I don't know when it began, Chinese parents began to popularize the saying that rich daughters are raised, and rich daughters correspond to poor sons, which is a kind of induction of different ways of raising children.
Daughters should be rich, which means that girls must grow up in a relatively wealthy family environment, even if the family cannot afford too expensive parenting costs, they must also provide a superior life for their daughters as much as possible within the scope of their ability.
In this way, when the girl grows up, she will not be seduced by the little favor in front of her, or deceived by the boy's sweet words and gifts.
Many years ago, such a statement may have had its own truth, but with the continuous development of China's economy in recent years, social concepts have gradually improved, and the gap between the parenting of sons and daughters has gradually narrowed.
People are coming to understand that children should be raised as all-round people, not imprisoned by gender.
However, a family from Anshan City, Liaoning Province, failed to catch up with the tide of the times.
The parents adhered to the concept of rich daughters, and gradually raised their daughter Liu Jiachen, who was originally quite good, into a rich princess who only knew how to spend money for fun.
As he grew older, Liu Jiachen took advantage of the family's good economic situation, spending more and more money, causing a lot of burden to the family, and even the police station did not enter less.
In desperation, the family had to seek help from others.
A good student with excellent character and learning has become a rich girl who dropped out of school
Born in 1997, Liu Jiachen has been the pearl in the palm of her parents since she was a child, because her father is doing business, the family is still rich, from the beginning of Liu Jiachen's memory, she has not worried about eating or wearing.
From childhood to adulthood, Liu Jiachen grew up in the habits of her parents.
This habit did not reflect any negative impact in the first few years of life, and also made Liu Jiachen's parents negligent and eventually paid a price for it.
Since attending primary school, Liu Jiachen has shown a strong self-reliant personality.
This makes Liu Jiachen's parents very happy, especially Liu Jiachen's father, who has always adhered to the concept of rich and supportive daughters.
In his view, the reason why his daughter can have an independent sense of life at less than ten years old is the result of the perfect practice of her own educational philosophy.
This kind of independence has brought a lot of help to Liu Jiachen, in the school, Liu Jiachen can do everything without the teacher's urging.
Whether it is study or class work, Liu Jiachen's performance is very prominent.
At that time, Liu Jiachen won the Three Good Student Awards, which are still kept by her parents, and they are taken out from time to time to recall the appearance of their daughters who were both good in character and learning when they were young.
After entering junior high school, Liu Jiachen further showed her advantages, she was the captain of the class, and all the big and small affairs in the class were managed by her.
Even her class teacher claimed that in all the classes she had taken before, few captains could almost become the class teacher's right hand like Liu Jiachen.
In terms of academic performance, Liu Jiachen also made rapid progress, ranking among the top students in the school, most of the time at least in the top ten positions of the whole school, and this ranking was even maintained until the day Liu Jiachen dropped out.
No matter what happened before this, as long as Liu Jiachen was willing to study and take the exam, she could maintain her good grades.
It is such a good girl who seems to have a bright future, but after entering adolescence, she ushered in a huge change in her life.
From the second year of junior high school, Liu Jiachen, instigated by adolescent hormones, began a comprehensive self-change, and she suddenly said to her parents:
"I don't want to go to school anymore!"
In the face of this sudden change, Liu Jiachen's parents were overwhelmed, and they asked their daughter what difficulties they encountered. Or is there something else to think about?
In this regard, Liu Jiachen's answer shocked his parents even more: "Reading to change fate is a nonsense, and looking beautiful is the advantage." ”
It is hard to imagine that Liu Jiachen, who was once a good student and excellent student, would say such a thing, and her parents came to the school to communicate with the teacher and learned the truth of the matter.
It turned out that during that time, Liu Jiachen suddenly liked basketball, often playing in the playground with his classmates in his spare time, and later gradually developed into skipping class.
This made Liu Jiachen's class teacher very dissatisfied, and he had many conversations with Liu Jiachen and carried out criticism and education.
Liu Jiachen, who was raised from a young age, has been smooth in his past life and has hardly been criticized.
This fierce verbal confrontation with the teacher made Liu Jiachen resentful, and in a fit of anger, she decided not to go to school anymore.
But just because of a conflict of playing basketball, I am afraid that it will not change Liu Jiachen's life so strongly.
From the communication with the teacher, Liu Jiachen's parents found that their daughter did not become like this overnight, but experienced gradual changes.
In school, in the eyes of his classmates and teachers, in addition to good grades and good management, Liu Jiachen also has a major feature, that is, his family is well-off.
