Shanghai drift 20 years northeast sister cancer recurrence, the day before yesterday left this world (supplement + message)

Yesterday, the master sister's ovarian cancer recurred, did not carry it, and died at home in the northeast. Our Shanghai research group made a donation in a timely manner, hoping to send this ill-fated sister a ride.

The article "20 years of Shanghai drifting northeast master sister, cancer recurrence did not carry the past, the day before yesterday left this tired world" has attracted widespread attention and discussion from friends. Thank you for your concern and interaction.

In the past ten years, she has been fighting cancer on the road, living a very difficult life, humble, strong, introverted, unwilling to talk too much about her illness to our brothers and sisters in the research group, so that everyone thinks that she can recover.

During this period, people have seen her one after another, saying that she is in good shape, white and fat, and the brown spots on her face are much less.

She also once told a sister that she meditated some time ago and thought it worked very well.

Unexpectedly, during the Spring Festival, I actually got the bad news that she left suddenly, to tell the truth, some shock, but also some emotions.

Ovarian cancer has been around for more than a decade, and it has been a long, difficult, lonely, and painful recovery run for her and her family.

Her family was originally poor, the process of curing diseases and controlling cancer, has been constantly spending, and can not make all the money, psychological, physiological and economic burdens can be imagined.

And she is a person, alone in Shanghai, and there is no one to share or discuss things. This is also where our research team members feel that they have not done it properly.

A friend left a message saying that without family companionship, no regular life, day and night upside down, and continuous work under high pressure are a challenge to normal people, let alone a patient?

Indeed, therefore, it is a real pity that a living person, said no, is gone.

Rabbits die foxes are sad, things hurt their kind, and suddenly we are all 40-50 years old.

May she walk without pain and with peace.

According to the messages of friends, I would like to add a little fragment of my sister's life to see if I can explain everyone's concerns and doubts?

1. Why did she resign from the local monitoring station 20 years ago?

——She graduated from Suzhou University of Science and Technology with a bachelor's degree, when she entered the monitoring station, she said that there was a compilation, and later the compilation was encroached upon by others, she had no background at home, and she was depressed to work as a technician outside the staff for several years, her mood was uneven, plus she had a strong personality, and people also loved to learn, so she returned to her alma mater and was admitted to graduate school in Shanghai.

2. Why does she keep doing translation and not looking for a job?

-- Freelance translation is probably a more suitable money-making action during graduate school, simple and fast, and fast monetization. Other students worked for a while, and when they stopped doing it, she insisted on doing it.

One is that she is taciturn and does not like to deal with people;

The second is that she is so strong and serious, can sink her heart, and is suitable for such a timely and serious code word work;

Third, the income from free-time translation is OK, 20 years ago, the 1000-word task was about 80-120 yuan, 12 hours a day, about 1500 yuan of income, if you can receive the big work of translating the manuscript, the income is even more considerable.

For her to come out of the northeast countryside, she will compare her immediate pay and income, which she feels is quite appropriate.

Fourth, before it was a group of people doing free-time translation, monks and less meat, and then everyone did not like to do it, talk about love, talk about love, find other part-time, find other part-time, do experiments to do experiments, with translation tasks, can not push off, naturally thrown to her.

She reluctantly accepted it. As a result, she did more and more work, and did it faster and faster, and won more and more recognition from translation companies.

It should be said that from her master's degree to before the recurrence of cancer, the translation task is continuous, for a girl like her who has come out of a poor family, to be honest, the desire for money is very eager, after all, money is heroic courage, money gives her a sense of security in the city and the realization of personal value.

Compared with the normal workplace of teachers and sisters, her income was not low in the first few years, although it was more difficult. Because the income is not low, and it is relatively free, free from complicated interpersonal relationships, tired commuting buses, she feels that it does not matter if she does not look for a job.

3. Why is it not easy to stop the translation activity?

- Part-time work, relying on the sense of language, once in, just like the melon seeds, excellent translators hope to be done quickly, after the work is completed and delivered, there is a sense of success, at the same time, every few days the remuneration will be paid in, this instant satisfaction of cashing, is very encouraging.

I remember that one day, I received five remittances in a row, although the amount was not large, but for poor students, I was still very proud, and in turn, this self-reliant happiness also prompted me to continue to do translation.

