During the big jump competition, one of Gu Ailing's growth documentaries also caught fire. When she won the championship, her mother Gu Yan's words made people feel very emotional: "You don't have to thank me when you grow up, you don't owe me, I should thank you." ”
After graduating from Stanford and graduating from Harvard, my mother gave up her American citizenship to join China, and was admitted to Stanford with a SAT score of 20 points, and also became the gold medal in the Winter Olympics big jump at the World Championships. Many people are praising Gu Ailing's talent, but what I admire is her ceiling home education.
"Tiger Mother Ceiling" Gu Yan, divorced from her rich american husband, and trained her daughter to become an Olympic champion
In an interview after the game, Gu Ailing mentioned that after she finished the second jump, her mother suggested that she do 1440. But she said to her mother, "I don't want to, I'm going to do 1620." For this kind of risky attempt at the most critical moment, most parents will directly stop and reprimand, but Gu Yan did not.
She said cheerfully, "OK, this is your game, so enjoy it." From this sentence, it is enough to see that Gu Yan's respect for her daughter is absolute. And this kind of respect is too common in the daily communication between mother and daughter. Respect is commonplace for Gu Ailing's family education.
Gu Yan's thinking is completely different from most of the family's parents, and Ms. Gu Yan takes her daughter to the ski resort every week, which takes 8 hours. If it is an ordinary parent, it will say "it is not easy for the mother, the baby must work hard".
But Gu Yan said to the child after a day of fatigue: "My mother likes skiing, and I am very happy that someone who can skate better than me can play with me." "When the baby grows up, he doesn't have to thank me, I should thank you."
Gu Ailing's parents divorced very early, and her father is also a rich man in the United States, so absolute respect makes Gu Ailing have a high degree of respect and admiration for her mother and grandmother since she was a child.
We always strip Gu Ailing's success from a good family environment, constantly admiring how good her genes are, but ignoring the respect and conditions provided by her mother behind her back. As an educator, I fully admire Ms. Gu Yan and can treat children with stable emotions and absolute respect.
I think that the real "tiger mother" is definitely not the mother who yells at the child and scolds the child for "tiger", but the mother who has high requirements for her own thinking, parenting style, behavior and language, and is "tiger" to herself. Gu Yan, on the other hand, is the "tiger mother" ceiling in my heart.
Gu Yan: The most important thing is not to give up learning for a lifetime
In an interview after the game, the reporter asked Gu Ailing what the first thing to do after returning to the hotel was , but her answer was "write homework". After falling in love with free skiing, she never gave up or delayed her homework.
Even though sometimes the training would hurt her whole body and be very painful, she did not delay her studies at all. No matter how late you train, be sure to get your homework done before going to bed. When asked why, she replied, "It's an agreement between me and my mom." ”
Gu Yan's influence on Gu Ailing is extremely deep, precisely because she sees her mother's excellence and highly respects her mother, and she keeps every agreement of her mother in mind. Many people admire Gu Ailing's insistence on learning, but behind this is a sentence of Gu Yan - you can't be an athlete who only skis and has no independent thinking ability and knowledge.
It is precisely because of her mother's emphasis on independent thinking ability and knowledge that Gu Ailing also attaches great importance to these. She has an obsession in education, that is, the habit of never giving up learning all her life. And Gu Ailing has indeed been executing this obsession now, and this obsession will also bring her valuable results for the rest of her life.
Gu Yan is the most worthy parenting concept for the public to learn
We can clearly perceive that Gu Yan has never made any development plans for her children, nor will she arrange a so-called "for your own good" life plan for her daughter. She will encourage children to try different things, let children explore and try on their own, but never plan for children.
If you don't plan for your child, how can you let your child have good planning habits? That's what it takes to teach by example. Gu Yan said that she likes to diversify and cultivate children's interests, and she will try it again, the worst thing is that children don't like it, in case the child likes it, it will be earned! I have to say that this mentality is really rare.
Many parents have educational anxiety, in order to compensate for this anxiety, parents always arrange a full of tasks for their children, and even squeeze the child's sleep time to a certain extent. But Gu Yan has said that she will definitely let her children sleep enough, 15 hours when they were young, 13 hours in elementary school, and 10 hours now.
The reason why Gu Ailing can still accomplish so many things in the case of sufficient sleep time is because she has a high degree of concentration, and this ability also makes her a "time management master". She said that when she plays, she plays very seriously, and when she studies, she also learns very seriously.
No one can reproduce a Gu Ailing, but Gu Yan's absolute respect is worth learning from every parent. We cannot follow suit in its entirety, but we should pay attention to it and teach by example.
Today's topic: What do you think about Gu Yan's education method?