Whether it is daily group activities, or extracurricular time before and after school, Liu Jiachen will spend money lavishly, which has also attracted the envy and pursuit of many other students.
In the previous primary school, Liu Jiachen and his classmates were still young and could not understand the meaning of money, and now in junior high school, Liu Jiachen began to experience the pleasure of spending money.
Compared with this pleasure, the sense of accomplishment that she had brought about by her hard work and hard work in managing the class, and the boast she received from her teachers and parents, seemed less concerning to her.
Under the influence of such many factors, Liu Jiachen's heart has produced changes that are difficult to observe from the outside world.
When this change was completed, Liu Jiachen's parents and teachers found out that it was too late.
Before Liu Jiachen's independence, at this time, her parents and teachers disciplined her the biggest obstacle, no matter how outsiders persuaded, Liu Jiachen insisted on her own ideas.
Liu Jiachen's withdrawal from school has caused contradictions in the originally happy family.
Her mother's personality itself is more impatient, after learning that Liu Jiachen did not want to go to school, she fell ill in a hurry, and lay in bed for nearly half a month before gradually recovering.
Even because of Liu Jiachen's insistence, she once thought of using jumping off the building to persuade her daughter to return to the right way.
But all this did not make Liu Jiachen change his mind.
In the end, Liu Jiachen dropped out of school as she wished, stayed at home and began a life of spending money and wanton behavior.
She fought often, and she even started fighting with her mother
"It's all on my doorstep?" The house is checked, you really can! Don't run there, wait for me! ”
The person who said this sentence was 15-year-old Liu Jiachen, who was sitting in the back seat of the car rushing home at the moment, and the conversation with her was a group of social idlers on the other end of the mobile phone.
Because the last time in a street fight, Liu Jiachen beat her opponent into a serious injury, the other party could not swallow this breath, called a group of friends, found Liu Jiachen's home address, and was waiting to teach her a lesson at the door of Liu Jiachen's house.
Ten minutes later, Liu Jiachen was about to arrive at the door.
She had learned on the phone that the other party was a small group of several people, but she alone did not feel any fear.
It was as if all this was happening not a major event, but a part of everyday life.
Soon, Liu Jiachen rushed to the door of the house, got out of the car and scolded several people on the other side for a while, and then began to move his hands.
Fortunately, the shouting and fighting downstairs alarmed Liu Jiachen's parents upstairs, and they didn't have to open the window to know that their daughter must have had an accident downstairs again.
When the parents got dressed and went downstairs, they saw that their daughter was mingling with a group of social idlers.
They hurried forward to separate the people, and their father hugged Liu Jiachen and dragged her away from the battle.
Liu Jiachen, who was restrained by his father, still looked fierce, stared at the opponent of the fight, and constantly shouted and cursed in his mouth.
The incident ended with a group of people coming to the Public Security Bureau for the record.
This process, Liu Jiachen's father is already quite familiar with.
He has been in business for decades, has always done his duty, tolerated things, and has never entered the public security bureau.
However, since his daughter dropped out of school in the second year of junior high school, he has become a regular customer of the Public Security Bureau, and from time to time because of his daughter's fights, he has been called to the Public Security Bureau to receive people and file for the record.
After the matter was handled, Liu Jiachen was taken home by her father, where she was waiting, as well as her mother's scolding.
The family education of the Liu family is different from the traditional sense of "strict father and loving mother", this family is "strict mother and loving father".
Liu Jiachen's father had a gentle temperament and did not refuse almost all of his daughter's requests, so he had a particularly good relationship with his daughter.
But her mother was impatient, as can be seen from the radical idea of jumping off a building when Liu Jiachen dropped out of school.
After Liu Jiachen dropped out of school, he clashed with his mother many times, and the contradictions between the two sides became increasingly irreconcilable.
In particular, every time Liu Jiachen was taken to the public security bureau for committing a crime, her mother would severely criticize her and even move.
This kind of education method also caused Liu Jiachen to rebel, and in the past few years, the number of times the mother and daughter duo have started to do it is countless.
This time Liu Jiachen returned home, and her mother in pajamas began to scold her again:
"What are you messing with them?" You don't annoy people, can people come to you? ”
15-year-old Liu Jiachen, no longer as obedient to her parents as she did in elementary school, she is not even willing to have a good dialogue with her mother, in the face of her mother's scolding, Liu Jiachen said to herself:
"What's wrong with me messing with them?" I beat them for nothing! I'm happy to fight! ”
The quarrel between the two sides gradually escalated, Liu Jiachen was tired of listening, and wanted to return from the living room to his bedroom alone, while her mother blocked in front of her and would not let her go.
