Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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In the relationship between men and women, whether it is in love or into marriage, a person really loves you, without too many words, the details are the best proof! In particular, no matter how rich or poor, whether he is healthy or sick, he will be dedicated and loyal to you.
People who are in the midst of feelings, it is not terrible to meet lazy people, it is terrible to meet betrayers whose public image looks like everything is fine, but is unfaithful to feelings and causes malicious harm to the people in front of them.
In the face of betrayal, too many people who have experienced betrayal may not be able to let go of various obsessions, so they are fantasically "convinced" that the betrayer still has his own place in his heart, and he can still have some old feelings with himself.
In fact, in the face of such a "fantasy" of betrayal, it is the most undesirable!
Often those who have illusions after experiencing betrayal will be hurt the more deeply! However, the betrayer opened the first door to malicious harm to ta, and ta himself took the initiative to follow the path of the betrayer, opening other doors that hurt him endlessly.
Such people are pathetic and ignorant!
In the face of betrayal, remember – don't keep a few "fantasies" like this:
First: Fantasize that the betrayer still loves himself
The person who really loves you will be responsible for you, will be reluctant to have a little gain and loss, and how can you do something betrayal?
Experiencing betrayal shows that your position in the heart of the betrayer, even if it is "available", must be that some value existing in you is beneficial to the betrayer. And such a value is not necessarily "long-term".
So, the relationship between the betrayer and you will not necessarily be the rest of your life.
If you clearly understand this reality and the hypocrisy and contrivance of the betrayer, you know that the only person the betrayer loves is himself! That's all!
Second: Fantasizing that the betrayer is good to himself is "from the heart"
If a man betrays you, don't expect him to be good to you! Don't be sentimental about thinking that "he must know he's wrong..."
After experiencing betrayal, and fantasizing that the betrayer is sincere in his own goodness, then he has not really understood how little hope is for a person with low character who lacks reverence and responsibility!
To pin one's hopes on a person who betrays oneself is not willing to accept the reality that one has been "abandoned" from the heart by the betrayer. This is also the fundamental reason why many people have experienced betrayal and have been struggling with themselves to get out.
Third: The illusion that the betrayer will truly return
After experiencing betrayal, the most naïve thought is to think that the betrayer will return from the heart for the sake of "love".
In fact, all betrayers return on the basis of weighing the pros and cons. However, ta have not been able to fully "blatantly" show that for the sake of profit, they can only play the "feeling" card.
Because the betrayer knows that the person who knows that he has maliciously betrayed him and still does not let go of himself must love himself. After weighing the pros and cons of the return, playing the emotional card is the most appropriate and the best way to make the person in front of you go from being aggrieved to being moved to accept their own return.
Fourth: Fantasize that if you disappear completely, the betrayer will regret it
Among those who have experienced betrayal, many people foolishly believe that after being betrayed, ending their lives will make the betrayer feel guilty for the rest of their lives.
As everyone knows, in addition to not being responsible for their own lives, such fantasies can only make people who truly love themselves grieve for the rest of their lives.
As for the betrayer, he will only "pretend" for a while, and then start a new life. After all, it is still very pleasant to have one less person in life to "add blockage" to yourself.
However, when people are in place, they will also show a state of human-god empathy to cover up their own evil.
Although the betrayer knows that what he is doing is unhandled and intolerable, he will not admit it. Because, under the desire of the ta, deeply feel that there is nothing wrong with pursuing the way of life that he "wants".
Fifth: Fantasy that with the help of others, it can help repair the relationship between marriage and love
In the face of betrayal, many people who experience betrayal begin to blindly ask others to intervene to repair the relationship, and the results are not ideal.
After experiencing betrayal, if you want to repair the relationship, you must rely on yourself! Although, the success rate on your own is not high! But don't put any hope in someone else.
Although the betrayer is born for desire and has done countless unseemly things for desire, he must not want his behavior to passively "see the light".
If the person who experienced betrayal used the act of repairing the relationship with the help of others, it only means that such an act is too "childish". As a result, there can only be a difference between bad and worse.
What if I have experienced betrayal? Here are a few suggestions that I hope will help you:
First: under the premise of economic and spiritual dual independence, stop loss in time! Don't spend too much energy and time on someone who is not worth it for a momentary unwillingness.
Second: under the premise of spiritual or economic independence, the marital relationship must continue, then it is necessary to distinguish the fact that the relationship repair has nothing to do with the feelings. Otherwise, if you want to repair the relationship, you will lose everything because you are mixed with feelings!
Third: While the relationship continues, do not tell the world about the evil deeds of the betrayer, you may not be able to bear the consequences.
Finally, admonish those who experience betrayal:
After experiencing betrayal, you must maintain your greatest sanity no matter what, and only in this way can you understand the relationship and what countermeasures you should take to deal with such a reality.
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