take good care of Huang Lao, reduce your burden." ”
At the end of the story, the children of the Huang family agreed to pay rent for their old father every year until the end of their old age, and they would also visit the countryside more often in their leisure time.
Write at the end
This is the news that happened a few years ago, the old man Huang Zhuting's "for love" madness, let me think of a passage written by Qian Zhongshu in "The Siege":
The love of the elderly is like the old house on fire, not saved.
In fact, I can understand Huang Lao's madness, a lifetime of hard work, loneliness in his old age, meeting a favorite partner, and naturally wanting to cling to it.
This news also triggered heated discussion among netizens:
Some people accuse the children of the Huang family of only focusing on their father's pension, but not from the father's point of view, netizens believe that as long as the old father is happy in his old age, the children should not obstruct;
Some people also accuse the elderly huang Zhuting, believing that once the old man is old, he should live well with his children and should not be blindly tossed.
In my opinion, the elderly are also human beings, have emotional needs, and even more afraid of loneliness than young people.
It is said that "a full house of children is not as good as a halfway couple", and this is true.
Children can take care of the lives of the elderly, but they cannot provide spiritual sustenance.
If you are really filial piety, you should respect the wishes of the elderly and let the elderly choose the way they like to spend the rest of their lives.
Just like the old man Huang Zhuting is 80 years old, only 3800 yuan a month pension, even if the nanny Zhu Hong has ill intentions, how much can he cheat him?
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