From: Jing Jia Reading
Philosophical Garden acknowledges
The author Yang Zhao was originally published in Southern Weekend in 2013
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I don't know if you have noticed that our chat ability is rapidly declining. In the party with friends, our chat topic can only revolve around the gossip of celebrities, the privacy of others, the complaints of life, and in addition, there is no fresh quality content to talk about. Because of the lack of a real cultural life like that of Westerners, we cannot talk to people about the deep understanding of the world, and can only endlessly fall into the vortex of snooping on the privacy of others.
In this regard, Taiwanese writer Yang Zhao issued his own reflections: "People can't talk to each other, part of it stems from the poverty of cultural life. In our society, when you meet strangers, talk about books, talk about music, talk about art exhibitions, who cares about you? So we had to devise ways for unfamiliar people to get together on the surface, but in essence there was no life exchange. ”
Our ability to chat is rapidly declining.
The most common form of our gatherings is that we eat and drink together, watch TV together, and sing together on KTV, and these forms have one thing in common - there is no need to chat with others.
There are people at the dinner table who talk about business; acquaintances in the café can exchange moods and gossip. But these are not the same as [American] party chats. Party chats have no specific purpose, and a lot of the time at parties is spent chatting with people they've never met before.
Ask the other person where they are from, talk about their hometown, terroir, food, attractions, interesting things? Unfortunately, it is easy to meet people who are similarly born and experienced, and everyone's understanding of their hometown is often very superficial, lack of history, lack of stories, and of course, it is impossible to let the topic continue.
Comparing the two, it compares the huge difference with the United States - rich cultural life.
What is culture? Culture is not so great, culture is not so rare and difficult, culture in life, that is, we can feel the enjoyment of ourselves aimlessly, and will be happy to use it to chat with others to share activities.
Culture does not participate for any purpose, culture itself is an end. In order to enjoy the pleasure of listening to music, we went into the concert hall; in order to enjoy the visual sensation of seeing the art, we went into the art museum.
Culture is the best topic to share with people. One is because culture relies on real feelings and can exchange feelings with others; second, because culture is touching and enjoying, so it will not cause disputes and conflicts with each other; third, because culture has many layers of rich content to dig into and implicate, which can make people talk with interest.
The inability to talk to each other stems in part from the poverty of cultural life. In our society, when you meet strangers, talk about books, talk about music, talk about art exhibitions, who cares about you?
So we have to design various ways so that unfamiliar people can get together on the surface, in essence, there is no life communication; but in case this form cannot be maintained, it is often "dangerous" to talk about.
If you are not careful, the topic will go to the privacy of others. Ask about people's marriages, ask about their children, ask about their jobs and even how much they have received. This kind of topic that travels on the edge of privacy can be uncomfortable and rarely has a positive impact on the people involved in the conversation!
Otherwise, it can only be used as a topic to consume other people's privacy. Which star's marriage, which high-ranking official's gossip, does not do anything to the interlocutor, but everyone can rest assured that the head is judged. The content of the speech is usually not related to the facts, and over time, people who are accustomed to such conversations will relax any belief and persistence in the facts.
Modern people can't really live alone, can't not interact with others, and it's impossible not to talk to others without finding a topic. Without cultural life, many people in this society cannot use cultural feelings and enjoyment as natural topics, and they either have to find ways to escape truly meaningful conversations, or they must rely on other topics to support interaction.
Why does a society have so many gossip and rumors? At the end of the day, it has nothing to do with the few cultural events in people's lives that there are so many things to talk about!