The quarrel gradually turned into physical contact, and Liu Jiachen's mother once again could not suppress her anger and slapped Liu Jiachen's face.
This slap made Liu Jiachen extremely angry, and she stopped returning to her room and began to scold her mother loudly.
As a daughter Liu Jiachen, there is still a bottom line in her heart, and she is unwilling to punch and kick her mother.
But the anger also made her unbearable, and she grabbed the empty mineral water bottle on the table and threw it at her mother, hitting her right on the body.
An empty mineral water bottle will not cause much harm to the mother, but it will make the rift between mother and daughter a little deeper.
In the face of all this, Liu Jiachen's father had no choice.
He can calm his anger in the fight between his daughter and outsiders, but in the conflict between his wife and daughter, he can't do anything.
At the end of the quarrel, Liu Jiachen was no longer willing to stay in this home.
She put on her clothes and said to her mother, "This family has you without me, and I have me without you." After that, he opened the door and went downstairs.
Liu Jiachen's mother could only sit at home and be sad, and she could no longer discipline this daughter.
At that time, it was late at night, and Liu Jiachen, who had left home, did not wander the streets, but went to a bar she was most familiar with, hoping to regain her dignity in the cheers of her friends.
Ten thousand yuan shoes are thrown away three times, and 300 yuan of breakfast is eaten every day
At just 15 years old, Liu Jiachen has become a regular at the bar.
For at least three days a week, she spends at least three days in a bar, and Liu Jiachen's three words have become synonymous with high-roller in the eyes of many local bars.
She has VIP cards at almost every bar, and whenever she goes, she can sit in the best booth and enjoy the attention of the audience.
As long as Liu Jiachen wants to sing or dance, the bar staff will arrange a personal show for her.
Because Liu Jiachen spent a lot of money and didn't care, all bars were afraid of losing such a guest.
After being criticized by her mother, Liu Jiachen desperately craves everyone's attention, and the bar is the best place for her to win this attention.
In the bar, Liu Jiachen sang and danced with several acquaintances, and finally eased his inner bitterness slightly, but soon after, trouble came to the door.
Because in the process of dancing, a stranger accidentally stepped on Liu Jiachen's shoes, she suddenly became angry, quarreled with each other, and the two people pushed and shoved all the way to the outside of the bar and began to move again.
Liu Jiachen has fought many fights over the years, although she is a daughter and her height is much worse than that of the other party, but the fight is unambiguous.
Not surprisingly, the brawl ended with Liu Jiachen's father going to the Public Security Bureau to pick him up.
One night, Liu Jiachen's father went to the public security bureau twice, which is the current situation of the family.
Faced with such a situation, Liu Jiachen's parents felt very regretful.
They believe that all of Liu Jiachen's misdeeds are based on spending money like dirt, which is a failure of the concept of rich daughters.
In the bar, Liu Jiachen was angry after being accidentally stepped on by a stranger, not because she felt offended, but because she had an obsessive preference for shoes.
Liu Jiachen likes to collect all kinds of shoes, as long as it is what she likes and likes, no matter how expensive it is, she must buy them back.
The shoes that can be collected by Liu Jiachen, in addition to the need for her to like, there is another important condition, that is, it must be expensive enough to be rare enough.
Ordinary brand-name shoes all over the street are not worth wearing in Liu Jiachen's view.
What she likes to wear must be a limited edition, and it must be expensive, buying a pair of shoes costs tens of thousands of dollars, which is part of Liu Jiachen's daily consumption.
In Liu Jiachen's home, there are piles of shoe boxes, and each shoe box contains high-end shoes of tens of thousands of yuan.
Among them, there is also a pair of limited shoes that claim to be the only one in the world, which is also Liu Jiachen's favorite pair of shoes.
Collecting these shoes is Liu Jiachen's hobby, but she only has one pair of feet, and she can only wear one pair of shoes every day, and the more shoes she buys, the more difficult it becomes for Liu Jiachen to wear every time she chooses shoes.
In order to solve such difficulties, Liu Jiachen came up with a solution: each pair of shoes was worn only three times, and the shoes that were worn three times had to be thrown away.
Throwing while buying, so that you can not only have the pleasure of buying shoes, but also avoid the difficulty of choosing shoes when wearing shoes.
