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As the old saying goes, "There is no one left in the family, and the rich never stop." ”
According to the ancients, a family, to be rejuvenated, it is necessary to go to the complex and simple, do not stuff everywhere, so that people can not find a place to stay.
By analogy, people, who are members of the family, want to improve the quality of life, they must deal with the relationship between family and personal interests, and clean up some dispensable things in time.
As a retired elderly, everyone wants to live happily, but many times, it backfires, and I always feel that I am carrying a heavy load and spending the rest of my life breathlessly.
Today, I am discussing with you the topic of "throwing while walking", hoping that after retirement, we can easily live a life and let everything return to zero.
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Throw away the "pride" in the workplace and walk into the crowd.
Among the elderly retirees, there are always some people who have served as leaders or have made achievements in some aspect. People around them, when they meet and greet, do not call their names, but call them "a certain director, a certain director, a certain section chief" and so on.
Hearing the name with "workplace flavor", your value will immediately rise, and your body can be straightened. In fact, after retirement, titles and identities can no longer be equal.
According to the formal saying, after retirement, the director should be the "original director"; the section chief is the "original section chief". It's just that everyone is used to removing the word "original".
Once, the neighborhood committee convened some retired elderly people to hold a symposium, hoping to hear everyone's opinions on the construction of the community. An old man who had served as the director of the bureau picked up the microphone and spoke for more than ten minutes, from self-introduction to interpretation of policies.
The director of the neighborhood committee gently reminded: "We are mainly solving the problem of harmony in the community at present, and we need specific measures." ”
A certain bureau chief suddenly realized his gaffe, put down the microphone, and became silent.
Throw away the "official shelf", chat face-to-face with the masses, get used to "discussing things on the spot", and the people around you will be very enthusiastic and will really form an interactive situation.
Many retired elderly people always complain that the people around them are not polite to themselves and have prejudices. The real situation is actually "high and low", raising yourself too high.
Being an approachable person makes people warmer between people.
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Throw away the "extra things" in the family and live a life of thrift and thrift.
In some families, there are often some things that have not been opened, there are also some things that have only been used once or twice, and some things, all year round, are used once. For example, the abrasives used to make rice dumplings are only used once during the New Year.
Some old people, after retirement, like to raise flowers and grass, but they are not good at taking care of them, and withered flowers and grass often appear. The pot has no life, should it be thrown away or kept? Most people will choose to keep it, buy another plant, and plant it.
Some elderly people, the development of hobbies, only three minutes of heat, over time, because of the hobby to bring more and more objects. Let's say, because of the hot head, the fishing rod was configured, but it was only used once or twice.
There is a saying that goes: "A clean home is blessed." ”
In my hometown, there is such a rule: after the age of seventy, add less new clothes; after the age of sixty, do not build a new house. That is to say, to advocate the elderly, according to the change of age, change the consumption attitude, adjust the requirements for food, clothing, housing and transportation.
The days are frugal, and the pension is more valuable. If the elderly live a life of more than one year, their sense of happiness will naturally increase.
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Throw away the "high demands" on your children and accept the ordinary life of your children.
Middle-aged people have high requirements for their children. They not only care about their children's achievements, but also force their children to learn art, experience life, and so on.
In the Xunzi Persuasion, it is written: "Qing, taken from blue and blue from blue; ice, water is colder than water." ”
Most parents want their children to mix better than they do. But the actual situation of the children makes the parents worried.
When the parents retire, the children are already twenty or thirty years old, and the development trend of life is becoming more and more obvious. In fact, parents should accept their children's status quo and respect their choices, rather than exposing an attitude of "unaccustomed and despised".
An old colleague of mine gave birth to only one daughter. When my daughter was in elementary school, her grades were very good, but when she was in junior high school, she plummeted and did not even enter high school.
Now, the old colleague has retired, and everyone says, "She, ah, went to vocational school, learned cooking, and really walked the right way." "My daughter opened a restaurant and a happy little family, what else is there to worry about in the past?"
Blessed people will often give their children praise, not complain.
05
Throw away the "prejudice" against society and look for the best in society.
Wen Yiduo said: "The individual is equal to the cells of the body to society, and for a person to be physically sound, it goes without saying that every cell must be sound." ”
In society, not all things will be fair and reasonable, and not all people are high-quality people. If you observe carefully, you will find some petty theft, picking flowers and stepping on grass.
There are always some old people, with pensions, but feel that the income is too small; living in the city, feel that the traffic is very crowded; staying in the countryside, lacking the love of their children... In fact, what makes a person unbalanced is not the external force, but his own heart.
Happy people are not flawless, but accept everything that is imperfect in the world.
For example, when you see that your fitness equipment is broken, you find an opportunity to repair it and do a good thing. If you complain that the manager is too lazy and in a bad mood, the opportunity to show yourself is lost.
Whether society is good or not is actually a matter of perspective. Throw away the prejudices and look up, it's all about the smell of flowers and herbs.
06
What songs to sing on what mountain, what things to do at what age.
Throwing away is not nothing, but a realm, a wisdom of trade-offs.
Life is like a boat, when you are a teenager, you throw away the safe harbor, go into the deep sea, catch fish and shrimp; in old age, you throw away the temptation of the deep sea and return to the safe harbor.
Everyone wants the world to be safe, but life will not be static, there will always be ups and downs.
Therefore, we must understand that in this life, it is impossible to get everything, so we must learn to "throw".
Dickens said, "Life is never as good as you think it is, nor as bad as you think." ”
Throw away the "bad", and the rest, it's all "good".
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.