Originally a flower-season teenager who was full of expectations for the future, full of sunrise and passion for life, he finally chose to end his life prematurely by suicide.
The abrupt end of Liu Xuezhou's life has made countless people in the world feel quite sorry, and even made countless friends who are concerned about him helpless.
In the face of this sad ending, in addition to condemning those Internet thugs, we also have the mainstream media that has made the world "frightened", as well as showing anger and dissatisfaction with the irresponsible attitude of their biological parents.
Perhaps what we should do more is to calm down and seriously think about it:
Why did Lu Dawson follow, and then there was a liu xuezhou? There are even many unreported individuals who are on the verge of suicide.
Why do we now live a rich life, do not worry about eating, do not worry about wearing, but many of us do not have the health of imagination,
Even many young people, when facing difficulties, think more about not actively looking for solutions, but choosing to end their lives prematurely.
The reality of the situation is not optimistic, even very bad, but choose to escape from reality, the difficulties will never be solved.
Today, taking the example of Liu Xuezhou, I would like to talk to you about some of the thoughts and thoughts I have obtained from it myself, and I hope that you can bear more responsibilities.
01, what Liu Xuezhou experienced
Just turned three months old, that is, he was ruthlessly abandoned by his own parents, and the reason why his parents did this was that the two were married at that time, and Liu's father did not have enough dowry money.
So he crossed his heart and sold his own flesh and bones for money, and then the two did not have half a bit of intolerance and sadness, turned their heads and became pregnant with another child.
After Liu Xuezhou was sold, he fortunately met a couple who regarded him as their own, and thought that there would be a happy life, but the heavens seemed to feel that his life was not "legendary" enough.
When he was four years old, an accidental fireworks explosion took away the father's and mother's love that belonged to him again, and the poor boy once again lost a complete "home".
Liu Xuezhou, who had no one to rely on, could only rely on the elderly and frail grandmother (yang) for his life.
Without the children of their parents, they are doomed to have no last shield, and he becomes the only target of bullying, being pointed out in the village.
In school, it is even more unbearable, and it is bullied in all kinds: stationery is robbed, and the place to stay after school can only be toilet, isolated, and framed.
Even the teacher who has received higher education will always stand against him without distinction between right and wrong;
Even the treatment of meals was unequal, and everyone in the school received eggs, but he did not.
He was just a child, he was just an ordinary student, but he was not "treated" as a dog at school.
In order to get the friendship of his classmates and the compassion of his teachers, he has always been strict with himself, abide by all disciplines, and is impeccable in both learning and character.
He is trying to be excellent, he is trying to shine, but the people around him are still blind, still isolate him, and still "punch and kick" him.
In that tortured childhood, only his aunt (adopted) was left to be gentle, and her aunt was the only light that accompanied him through countless dark days at that time.
His aunt loved and cared for him, and he treated her like his own mother.
In this world, he never seemed to be entitled to the love of his parents, and the heavens seemed to be too cruel to him, and his aunt later left him early because of the broken marriage.
Later, when he went to junior high school, he once again suffered indelible pain and was molested by a male teacher.
Repeated relentless injuries, so that physically and mentally exhausted he has long been unable to continue to support, in order to continue to laugh and live, but also in order to get a hope that can support his own life.
After much deliberation, he decided to solve the mystery that had always existed in his heart: his true origins.
On the way to find out his own life, there are many thorns and bumps in the road, but the ending is undoubtedly gratifying.
His origins were soon ascertained, and his biological parents were found.
I thought that the family had been separated for many years, and this reunion would end in a big reunion.
But in the end, it backfired.
The betrayal of his relatives became the last straw that crushed his life.
His own biological parents were found as he wished, but the animalistic side of his own biological parents was also insightful.
He was sold because his father only wanted to make up the dowry money.
He stepped on the iron shoes to find the door, instead of getting their repentance and making up for years of love, but now he is a burden for them, a burden, and an unforgettable past.
Because his parents had gone their separate ways many years ago, and now they had re-established their own families, the two had long been like passers-by, and now he came back, it was his pain, their injuries.
When I propose to my parents that I want a "home", even if it is just a place to stay, whether it is a house or a rental house, for an 18-year-old (some say 15-year-old), I think it is not too much, right?
After all, he has just come of age, after all these years have passed, you have not paid more than half a cent and a half on him, and even sold him in the end just to make up enough money for the bride price to satisfy your dirty deeds.
But such a simple request was a bloodthirsty devil for his parents.
In the end, Liu Xuezhou made his own life public on the Internet, and you said that he was trying to wake up the world, or to win everyone's sympathy.
But what cannot be ignored is that he did not do anything illegal or excessive.
As the majority of the spectators, instead of giving him sympathy, they actually pushed him down the abyss step by step, who was already on a cliff.
After enduring all kinds of beatings, facing the ruthlessness of society, the indifference of the world and the betrayal of family affection, how helpless and desperate did he have in his heart at a young age?
Even in the gutter, he still chose to look up at the stars.
In his suicide note, we can know that he still thinks of his grandparents and children who have the same experience as him.
The world kissed him bitterly, but he kept singing in return.
I couldn't empathize with his pain; but his experience had already made me feel incredibly depressed.
I wonder how indifferent those "executioners" really are. So that after committing a crime, they can actually stay out of the matter, even with a proud attitude!
