Xiao Wang works in a large advertising company, with high salaries and good benefits, which makes others envious. However, Xiao Wang did not think so. In his opinion, the company's bureaucracy was so bad that it was buried

Xiao Wang works in a large advertising company, with high salaries and good benefits, which makes others envious. However, Xiao Wang did not think so. In his opinion, the company's bureaucracy is serious, burying itself as an advertising wizard. Once, he failed to complete an advertising plan in time according to the customer's requirements, resulting in damage to the company's interests, and Xiao Wang also invited a reprimand from the leader. Xiao Wang was unconvinced in his heart, believing that the responsibility was not on himself. Since then, Xiao Wang feels that he is no longer valued by the leadership. After thinking about it, he felt that he would not have better room for development in this company. Although he also advised himself to be patient for a while, the doubts in his heart made him "unwilling to eat", and even felt that every trivial matter was a "sign" that he was excluded. Under this kind of anxious psychological torture, Xiao Wang submitted a piece of resignation to the manager's office. But the manager's reaction was a look of regret: "I have been planning a new company recently, and I wanted to arrange for you to be the planning director... Now that you've decided to leave, I can only express my deep regrets! ”

This example of Xiao Wang is worth pondering. People in the workplace will inevitably experience a gray trough period, patience, in fact, is to wait for opportunities in difficulties. During this period, people's willpower has become extremely weak, and the pressure on psychology can also be imagined. There are nine times out of ten that life is not satisfactory, and the difficulties in daily life, setbacks at work, misunderstandings by others, and unwarranted attacks are pestering you one after another. In workplace skills, the psychological ability of "forbearance" is particularly tempered. This requires you to abstain from momentary bravery and overcome weaknesses in human nature such as frizziness and short-sightedness. In fact, "forbearance" is a kind of wisdom that waits for the opportunity and retreats to advance.

Throughout history, those who have achieved fame and fame and have been exiled for hundreds of generations have many deeds of "forbearance". In the process of "forbearance", people must bear certain pressure, go against their own subjective will, resist the temptation of lust, resist the coercion of power, endure a difficult and difficult environment, and even operate on themselves to cut off the tumor in their personality, which is the reason why most people are difficult to "endure".

Some people may think that whether they can endure is only due to personality, and the endurance of chronic children is naturally better than that of acute children, but people with acute children tend to do things more decisively and can grasp the opportunities that flash by. Is this really the case?

In the 1960s, the American developmental psychologist Walter Mitchell did a famous "candy experiment". He gave some four-year-olds a very tasty juice gummy each, and then told the children: if you eat it right away, you can only eat one, and if you wait 20 minutes, you can eat two. Some children are impatient and eat the sugar immediately. Others can wait a long 20 minutes. In order to make themselves patient, these children closed their eyes and did not look at the sugar, or rested their heads and arms, talked to themselves, sang songs, in order to resist the temptation of candy, and some even fell asleep. In the end, the children, who endured temptation for 20 minutes, finally ate two candies.

The experiment continued, and Walter Mitchell found in his tracking records that by the time they reached secondary school, they had shown a noticeable difference: those who could wait for two candies at the age of four could endure without rushing into adolescence; and those who were impatient and ate only one candy were more likely to have personality traits such as stubbornness, indecision, and repression in adolescence. Meanwhile, a survey of the parents and teachers of these children by Walter Mitchell showed that children who could exchange patience for a second gummy juice at the age of four grew up to be more adaptable and adventurous. They are also more optimistic and popular, and they are more confident and independent. Children who cannot withstand temptation are more likely to become withdrawn, stubborn, or even lazy, retarded teenagers, who often succumb to pressure and avoid challenges, unable to cope with external changes independently.

The experiment continued until the children graduated from college and went to work. The researchers looked again at how the children performed at work more than two decades later and found that those who were able to wait longer to get more gummies were more likely to succeed than those who lacked patience.

It can be seen that the psychological quality of being able to endure does not have an inevitable correspondence with a person's acute and chronic sub-children. People with acute children can also be quiet and patient when they should endure, and people with chronic children can also be decisive. Patience is not a matter of resignation, nor is it unprincipled compromise. "Forbearance" is a kind of cultivation, but also a kind of open-mindedness, a kind of temperament, but also a kind of excellent psychological quality. It can teach you how to be quiet like a virgin, move like a rabbit, how to recuperate and accumulate hair when you are quiet, and seal your throat with a sword when you move.