Interpersonal communication is an indispensable part of life for people, and meeting sincere friends in life is a wealth given to you by God.
When you are in trouble, friends can bring you a beam of light in the dark, so many people think that when friends walk the long road of life, they are to help each other and work together.
Of course, helping friends is a good thing, not only can you get your friends out of your current troubles, but also when you have trouble in the future, you can have one more person to help you, but before you help others, you should think more about whether you should help this help.
If your friend is encountering something tricky and you don't have the perfect solution or don't have the ability to help him deal with it, then remember not to muddy the waters.
There are some things you can't help, and if things don't end well in the end, not only will it affect your relationship with your friends, but your friends may also blame you for these responsibilities.
Helping friends is certainly a good thing, but also understand that "do what you can", don't be bad because of good intentions, in interpersonal communication, there are three kinds of help not to help easily, especially the first.
The first: "Busy" for making decisions for friends on big things don't help
Many people will find ways to find ways to find their friends for help when they encounter some difficult problems or important decisions.
If a friend comes to you and asks you questions about her feelings, then remember not to give them too much advice.
You can enlighten and comfort the other party more, but don't make decisions for the other party, otherwise, if the other party gets a bad result because of this decision, then she will inevitably blame you.
Especially for such a life event as "marriage", if your friend asks for your opinion when encountering this choice, then it is best to remain silent at this time.
Marriage is a lifelong thing for a person, no one has the right to make choices for herself, if you go to suggest her at this time, then the only one who will suffer in the end is yourself.
Therefore, in interpersonal communication, this help must not help, if you participate too much, in the end may not be able to help each other, or even destroy the friendship between you, so no matter how deep your relationship is, you must also understand "according to your ability".
The second kind: don't help the "help" that you can't help
Sometimes when friends encounter some difficulties, they will turn to themselves, and often at this time, you will be very happy to agree to each other.
Especially for many good-looking people, they are not willing to tell their friends directly that they can't do this, so they will choose to agree, but they do not consider whether they can do it.
The moment you say yes, you will spend a lot of time and energy to find a way to help your friends solve problems, or even ask for help from other friends of your own, and the final result is likely to be unsatisfactory.
If you don't help your friend solve this problem perfectly in the end, that friend may still complain about you a little in his heart, so don't do this thankless thing, just help yourself.
The third kind: the "busy" who has lent money to a friend many times does not help
In the long road, people will always encounter some economically tense times, when your friend lends you a helping hand, then he must have encountered more difficult and difficult problems.
If you have a deep friendship with him, you can also lend your friend a sum of money that may help your friend get through it.
But if your friend borrows money many times and doesn't pay it back, or even asks you to borrow money again, then you don't want to continue to help.
Everyone has their own life path to go, there are their own life needs to go, if you have been lending to each other, but the other party never returned to you, then when did such a friend consider your feelings?
So when he repeatedly proposes to borrow money, then you must also tell him in time, "I don't have the ability to continue to help you with this help." ”
summary:
Interpersonal communication is very important in a lifetime, but some busy things do not require spending so much time, energy and money to help.
Of course, "helping" is also a mutual process, when you help each other, in the future if you have any difficulties, the other party will also help you in turn.
When you help others, you can think more about whether you can help this help, maybe this will have better results, but also make your interaction with others easier.
If it is some help within your power, try your best to help each other, life is alive, I don't know when you will encounter problems that you can't solve, and helping others is actually helping yourself.