So much so that when the translation company came to me as a translator later, I needed to "break away" when I resigned.

This is even more so in the case of my sister,perhaps she has the idea of stopping full-time translation and looking for a job, and she has also put it into action, but the job she is looking for is not satisfactory, and she must unconsciously retreat to her comfort zone and continue to translate the code words in the world to make a living, such a choice I understand.

4. Social security issues.

She paid her social security. Later, the medical expenses for cancer treatment were also reimbursed in part, about 50%-60%.

5. Her relationship with her parents?

Her parents are also very simple, and because of their simplicity, they cannot understand her inner world.

6. Why did she choose Shanghai Drift?

She is actually a very poor girl, with a small circle of friends, 10 years older than her classmates, and sometimes it is difficult to integrate into her master's classmates. But it has a good relationship with a few of our doctoral brothers, of course, more often, we also take the initiative to greet her.

Shanghai has many job opportunities, simple interpersonal relationships, no gossip about marriage, good contract spirit, city management in place, safety, fine... these are the reasons why she and many of our brothers choose Shanghai.

On the other hand, at her age, if she returns to her hometown, what kind of "care and inquiry" will she face from relatives and friends?

Hu Drift gave her a thick protective shell and a sense of security, and in this city, she felt that she could realize her dreams and chase dreams, which was also good for her disease control.

7. Why didn't I find a partner?

——I heard that I also talked about it in my hometown, but I broke up because of the examination and research, and I was not married. Later, in the process of resigning, preparing for the exam and studying for graduate school, the economic pressure was relatively large, and some of the family had to be subsidized during the period, and the family was too poor.

On the other hand, when I was in graduate school, I was 30 years old, my appearance was average, I was seven or eight years older than my classmates, and I had less relationships with local friends at the school; because I was busy with part-time work and study, I had no time for love, and I couldn't have a campus romance. After graduation, she had some friends to help her introduce friends, and she also had substantial contacts and contacts, as well as a foreigner. Later, it was fruitless, knowing that it was impossible to do it.

Later, it was about 38 years old, suffering from ovarian cancer, fighting on the road to fight against the disease, at this time, there was no mood and hope for a boyfriend. Most of my life is lonely.

Therefore, friends are right, at the right time, or to do the right thing, men should be married, women should be married, respect the laws of nature, enjoy the warmth of normal families, this is the basis of healthy life in middle and old age.

8. What would happen to her if her life came back?

- Life does not have a return button, the fork in the road of life, their own choice, only their own walk, and the personal choice, must be a variety of reasons to decide together, the parties must have their own reasons. We have only blessings for this.

At this point, I can't help but sigh: life and death have a destiny, and wealth is in the sky.

In this strange, complicated, hopeful and exhausting world, my sister, she has come, experienced, been happy, distressed, and fought against the disease.

Now, turning into green smoke, I have gone to that world. And among those who don't know her much, we will always remember her former existence, her voice and smile.

When she left us, she was only 50 years old, and she was forever fixed on the appearance of middle age.

Her departure has also sounded an alarm for all of us to live in middle age and remember our health.

Finally, thank you for your attention and message, and wish you all good luck, good health and good luck in the Year of the Tiger.

Below I excerpt some of the precious messages of good friends, there are positive, negative, neutral, there are also some health perceptions and cases around, I think it is quite valuable, I hope to help everyone.

Health perception

1. Long-term staying up late is easy to get cancer, black and white upside down, people's body retrograde, after the age of 50 people's resistance declines, serious illness will come to greet;

2. When your ability is too different from your dreams, what is left for you is only loneliness and pain, my life is up to me, just coax those young people who have beaten chicken blood, only the heart is higher than the sky, and the life is thinner than paper;

3. It may be related to lack of exercise. Such writing work, the need for a long time to sit posture, if there is no habit of exercising every day, it is easy to block blood circulation, easy to produce nodules, and then evolve into cancer, later treatment is good, or did not get rid of this work, and relapsed and metastasized;

4. All-weather translation around the clock and night, just like a taxi, it is driven day and night, and it is easy to scrap quickly.

5. After experiencing such a case, I will feel empathy and sigh to the 25-year-old young man: Young people! Don't have too many birds flying and fish leaping vision, as long as it is a legitimate good mix of money and a lot of work, it is a good job. The so-called winner in life is almost a good job, a harmonious marriage and a good family. Young people will definitely scoff at you.

