In early September 2020, in a residential area in Xi'an, a woman wearing a flower shirt broke her mouth and scolded downstairs.
"Wen Yao, who lives in 102 in this building, took advantage of my illness to hook up with my husband!" She does little three, no face! ”
Look closely at the woman's left pant leg, blown empty by the wind, revealing a section of prosthetic limbs.
The surrounding crowd whispered, and it was reasonable to say that the users on the first floor could definitely hear the woman's scolding, but the woman named Wen Yao had not appeared.
A lively old man said, "Xiao Hui, I know the situation of your family!" You will fulfill your husband and Wen Yao! ”
When the woman heard this, she angrily pointed at the old man and scolded: "Oh, can I forgive him for cheating in marriage?" Don't even think about it! ”
Who is a woman? Why did her husband cheat during her illness? And the people around them have supported Xiao San? How can women save their marriages today?
"After the illness, the husband found a divorced female nanny for himself"
Feng Hui was born in April 1967 in Lianhu District, Xi'an City, Shaanxi Province.
Both of her parents were workers in the last century, and Feng Hui also worked at a local state-owned enterprise in Xi'an as an adult.
Later, 18-year-old Feng Hui met Zhang Guoqiang, who grew up in rural Gansu, under the introduction of a matchmaker.
Zhang Guoqiang is five years older than Feng Hui, Zhang Guoqiang has been studying very seriously since he was a child, and is the fourth candidate after the resumption of the college entrance examination.
After the college entrance examination, Zhang Guoqiang was admitted to the university in Xi'an, and had just graduated from college when he met Feng Hui.
At that time, college students were still relatively rare, and after graduation, they were assigned jobs, although they had just graduated, but Zhang Guoqiang's future was very clear.
The two had a good impression of each other after the blind date, and then began to communicate.
In 1986, 19-year-old Feng Hui and 24-year-old Zhang Guoqiang held a wedding ceremony in the presence of their families.
After marriage, Feng Hui gave birth to a daughter for Zhang Guoqiang.
At that time, the people who could be admitted to the university were very smart, and so was Zhang Guoqiang.
After marriage, with the help of Feng Hui's parents and Zhang Guoqiang's own efforts, he also worked hard in Xi'an.
Zhang Guoqiang opened a factory, the business is very good, and Feng Hui himself is also holding an iron rice bowl in a state-owned enterprise.
The young couple bought their own house and car, and the neighbors around them were envious of their lives.
However, it seems that feng hui's family has gone too smoothly, and fate has made a joke for feng hui.
In 2009, 42-year-old Feng Hui was diagnosed with severe diabetes during a medical examination.
Because of the various uncomfortable symptoms caused by diabetes, Feng Hui could only resign from the state-owned enterprise to recuperate at home.
Since then, the burden of the whole family has fallen on Zhang Guoqiang alone.
At that time, the daughters of the husband and wife had reached the age of marriage.
Not only to maintain the family's expenses and treat his wife, Zhang Guoqiang also has to consider his daughter's family.
But Zhang Guoqiang has no complaints, he has always shouldered this family.
However, her husband's careful care did not make Feng Hui's condition improve, and in 2016, Feng Hui's diabetes condition took a sharp turn for the worse.
Complications caused Feng Hui's legs to begin to swell, severe pain is unbearable, Feng Hui even walking has become a problem, basically in a state of paralysis.
After that, Feng Hui rarely went out, and he didn't even go downstairs.
The medicines That Feng Hui took were all imported medicines, and Zhang Guoqiang worked harder outside in order to be able to treat his wife.
But sometimes there are too many socializing, and Zhang Guoqiang has to take care of his wife, and he is busy and lacking in skills.
Zhang Guoqiang then suggested to his wife whether to find a nanny to take care of Feng Hui.
Feng Hui agreed, and a few days later, Zhang Guoqiang said that he had found a divorced middle-aged woman for his wife to work as a nanny.
The nanny's name is Wen Yao, Wen Yao is a foreigner, in order to be able to cook for Feng Hui at regular intervals every day, Zhang Guoqiang rented a room for Wen Yao not far from home.
Although it was a nanny for Feng Hui, Feng Hui himself had never seen Wen Yao's face.
Feng Hui could not go downstairs, Wen Yao made three meals a day for Feng Hui in the rental room every day, and then sent to Feng Hui's bedside by her husband Zhang Guoqiang.
Although Feng Hui is ill, she still has a woman's intuition.
She found that since the nanny Wen Yao came to her house, her husband had less and less time to come home.
Sometimes for almost a week, the husband will only return home when he delivers three meals a day, and he will not stay at home to sleep at night.
Feng Hui found that her communication with her husband was her own initiative, and her husband was also playing with his mobile phone after returning home.
The couple barely communicated, and after about half a year, the husband also proposed that the husband and wife sleep in separate rooms.
With the passage of time, Feng Hui's family could not even find the breath of her husband Zhang Guoqiang's life.
At first, Feng Hui also thought that her husband had felt burdened by taking care of herself for many years, so she was cold to herself.