In addition to shoes, Liu Jiachen also likes to buy a variety of luxury goods, LV, Hermès and other brand-name bags, as well as all kinds of watches, are Liu Jiachen will buy back the daily necessities when he goes out.
However, in daily life, Liu Jiachen likes an unfettered and free style, and often does not carry bags and watches and other accessories when he goes out.
These luxuries are just scraps that she bought on a whim and played with them for two or three days and then threw them in the corner.
For Liu Jiachen's squandering of wealth, her parents felt helpless.
Although Liu Jiachen's father was in business and his mother was also an administrator of a company, the family was well-off, but he could not afford to abuse money like his daughter.
According to Liu Jiachen's father's calculations, most of the family's annual income is squandered by Liu Jiachen on luxury goods and fun.
Since Liu Jiachen dropped out of school, the family could hardly save any money all year round.
Liu Jiachen's mother often quarreled with her daughter about this, and once because her daughter was disobedient, her mother took advantage of her daughter's lack of attention and gave all the hundreds of pairs of shoes she had collected to neighbors and relatives.
After Liu Jiachen went home and learned about it, the mother and daughter had a big fight, and what they did not expect was that shortly after the end of the matter, Liu Jiachen began to buy brand-name shoes in a big way.
Within a few days of hard work, there were only a lot more shoes in the family than before they were sent, and Liu Jiachen used this method to resist her mother's discipline.
In addition to buying luxury goods, Liu Jiachen also likes to eat.
But strictly speaking, Liu Jiachen just likes to fill the table with food to enjoy happiness.
Every morning, Liu Jiachen would order high-end takeaway of nearly 300 yuan.
More than a dozen takeaway boxes filled the entire table, Liu Jiachen would only pick a few of them to eat, after eating, he lay on the sofa and shouted that he had not eaten enough, while letting the food in front of him waste.
For her, these things are not delicious, just put them to see, there is no need to eat them all, and it is normal not to eat enough.
Such profligacy and waste is really unbearable to look at.
But the question is, Liu Jiachen herself is only a 15-year-old child, there is no source of income, where did she get so much money to squander? If you want to discipline Liu Jiachen, as long as you don't give her money, you can't do it?
In this regard, Liu Jiachen's father could only smile bitterly.
Over the years, the relationship between Liu Jiachen and his father is very close, whenever Liu Jiachen is short of money, he will ask his father, and the father also lovingly gives the money to his daughter, which is the only chain that maintains the warmth of this family.
If the father does not provide pocket money to Liu Jiachen, I am afraid that even the only warmth between father and daughter will no longer exist.
Therefore, even if Liu Jiachen's father knew in his heart that it was wrong to do so, he still couldn't cut off Liu Jiachen's pocket money.
The so-called loving mother is more defeated, and in the Liu family, this sentence has become a loving father and a more defeated child.
A month of rural life pulled her back on track
In order to lead their daughter back to the right path, Liu Jiachen's parents have made a lot of efforts, and the closest to success is that they guided Liu Jiachen to like shooting sports.
After a period of professional training, Liu Jiachen actually achieved good results and won the national championship, so he was qualified to enter the Liaoning Provincial Team for training.
To this day, Liu Jiachen's home still has several trophies from the competition that year, and from time to time he will take them out to show them.
But now Liu Jiachen has not gone all the way in the field of shooting, and the trophy is limited to these few.
The reason is that after Liu Jiachen entered the provincial team for a month of training, because of a little quarrel in daily life, he fought with a student sister in the team and broke the other party.
Therefore, Liu Jiachen had to retire from the provincial team and return home again.
Seeing that all the methods did not work, Liu Jiachen's parents made a final choice:
Send your daughter to a famous life experience program and let her go to a remote rural area for a month of life transformation.
I hope that in this way, Liu Jiachen will experience the difficulty of making money and the hardships of life.
After Liu Jiachen's parents contacted the program team, the two sides signed a contract, and then told Liu Jiachen about this matter, which made Liu Jiachen feel very angry.
In Liu Jiachen's view, his father would never make such a choice, and his mother must look at herself unfavorably and hope to send herself away.
So Liu Jiachen took advantage of the fact that his family did not pay attention, left a letter and ran away from home, which read:
"If Daddy is not at home, you will secretly contact others, so that I can't come back, Daddy knows that he must hate you, I am a natural enemy with you, you definitely want me to leave this home, I will not let you succeed, and finally call you Mom, goodbye!" 」
Seeing this letter, Liu Jiachen's parents were shocked, and they quickly mobilized their relatives and friends around them and reported to the police at the public security bureau.
