Everyone in their old age will experience a harsh reality! That is, what do you rely on to retire?
Many people will think that it must be dependent on children to provide for the elderly, otherwise what is the purpose of having children? Isn't it just to let them retire!
However, the beautiful phenomenon of raising children and preventing old age was very feasible a decade or two ago. In today's society, it is not necessarily. This is not alarmist, you can ask the elderly who have now entered their old age, most of their answers are not to believe in raising children to prevent aging. And they will feel that when they are old, they have to rely on themselves, which is the most effective.
Narrator: 76-year-old Uncle Lee
I am 76 years old, retired for more than ten years, and I am still sober-minded, and I can take care of myself, and I have two sons and a daughter, and they are all in the same city. With such good family conditions and physical condition, many people think that I am a happy old man, but I have also lived a very miserable life in the past.
I retired at the age of 60, and I wanted to retire when I could step into a pension life that countless people envy. However, in the first year of retirement, my wife died of illness, and she walked away very suddenly, leaving me forever in a nap. Since then, I have lived alone and lived a bleak and desolate old age.
Many people will wonder, I have three children, why don't I live with them? In fact, not long after my wife left, I also wanted to live with my three children, and I could also help them with their children, cook, look at home, and so on. However, living with children is not an easy and pleasant thing.
I tried to live with my children for a while. At that time, the eldest daughter was very enthusiastic, saying that I had nothing to live by her side, and the eldest daughter and I lived relatively close, 5 kilometers apart. Moreover, when the eldest daughter bought a house, I also sponsored 150,000 yuan, and they also said that they would leave a room for me to live in. So I thought that my eldest daughter was a good choice for me, and I could go back to my home when I had nothing to do, so I tried to stay for a short time.
At the beginning, the eldest daughter and eldest son-in-law welcomed me very well, and they served me every day, and I didn't have to do any work. The eldest son-in-law is a cook, and I am also very blessed in my eldest daughter's house, and I can eat my son-in-law's best dishes every day. And the environment of the eldest daughter's side is also very good, next to the park, and the elderly activity center, I eat and drink every day to go outside to play, do not have to worry about anything.
So, in the first few days, I was still enjoying it, and I thought it was my happy life. However, after about twenty days of living, the son-in-law began to have opinions, and complained to my eldest daughter behind my back, saying that I had a house and a pension, not to mention that I had two sons, how could I live in their house. And the eldest daughter did not dare to tell me directly, and finally the two of them thought of a way to take over the two sons of the family, and I saw that the house was not enough to live, so I had to find an excuse to go back to my home.
After going to my daughter's house to retire, I turned to my two sons again. However, the eldest son is a rotten gambler, the house he bought for him in the early years was sold by him to pay off gambling debts, and now a family of three rents a house, so I have to rely on him for the elderly, it is really better to live alone at home. Living with my eldest son, my old book may be eaten by him.
The eldest son couldn't do it, so I went to the younger son's house. This youngest son is my most proud son, who has achieved excellent academic results since he was a child and is the only child in the family to be admitted to college. Nowadays, he is a small leader of the state-owned enterprise unit, the family conditions are very superior, I am still filial piety, and he has a better conscience during the New Year's Festival, and will give me money and buy things.
I went to my younger son's house and had a good time. He has a nanny at home, I used to take my grandchildren, the rest are all nannies to take care of, I don't have to intervene. At the beginning, my son and daughter-in-law also paid great respect to me, every day my father was long and my father was short, and the family was very happy to get together. However, the generation gap between the elderly and young people will not disappear because of good feelings.
After living in my younger son's house for about half a year, my son began to get bored with me, because I had a small physical problem, and I often had to go to the doctor at every turn, and every time I had to trouble my younger son, so that he had to take leave to serve me often. Therefore, more times, my son complained, saying how I did not let his eldest brother take care of him, saying that I was delaying his career.
The daughter-in-law hated me even more, and was kind to me in the first few days, but when she saw her younger son complaining about me, she added oil and vinegar to the side. Saying that I am sloppy, saying that I am not a righteous person, and even arranging my words randomly, and so on. Originally, the younger son was just secretly, whispering complaints, and would not really accuse me of anything. But listening to the pillow wind of my daughter-in-law, she became more and more ruthless to me.