Feng Hui also patiently raised this question with her husband, but every time her husband answered, his eyes were always fluctuating.
Although Feng Hui was under the care of her husband, her sixth sense told her that her husband's heart had flown to the nanny.
"Bumping into the fact that the husband cheated at the nanny's house"
I have to say that the wife's sixth sense is really accurate.
In 2020, due to the deterioration of her condition, Feng Hui's leg was forced to undergo amputation.
After the operation, Feng Hui's legs were fitted with prosthetics, and her range of motion also became wider, from being confined to the side of the bed to being able to get on the ground freely.
After being able to walk freely, Feng Hui immediately considered checking her husband's tracks.
Sure enough, Feng Hui found that her husband and nanny Wen Yao had a leg!
Feng Hui, who heard the news, was furious and asked her husband and nanny for an explanation.
Feng Hui did not greet her husband in advance and came alone to the rental house of Nanny Wen Yao near home.
In the fifth year of hiring Wen Yao, Feng Hui met this woman who took care of herself three meals a day for the first time.
Wen Yao was wearing a blue flower skirt, and from her appearance, she looked a little younger than Feng Hui.
What made Feng Hui most difficult to accept was that the traces of her husband in her home were empty, but Wen Yao's rental house was full of her husband's clothes!
Before she could confront Wen Yao, her husband Zhang Guoqiang rushed to Wen Yao's rental house after learning the news.
Seeing Feng Hui, Zhang Guoqiang explained: He was about to pack up his clothes and return to his family.
Feng Hui was already overwhelmed by the fact that her husband had cheated on her at this time, and she pointed at Wen Yao and began to scold.
Feng Hui asked Wen Yao why the same woman should intervene in someone else's marriage and take advantage of the danger! Is Wen Yao worthy of his conscience?
Because of the loss, Wen Yao had been hiding in the room silently when he was present, waiting for Feng Hui to insult him.
Feng Hui stood at the moral high point and constantly scolded Wen Yao, a third party, who had to be ignored, and then the more he scolded, the more ugly it was.
Wen Yao was scolded uncomfortably, and she made it clear to Zhang Guoqiang that she and Zhang Guoqiang had severed contact.
Feng Hui was aggressive, and many neighbors around him were attracted by the noise.
After learning the cause of the quarrel, there were not many neighbors to blame Zhang Guoqiang and Wen Yao.
The neighbors are all trying to persuade the angry Feng Hui to open up and let her be more considerate of her husband's difficulties.
What's going on here? Why should neighbors be considerate of the betrayer of marriage?
"When you get married, you bury hidden dangers"
After Zhang Guoqiang and Feng Hui returned home, Zhang Guoqiang felt ashamed of Feng Hui's scolding outside.
He angrily became angry with Feng Hui, and Zhang Guoqiang thought that he had been working diligently and fulfilling his husband's obligations in the more than ten years that Feng Hui had been ill.
Zhang Guoqiang cheated in marriage, he admitted that he did not do it right, but Zhang Guoqiang also had no shame.
Feng Hui was angry after hearing her husband's words, and she kept scolding Zhang Guoqiang for being a man with no conscience.
Zhang Guoqiang couldn't bear it, he pushed Feng Hui and scolded: "You ask yourself what you did in the marriage?" ”
As early as when Zhang Guoqiang and Feng Hui were in love, Zhang Guoqiang was already dissatisfied with his wife.
Zhang Guoqiang was born in the countryside, his family is a farmer, although Zhang Guoqiang himself has a university diploma, he is still looked down upon by his wife.
The wife's whole family is a worker, and the wife also has an iron rice bowl in the state-run unit.
Moreover, Zhang Guoqiang was admitted to his wife's house at that time.
Because the wife's family is not very able to look up to their own home, their rural parents rarely come to visit their homes after marriage.
Occasionally, Zhang Guoqiang could feel the impatience of his wife's family.
Because of his wife's arrogance, Zhang Guoqiang felt that his male dignity had been trampled on.
After the couple got married, there has been a small quarrel, and the emotional life is actually not smooth.
Before That, Zhang Guoqiang suppressed his dissatisfaction, and he thought that the couple's life would continue to go on so plainly.
Unexpectedly, in 2009, my wife fell ill.
On the surface, Zhang Guoqiang does not abandon taking care of his sick wife and is a good man, but in fact, Zhang Guoqiang has long been dissatisfied in his heart.
After Feng Hui fell ill, her strong and aggressive personality did not change, and Zhang Guoqiang has been taking care of Feng Hui for many years purely by relying on marital affection.
When she said this, Feng Hui did not wait for Zhang Guoqiang to finish, and she asked one after another, is it still reasonable for her husband to cheat?
Moreover, in marriage, it is a matter of course for a husband to take care of his wife, and Zhang Guoqiang will not be able to leave in exchange for a sick Feng Hui.
Even if Zhang Guoqiang has more excuses, he can't hide the fact that he cheated.
The couple talked for the first time in five years, and Zhang Guoqiang expressed fatigue and proposed a divorce to Feng Hui.