After some searching, Liu Jiachen was found at the home of a friend he knew and brought him home.
After a long period of persuasion, Liu Jiachen reluctantly agreed to participate in this activity.
However, as everyone expected, after coming to the remote countryside, in the face of a life of great contrast, Liu Jiachen showed extreme resistance.
In a remote mountain village in Yunnan, Liu Jiachen spends a month with a local family.
But on the first day of living in the farmhouse, Liu Jiachen did a lot of things out of the ordinary.
She not only picked up a flaming firecracker and threw it into the program team's office, but also refused to hand in her mobile phone, causing headaches for the staff.
The next day, Under the arrangement of the staff, Liu Jiachen came to the local primary school to prepare for school, and after many years of leaving the classroom, she felt unwell as soon as she entered the classroom, and stayed for a few minutes before snatching the door and leaving.
The local teacher followed Liu Jiachen and wanted to bring her back to the classroom, so Liu Jiachen clashed with the teacher and almost fought.
After smashing a window in the classroom with a glass bottle, Liu Jiachen shouted to the primary school teacher: "If you were a man, you would be lying on the ground now, do you understand?" ”
In the first few days, Liu Jiachen hurt other people and himself in such a violent way.
Until the parents in this temporary family returned to their hometown from the place of work and took special care of Liu Jiachen.
From the two temporary parents, Liu Jiachen felt the father's love and mother's love that she had not experienced before, or did not experience with her heart.
With the help and education of this pair of temporary parents, coupled with the difficulties of rural life that Liu Jiachen has witnessed in the past few days, her heart has gradually been changed.
One day, Because Liu Jiachen couldn't stand the difficult life, he ran to the local airport alone with his bag on his back and wanted to fly home.
After her temporary mother heard about it, she followed the car of the program group all the way to the airport and hugged Liu Jiachen and did not let go.
When Liu Jiachen said in the car that she was going to jump out of the car, her temporary mother said to her: "I jump when you jump." ”
For many years before, Liu Jiachen had been spending time with her biological mother in scolding and beating, and at this moment she felt unprecedented care from her temporary mother, which became the key to changing Liu Jiachen.
After this incident, Liu Jiachen began to slowly change back to the good student who was both good in character and learning.
Not only did he begin to respect his elders, but he was also willing to help the temporary family to do some farm work within their ability, never to ask to go home again, and wanted to live the rest of the family.
In the blink of an eye, a month passed, and Liu Jiachen said goodbye to her temporary parents and returned to her biological parents.
This reunion surprised Liu Jiachen's biological parents.
The daughter seems to have become sensible overnight, no longer clamoring for money to spend, the number of visits to bars has gradually decreased, and the relationship with her parents has gradually harmonized.
Liu Jiachen's parents may not understand the reason, but Liu Jiachen herself knows that this month's exchange life has made her see clearly how superior the environment in which she lives is, and how worth cherishing.
In particular, Liu Jiachen's previous attitude towards her parents was absolutely inappropriate in her current view.
In this way, Liu Jiachen became the good daughter in the eyes of her parents.
In September 2021, Liu Jiachen shared his recent situation in the past few years on social platforms.
It turned out that two years after the end of the program that year, Liu Jiachen got the consent of his parents, went to Beijing to study alone, and after graduation, he did media-related media work, step by step on the right track.
Later, Liu Jiachen's father needed to change his kidney because of uremia, and Liu Jiachen resolutely gave up his well-paid job in Beijing and returned to his hometown to help his father take care of various matters.
In the end, the family found a suitable kidney source and spent 2 million yuan before and after to do kidney transplantation, saving his father's life.
On February 5, 2022, Liu Jiachen sent New Year greetings to netizens who were still concerned about her on her social account.
Now, Liu Jiachen and her parents maintain a good parent-child relationship, and she has found a job with good treatment, staying by her parents while taking care of her family while living an ordinary life.
She said: "Because of my parents, I stayed in the small city, but I can go to the big city to play, I don't regret it, I don't regret it." ”
The money she earned was no longer squandered, but she fell in love with tourism, and every year she would find time to explore all over the country and even various tourist cities in the world to see the world.
This rich girl who was raised by the concept of a rich daughter to develop a princess disease finally found the rhythm of her life, even if she once took the wrong road, it does not matter, I hope that her future road can go frankly and broadly.