6. It is not easy for people to live! It's all about running and toiling for life! When there is a problem with the body, I know that health is the most important!

7. Irregular life is the focus, day and night upside down, plus it is a woman, it affects the body function, this situation is not surprising at all, all diseases are tired, if it is not translated for many years, it may not get cancer.

8. Either stay in the old public institution, or leave Shanghai after graduating with a master's degree to find a vocational and technical college in the middle of the country to be a teacher, suitable for older young women. Her graduate students at that time were also very good at finding jobs in Shanghai, and her reluctance to find a job was related to her personality. Loneliness and irregularity in life were also one of the reasons she became ill at the age of 38. Life is not easy, be positive and optimistic. May the dead rest in peace.

9. Life is plain, healthy and happy, there is no need to suppress yourself in order to pursue a higher level of life, after all, life is only a few decades, even if you pursue the height you want? In the end, it is necessary to leave this world.

10. Since you like to translate, why give up your public office, study for a master's degree, engage in half a day or at the origin, drag yourself down for half a life. Without any capital, do not plan well for your future, and do things with ease.

11. I also have a deep feeling about life: life and death are impermanent, and it is normal to live, grow old, sick and die. Therefore, to be a human being, you should see life and death clearly. Since you are still alive, you must learn to work optimistically and live optimistically. As for the rest, leave it to Providence.

Life should be self-sufficient, and good health is king! Everything is a floating cloud, the Great Wall is still there, and I don't see Qin Shi Huang in that year!

12. Translation needs to go to graduate school, read the full text, it seems to be a text translation, this to be honest threshold is not high, you can do it anywhere, study and graduate school spend more money on the work is not much help.

Other people's cases

1. A good buddy, died in March 21, her daughter-in-law is very strong, we played the best few buddies to make up money, this year's Spring Festival to see the children, on the surface of the mood is still good, dare not mention, the wall is still hanging his photo, the sky is forever separated.

2. Seeing the article, I have feelings, one of my sisters who has seen less than three times, a northeasterner, died of illness in the hospital's own post, a hard-working disciple, the disease is in the laboratory, the fate is uncertain, but they all try to prove that they have come, want to leave something real in the world! Remember!

3. Getting cancer has a lot to do with stressful mood, if you are married, have children and husbands, it is possible that cancer will not return. I have a relative who doesn't know how to solve things when he encounters them, and is always depressed, and two cancers come to me. Man, you still have to learn to explain yourself, and don't look too important at everything.

4. There are many older unmarried girls in Shanghai who can't tell the pain, right? My daughter's PhD classmates working in Shanghai are not married, very good jobs, rich economy, and good family conditions. If you do the math, it's over forty. But they all live a dashing and happy life.

5. Can only say that this woman is poor in cognition of the future, there is a Shanghai collective account, why not go to the insurance of social security, medical insurance, especially medical insurance, monthly payment of fees to protect their own illness when they are guaranteed, my daughter in 2020 during the epidemic period of the company closed the job, I let my daughter must continue to pay medical insurance, Guangzhou freelance medical insurance more than five hundred per month, about half a year, re-employment has five insurances and one gold, the enterprise then participates in insurance, so a word ~ people do not have far to worry about the near future.

6. It is painful to see, people have been self-disciplined and hard-working all their lives, but they have ushered in such an ending. There are social factors, but also their own choice factors, as middle-aged people recommend living happily and living is more important than anything.

7. The countryside is the countryside, you can choose to work in the big city but do not buy a house, buy a house also choose a smaller city, rent a house is best no pressure, women should get married or get married, in fact, there are many benefits... My classmate of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs is at the section level, and wants to use the relationship to do coal business to buy a house, and then he lost his job and sold his girlfriend's house... It's miserable

8. If you are seriously ill, you can appreciate the benefits within the system! I would like to sincerely thank my unit for giving me the greatest help within the scope of the policy. Especially at the school level, great care is given to teachers who are seriously ill.

9. See the words environmental monitoring station, I am a master of environmental science, I have long wanted to open this matter, is it to live more comfortably, or to live for my dream? Depending on the person, I think there is nothing bad in the northeast hometown, I am the master + work has not left home more than 50 kilometers past now the same comfortable batch, work during the day, go home at night to eat and watch TV fitness, what is not good?

