Coincidence with house rules
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Families without rules are more terrible than poor and mediocre.
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It seems that most good stories come from a "clever" word. On the fifth day of the first lunar month, a group of friends came to me, invariably, all of whom came to me to discuss the "house rules", and all brought their drafts of the "house rules" to ask me for advice and help to consider and polish.
This left me stunned. At the end of the year, there were three "house rules" at once, which was a bit incredible. Coincidentally, it is really coincidental, Chinese New Year's Eve night, my son and I are also discussing our family rules, and each sighs: a family without house rules, there is no future; tutoring house rules are just the starting line of a normal family. It can be said that "there are no rules, there is no square circle". Families without rules are more terrible than poor and mediocre. The list goes on and on. Not to mention the "Yan Family Training", "Zhu Zi Family Training", "Zeng Guofan Family Training" and other Pu family rules, nor do they say ancient and modern Chinese and foreign aphorisms and aphorisms, even small households in remote mountainous areas also know how to cultivate and read the truth of family tradition.
The author has seen different families, which can be roughly divided into two categories: First, families that have fallen, and the reasons for this are generally due to the lack of good family rules, not paying attention to rules, not understanding rules, not grasping the slightest obstacle, and finally causing the tragedy of falling in the middle of the family road or the family being destroyed, and the fall of corrupt officials and corrupt officials is mostly "a disaster to the Wall."
The other is a successful family, which is the cause and the cause, and good tutoring style and house rules are an important factor. All families who educate families tend to produce academics and highly qualified students; all those who govern their families well are mostly happy and complete, and "good people have a peaceful life"; and most of the families that pay attention to inheritance and work from generation to generation have achieved outstanding experts or politicians or artists. Stories such as "YuGong Moving Mountains", "Meng Mu Godson", "Mother-in-law Thorn Characters" and so on are examples of the long-standing rules of chinese teaching.
There is also a phenomenon that I have seen in my rural hometown. There was a family, the elderly family, who had no education, but the children of two professors and an officer. After years of study, the author has gradually come to understand that the rules of tutoring should also be divided into two categories, one is a family with a strong cultural atmosphere, and the other is a family that does not have much culture but has faith and focuses on hard work. The "old two" is such a representative. Although they have no culture, they respect culture, respect cultural people, and smash pots and sell iron to let their children go to school. Although they are relatively poor, they are busy with agricultural affairs, that is, "digging mountains more than once", and they are always smiling and squinting. Although they do not have any "power" background, they have always been helpful and sympathetic to the weak. The success of this family does not seem to be a cultural success, but it is brought about by a tutor who has not written down the house rules. They know where to go, what to do and what not to do, know how to fear taboos, and once they are right, they will do it to the end. It seems extremely simple and simple, and there are no written house rules, but their teaching is more important than words, and their so-called house rules come from the footprints of their hard work and the sweat of their hard work. Even if such a family cannot produce professors and officers, it will usher in its own harvest in the wind and rain, and interpret the human good story of "ordinary is often a blessing".
Home rule tutoring is both theoretical and practical. There is a lyric that is quite enlightening, that is, "one sentence, one lifetime". Although people should learn a lot of things in this life, understand a lot of truth, and do a lot of things, but the most basic, support themselves often only a few ordinary words, such as kindness, such as hardship, such as things in man-made, such as walking the right way in the world, such as "the book mountain has a road and diligence as a path, learning the sea is endlessly hard to make a boat" and so on, and even said, understand which sentence, do a good job, can achieve a brilliant life. Because "no sentence" is isolated. A wave often connects a large river to the sea.
Therefore, don't underestimate the family rules with only a few words, it can often "cross" a family for generations to live a healthy and happy life...
(Originally written on February 10, 2022)
【About the author】Zhou Changxing (male), born in February 1949 in Huangnan Village, Nanzhan Town, Wenshang County, Shandong Province. He joined the army in February 1969. In September 1990, he returned to the local government to work for Jining Television. He is a member of the Chinese Writers Association, a senior journalist and a poet. He has published long-form reportage "The Place where Kunpeng Took Off", long-form biographical literature "Don't Get Drunk and Don't Say Qiao Yu's Love of the Great River", "Qiao Yu's Love Song", "Great Us", "Big Wave Gold Rush" and so on. He was the author of the 39-episode large-scale TV series "Dajingjiu" of CCTV, and its "Commentary on Dajingjiu" published by Railway Publishing House has been used as an official textbook by the Communication University of China. After retirement, he devoted himself to the writing of online literature and won praise from readers at home and abroad for his grounded and independent works. The concept of "work first, reader first, life first" is the motivation and goal of his efforts to cultivate the subliminal folk.