I've seen such a chilling passage:
Q: When did you become completely dead to him?
A: It's when all expectations turn into disappointments.
In the world of feelings, wishful thinking is entanglement; no response, even if it is disturbed.
How a person treats you, in fact, it is obvious that the rest of your life is very expensive, don't love someone who does not love you.
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Perfunctory people, don't try to please
Someone on the Internet once asked, how to judge whether a person cares about you?
In Gao Zan's answer, a netizen said it very reasonably.
There is something to say, the dialog box is at the top, never perfunctory, take the initiative to contact.
Deeply.
If a person really cares about you and cares about you, he will never be perfunctory.
Emotionally, you can't wake up a person who pretends to be asleep, and you can't wait for the person who doesn't want to take care of you.
When the man doesn't love you anymore, is cold when he holds hands, doesn't get close when he hugs, doesn't take him seriously when he talks...
Although the body is with you, the soul has long since fled.
The geese have left traces, and the wind has left a sound.
If the feelings are not two lovers, and all your efforts are treated perfunctory, then you must have the backbone to turn around and leave.
After all, what we ask for in our lives is only warmth and kindness, and if a person is perfunctory everywhere, your flattery will eventually embarrass yourself.
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People who don't respect you, don't try to please
The longevity of a relationship is not a constraint, not a limitation; it is mutual trust and mutual respect.
The man who loves you will amplify your strengths and narrow your weaknesses.
In getting along, show the gentleman's attitude.
Men who don't love you are always pointing fingers at you, looking at you unfavorably, and even laughing at your flaws, and have no respect for you at all.
Love is ultimately a matter of two people, if he can't give you the attitude you want, then turn around in time, because you deserve to have a better person.
People who don't respect you, why curry favor.
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People who don't have you in their hearts, don't please
Backstage, fans often ask me: What do you say I should do? Should I go to him?
I know that there are many people who, in love, are deeply involved in it, and lose themselves.
I think good feelings should be that I have you in my heart and you have me in my heart.
People who have you in their hearts will have expectations, they will miss you, even if they are not far away, they will see you.
And those who do not have you in their hearts, even if they are close at hand, will turn a blind eye and avoid you everywhere.
Don't make yourself too embarrassed, people who don't have you in their hearts, know how to stop at the right time.
Rather than blindly going to the soup for a person, I hope that you will be cherished by people who are full of you.
No relationship can be sustained unilaterally, and don't lose sleep for someone who sleeps soundly.
Please believe that such a wonderful you will definitely meet the person who makes you feel worthwhile in the world.
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Author: Uncle Bei Mo (ID: Beimodashu), look at the cold and warm of the world, write about the sorrows and joys of the world, insist on using words to heal people's hearts, and every encounter with you, I will treat it as a long-term goodbye reunion.
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