10. I was a graduate student in Shanghai from 2003 to 2006, and after graduation, I left Shanghai, shanghai was too stressful, and now I live a good life and am in good health.

11. Shanghai drift is not easy, especially single elderly knowledge women. I also have a northeast female classmate, the test score could have been fudan, because of the parents' sake, finally chose our 985 engineering school, very talented, the appearance can also be, is the backbone of our college student union, management major, master also read, graduated from a state-owned enterprise in Shanghai, the hukou did not take a detour, it was easy to fall directly to Shanghai, worked for several years, felt that although comfortable but the state-owned enterprises to die, there is no big future at a glance, the company is also a bit xenophobic, The promotion is basically not her new Shanghainese. Later, he tossed and left his job and ran to Beijing, the toss became unstable, his personal feelings were delayed, he never got married, and then later, he returned to Shanghai... Hey, life is like a dream.

Square view

1. I am nearly seventy years old, but I do not agree with your point of view. Like most of us after the fifties are only children, the children who have a career are flying far away, can not count on, the children who have not shown up, many of them take the old age as a matter of course, the parents are miserable, we do not know whether it is fortunate or unfortunate to have offspring. I have a female classmate from college, unmarried all her life, a famous expert in a large hospital, she is living a lively life, and female classmates are envious of others to live a lifetime.

2. People have their own ambitions, if you don't fight so hard, maybe it will be better! The path you choose should be without complaint or regret.

3. I think everyone is worthy of respect, no matter what kind of experience

4. In the northeast is indeed very boring, the mood is too high to stay, the big city is good, but the pressure is high, very contradictory!

5. The way of life is different, it has nothing to do with right or wrong, I chose because I want to live like this... Other people's outlook on life, not their own, never have any empathy, fate, how to live once, after all, are in vain, dream woman, rest in peace! The road to heaven is full of flowers!

Opposing views

1.50 years old, if you get married early, your children will have graduated from college. Shanghai Drift North Drift is really not easy. What's so bad about graduating from college and working in your hometown to get married and have children?

2. Having a good home is the best platform, and a woman who is too strong is only more and more unhappy the more she lives.

3. What is the significance of a person working like this? Academic success? Career success? Family fulfillment? Without physical health, everything is zero. Sometimes I always feel that everything is important, and in the end I find that my body is important, and everything else is floating clouds. Go all the way, be an ordinary girl in the next life, be healthy and healthy, and be happy and happy

4. Although the struggle is worth advocating, it must also be within the scope of personal bearing, otherwise it will not be worth the loss, and it has to be said that this is a tragedy.

5. From 2000 to 2008, how many foreign enterprises and private enterprises sprung up! Why not find a job? Return to normal social and family life!

6. Having a good home is the best platform, and a woman who is too strong is only unhappy the more she lives

7. Is it bad to have a public office to find a boyfriend to get married and have children? If you are safe and stable, you will not get cancer, and you will die at the age of fifty

8. According to the age calculation, it should be a master's degree graduate around 06, about 35 years old, at that time to find a Midwest Vocational and Technical College OK, why has been drifting, boyfriend also has not!

9. Choice is greater than effort, running all the way on the wrong choice road, thinking that staying in the metropolis can achieve the glory of life, and finally a chicken feather, nothing.

10. She should be very happy to work locally without graduate school, the heart is strong after all, people, don't have to be too strong, there are mountains outside the mountains, there are people on people, sad and lamentable

11. The heart is higher than the sky, and the life is thinner than paper! She is inferior and sensitive, and does not dare to communicate with the outside world. This is not called effort! It is simply repetitive mechanical labor, not even manual labor. Now the development of ai technology can replace human translation, except for the truly outstanding translators. But she, who only takes on piecemeal work, simply cannot reach this level of translation. Escape from reality! I don't sympathize with her at all. A good hand of cards is broken, and being a civil servant in her hometown is already a leap in her class. She graduated with a master's degree, and the central part can still find a vocational and technical college as a teacher, which is stronger than her Shanghai drift, and there is no future for the chaotic life of Shanghai drift, which has no meaning at all

12. Fate is in their own hands, public office resigned from the graduate school, no matter how high the academic qualifications are, there is no use in a stable job, one wrong step at a time. Overwork is the trigger for cancer.