Feng Hui said that she didn't want to think about divorce, she just wanted to drag Zhang Guoqiang, who made him sorry for himself.
"Daughter does not understand mother"
Seeing that Zhang Guoqiang could not enter the oil and salt, insisting on divorcing himself, Feng Hui could only find Wen Yao again.
Feng Hui believes that as long as Wen Yao and Zhang Guoqiang completely break off contact, her husband may have a chance to turn back.
This time Feng Hui did not push any more aggressively, she and Wen Yao sat down and communicated calmly.
Wen Yao said that in fact, she never thought of destroying the relationship between the two, and she has always advised Zhang Guoqiang to treat his wife well.
At the beginning, Wen Yao had a good feeling for Zhang Guoqiang, but also because he saw Zhang Guoqiang taking care of his sick wife for ten years.
The opportunity for the two to be together was because Zhang Guoqiang played cards.
Every time he played cards until midnight, but when he returned home in the middle of the night, he would be scolded by his wife Feng Hui, and Zhang Guoqiang could only stay here in Wen Yao temporarily.
Wen Yao had been enlightening Zhang Guoqiang, and over time the two had come together.
For Feng Hui, Wen Yao suggested to her: You don't have to scold your husband so fiercely all the time.
As a woman, who can't help scolding her husband and suppressing her husband? Scolding the husband will only make the relationship between the two people more and more distant.
After that, Feng Hui and Zhang Guoqiang's daughter Zhang Li also rushed back, and Zhang Li said that in fact, her father and Aunt Wen Yao were very good.
Although Zhang Guoqiang had no feelings for Feng Hui, he was not ambiguous in his care.
He never withheld Feng Hui's medicine money and his grandparents' alimony.
And Aunt Wen Yao is also very good to her family. When Zhang Li was ill, Wen Yao also went to Zhang Li's house to take care of Zhang Li.
Sometimes Wen Yao would go to Zhang Li's house to cook, and Wen Yao was more like her mother than her mother Feng Hui.
Moreover, neighbors and relatives actually know about Wen Yao and Zhang Guoqiang, and everyone looks at it.
Because his mother was sick, there was one less help, and things outside the family could only be resisted by his father Zhang Guoqiang alone.
The father will inevitably feel bored, and Aunt Wen Yao is intimate and gentle, which can relieve the bitterness in his father's heart.
There is a difficult scripture in the family, and in their own home, the sick mother is this difficult scripture.
After that, Zhang Li came to the house and persuaded her mother on behalf of her father.
Feng Hui hoped that Zhang Li could help her find Wen Yao and keep her away from her family.
But Zhang Li said that she couldn't do such a thing.
Wen Yao has been helping Zhang Li take care of the child after Zhang Li gave birth, and Zhang Li said that she was not qualified to talk about Wen Yao.
Feng Hui found that her daughter was actually partial to outsiders, and she felt bitter in her heart: "She helps you take care of the children, why don't you think about who took care of you when you were a child!" ”
Zhang Li shouted at her mother, "You have become so selfish when you get sick!" Think of yourself from start to finish, never for your family. ”
Zhang Li said: "I will not persuade my father, his heart is not here with you, what else do you want!" ”
Feng Hui was surrounded by her daughter's overwhelming accusations, and she sat on the sofa and covered her face and cried.
Feng Hui didn't know why her family had become what it was today.
"Shake hands and make peace"
In June 2021, in order to save the family, Feng Hui found the family mediation column group of the local TV station.
She told the column group that she had no requirements and only hoped that Zhang Guoqiang would return as soon as possible.
The two also slept together as before and had problems talking directly.
Under the persuasion of the gold medal mediator of the program group, Zhang Guoqiang promised to break off contact with Wen Yao first.
He moved his clothes back home from Wen Yao's rental house, and Zhang Guoqiang said that he would be responsible for Feng Hui to the end.
But he wanted his wife's temper to get a little better, and to pay attention to the way she talked to himself.
Feng Hui also made concessions, saying that she would no longer nag her husband and daughter.
For the rural parents on her husband's side, Feng Hui will also support them.
Feng Hui said that after that, she would not interfere too much in her husband's affairs outside, and the husband and wife finally shook hands and made peace.
Every protagonist in this matter feels that he is not wrong from his own point of view.
Although Zhang Guoqiang betrayed the marriage, he took care of his sick wife for many years and never abandoned her.
Although Feng Hui is grumpy, from the perspective of perennial illness and lack of relationship and comfort, her approach is also beyond reproach.
It is difficult for a clean official to decide on family affairs, and we are not parties, so it is difficult to condemn one of the parties.
However, now that the two have reconciled, I hope that Feng Hui and Zhang Guoqiang can change their previous problems and maintain their marriage.
If from the beginning, Zhang Guoqiang will tell the dissatisfaction with his wife's personality, and his wife can also correct it, maybe there will not be so many problems after that.
In marriage, if there is a problem, you should communicate, learn to understand and tolerate others, which is the fundamental way to maintain a long-term marriage.
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