When I lived in my youngest son's house for almost a year, I unfortunately lost my foot, and for a while I had limited mobility and had to be served. At this moment, the younger son broke out, and at first he made a quarrel with his eldest brother, saying that his eldest brother was not filial and irresponsible, and later accused me, saying that I was biased, counting on him for everything, troubled him, and did not let other children bear anything.
In the face of my younger son's complaints and accusations, although I was a little angry, I could understand it. Since I came to his house, I have caused him a lot of trouble, the cost of food has increased, and I usually have illness, but he also serves and takes care of him. Therefore, I want them to be harmonious and not hurt their affection. So he sneaked back to his house, thinking not to bother them.
However, there is hardness, but reality does not allow me to do so. An injured old man who wants to live alone is really difficult. But if you can't rely on your children, what should you do? Later, the kind neighbor advised me, saying that I had so much pension, I simply asked a babysitter to take care of it for a while, and then quit when I was healed.
I think it's quite good, A month of 6,000 pension I, looking for a babysitter to serve is more than enough. At that time, I immediately went to the housekeeping company to recruit people. There are many nannies to interview, but when it comes to doing it soon, everyone is unwilling to serve me, until she meets a 50-year-old Xiao Wu, she is willing to take my job.
At the beginning, I did not have any expectations and good feelings for the nanny, after all, the nanny is not good news, I have seen a lot, so I only hope that the nanny can cook me food, can assist me in life, and always take care of my feet. However, I did not expect that this nanny Xiao Wu brought me a different enjoyment.
Xiao Wu is a rural woman, especially diligent and responsible. Every day, not only do you serve me well, cook for me in a different way, but also care about my physical condition, and when there is nothing to do, she will also take the initiative to help me exercise. I once told her bluntly that there was no need to work so hard, after all, I also used her for a short time. But she said that if you take a penny to do a job, take my money, you must serve me well. I also laughed and told her, if I am served too well by you and my foot hurts quickly, then you will be unemployed.
But Xiao Wu smiled and said: What is it, the employer is well served, and we as nannies are happy and proud. I don't know whether Xiao Wu's words are sincere or polite, but when I was served by Xiao Wu, I felt extremely happy. Although the nanny does not have the warmth of the children's affection, she is more responsible than the children.
Every day I enjoyed the babysitter's personal service, the original doctor said that I need two and a half months to walk normally, but in less than two months, my foot injury recovered almost completely, and I could walk slowly on my own. And a large part of these credits come from the careful nanny Xiao Wu.
Originally, I said yes at the beginning, I quit the nanny after the foot injury and lived on my own, but when I saw Xiao Wu so diligent and honest, I liked it very much. And I'm old, and I need someone to be by my side. Therefore, I changed Xiao Wu from short-term to long-term, and signed a three-year contract with her in one breath.
At that time, many people around me said that I was stupid and had a lot of money, I could take care of myself, why spend so much money every month to ask a nanny? Some people say, I have money and a house, people are good, in fact, I can remarry and find a wife to serve. But I felt like I was doing the right thing. I have money and I want to retire how I want to retire, and I just have to live happily. And an old man like me, if he remarries, may not be able to find a good wife, and may find a burden to come back, so it is better to spend money to ask a babysitter.
Today, Xiao Wu has been serving me for 6 years, and we have become relatives living like relatives. Every day there are people who serve, do not have to look forward to the filial piety of their children, but also get the enjoyment of the old age, I think this is very happy.
Therefore, when people are old, having money is the most effective, once they encounter children who are not filial piety and cannot get the support they deserve, we can choose a different way of providing for the elderly when we have money. And not to rely on children or the government to support them. Are you right?
epilogue:
In fact, in the final analysis, the elderly must understand such a sentence: in the old age, it is better to rely on their children and daughters than on themselves, and they must save enough money and exercise well on their own, so that we can live freely and happily in our old age.