13. Do a career in your hometown, find a father-in-law husband, give birth to a man and a woman, be happy and happy, and are not willing to go to Shanghai to die of exhaustion. With civil servants working, it can be said that more than 70% of the people earn income. If you don't have to go to a first-tier city, why do you go? Going to Shanghai, Shenzhen and Beijing is just to make money-making human flesh machines for the company!

13. After graduating from graduate school, I don't look for a job, I do temporary translation, day and night are reversed, and there is no medical insurance and social security, which is obviously the wrong way.

14. The heart is too high, people's life still has to be, pragmatic, don't set yourself so high, really yourself are too tired, others are also staring at you, tired panic, just so many talents, find a relatively stable job, even if you earn a little less, you can do some amateur likes, business, isn't it also very good? Too paranoid, let yourself go to the tip of the horn, pity the talent, more pity, age, a lifetime of hard work is like this, hey, really, it makes people sad, very helpless, more is not understood.

15. Depressed living alone, narrow circle of friends is not in line with the group, life habits are reversed, often due to business pressure extreme overdraft of the mind and body, adversity does not know how to let go of the regressive thinkers ..., cancer personality also!

Neutral view

1. On the road to the pursuit of self-worth realization, it is a true portrayal of many young people now, a person who walks alone, and finally dies away from home, has not yet become a mother and a wife, and her inner world may only be understood by herself.

2. The road comes out on its own. There are joys and sorrows, but there is no right or wrong

3. A self-respecting man, a poor man! alas! Life is not easy, be kind to life!

4. Tired, long-term life and work tension, day and night upside down, the physical damage is too great. There is no one to guide around the home. If it hadn't been translated for years, I probably wouldn't have cancer.

5. Everyone pursues different pursuits. The complex interpersonal relationships in small local units are even more head-scratching. Some people prefer simpler relationships, there is no right or wrong.

6. People should do what they are at what age, and it is difficult to miss it. Should be married, multiple family warmth can increase immunity!

7. Find a balance in life within the scope of my own ability, let my desires be built within my ability and live happily, this is how I ask myself.

8. My experience, many rural college students have a less realistic understanding of society, no parents' guidance, think that relying on their own efforts to earn a bite of food to eat and do what is the same, when they can choose, do not pay attention to the five insurances and one gold, do not pay attention to the guidance of people who come over, do not pay attention to marriage and children, and finally the end is very tragic, this situation is very common.

9. Infinite sighing, the same age and age. Sighing that life is impermanent and unpredictable, experiencing the ups and downs of the career, experiencing the life and death experience of heart attack, experiencing the thin cold and warm self-knowledge of human feelings, looking down on all gains and losses, can we calmly move forward! Cancer is often caused by long-term depression! Only when you can put it down can you let go!

10. If she is 28 years old and meets her at the age of 38, she will definitely tell her bitterly at the age of 38: Stay in the institutions in the northeast and don't move. Take the last chance to get married and have children.

11. Now from God's point of view, if she was born into a poor people and could find a public office in the local area, she would have reached the limit. At that time, the era and region, she was almost thirty years old, did not know to balance the relationship between career, marriage, and school, and did not know how to seize the last opportunity to get married and have children, which was also sad.

12. No social security, no big savings, no family, not even friends, hanging up at the age of 50, it is not a good thing. After extrapolating according to the inertia of this lady's 50-year life trajectory, it is even more difficult! The deceased rests in peace and goes all the way

13. Getting cancer has a lot to do with stressful mood, if your sister is married, there are children and husbands to accompany you, it is possible that the cancer will not recur. I have a relative around me, who does not understand the solution of things, is always depressed, and two cancers come to the door. Man, you still have to learn to explain yourself, and don't look at everything too important.

14. The world is too attached to fame and fortune, but it is easy to hurt themselves, why not look at the opening point, life is like a flower in the morning, and it will wither at night, like a dream or an electricity? Let go of obsession and go back to nature! The natural way to wellness!

15. The result of high life pressure, staying up late and turning upside down, not exercising, eating well, and not having complete family emotional support. Exhausted. In fact, with her English level, it is also a good choice to take a teacher qualification certificate, apply for a middle school teacher in a third-tier city, and live a normal and simple life.