Can't figure it out, don't know...
02, what to do
In Liu Xuezhou's body, we have seen too many social problems that have existed in the past: human trafficking, school bullying, sexual assault of minors, and online violence.
Problems have long existed, and our relevant laws and regulations have been perfected, these problems have long been noticed by our people, many themes have even been moved to the screen, many schools have also opened relevant educational courses, but the final result, it seems a little unsatisfactory.
Related problems also occur from time to time.
Undoubtedly, compared with the previous lack of attention, the above series of measures have played a great role in the fight against crime.
However, in the face of this kind of thing still happens from time to time, especially in some relatively backward places, today's Liu Xuezhou fell, with the passage of time, after the event came to an end, we will soon forget it, and the next "Liu Xuezhou" will still appear, today's group of "executioners" are old, and the next stubble is still nurturing new life.
Should we calm down, seriously think and reflect on it, is there something that can be improved, and new measures and methods to better deal with it? Instead of ignoring the "last hundred meters" or simply seeing it as an insurmountable chasm, simply adopt a "one-size-fits-all" approach.
Here are some of my personal suggestions:
There is a very popular saying in the military that goes like this: The best defense is perhaps the active offense.
In our existing policies, whether it is the ideology of education, we always put children or minors in the ivory tower to worship, feel that they are still children, we must do all-round protection.
The starting point is undoubtedly good, but is the child willing to accept such protection?
Is the sapling that has not experienced the wind and rain today really enough to become the pillar of his day?
Based on the countless cases that have happened, it's clear that the answer is no!
As people who have come over, we all know how much and how strong the curiosity and rebellion are during adolescence, and the more we have forbidden it without seeing or trying, the more we will rebel.
The idea and treatment of many of us adults is that as long as they hide it, they can't know or get it.
But as everyone knows, through his own methods or the help of his classmates and friends, he has already obtained the answer in his heart or even what he has been dreaming of, but you adults think that you are smart, and feel that the purpose of protection has long been achieved.
As everyone knows, the real situation is: if you don't point it out, the child won't say it's broken. You continue to pretend to be stupid, and they continue to pretend to sleep.
Wait until one day they behave excessively that you will wake up in pain.
This is undoubtedly the most funny.
At the beginning of the rise of the Internet, there was a very fashionable saying at that time: stay at home, know the world's affairs.
Today, when network technology is incomparably developed, this sentence has long become: people do not leave bed, and the world can be fully understood.
Therefore, all-round protection is simply impossible.
So what is "active attack"?
The "offense" I am referring to here is the solution: the meaning of taking the initiative, taking the initiative to let them understand and bear, and the meaning of empathy.
Like the Internet violence mentioned today, who in the midst of the Internet torrent, has not been added by the bad words of others, and who has not said bad things about others behind their backs?
Sometimes, even for some sensitive people, even if you do something or say something to him out of concern, due to long-term repression or hurt, he has already become a bird of fright, in his opinion, it will feel that you are mocking him or have the intention of harming him.
So, is such a situation a cybercrums? Or is it an accomplice?
For protection, many platforms now harmonize or block many words and actions.
The most witty thing is the last time I saw a video of a blogger complaining (interested friends, you can go to see):
After the first time I read it, I didn't know, so I felt very helpless after watching it the second time, and I felt very ridiculous after watching it the third time.
Even if the Internet is turned off today, then we will not be sneered at by others, or even verbally attacked?
Have you forgotten the gossip of the Muraguchi intelligence station? Have you forgotten the exclusion and isolation of your classmates and friends? Have you forgotten the pointing of your colleagues around you?
Is it because these are not recorded on the Internet that these can be ignored and tolerated?
Since harm is everywhere, we can't shield everything in order to "be alone."
Isn't it also a good solution for us to take the initiative to face or meet it?
After we give relevant preaching, and at the same time supplement it with experiments, will not make the perpetrator more empathetic, make the victim's psychology more powerful, and let the bystanders who have never had a similar experience also participate in it?
Having skin pain can not only kill crime in the cradle, but also let them know that when you are unfortunate enough to become a victim, you know how to seek help or protect yourself.
Here's a very simple example:
Like school violence, a lot of times, whenever something like this happens. Victims usually receive help and comfort, and because the perpetrator is a minor, what they receive is preaching, even if it is compensation for costs, it will only be borne by their parents, and it is extremely rare to need to bear legal responsibility and enter a juvenile detention center.
Such a solution, whether for the perpetrator or the victim, is just a shoe tickle, after time has passed, the victim will still be hurt, and the perpetrator is still going his own way.
So why don't we, on the basis of preaching, supplement it with some educational practices, and let the perpetrators and the victims exchange identities?
So that the abuser can also feel the pain of the skin,
Let the victim also take a breath of "evil qi" and the inner repression be released,
Even bystanders can participate in it, so that they are deeply aware of the "evil" of the perpetrator and the "pain" of the victim, so that they dare not try the Fa by example, and at the same time, when they have the victim next to them, they can more easily have empathy.
Isn't practicing true knowledge and proper stick education more meaningful and influential than just blindly teaching?
If the above plan is counterintuitive and difficult to implement, we will discuss another plan: the popularization of sports.
In fact, whether it is a child in school, or an adult who is mixed in society.
Let alone psychological problems, even physical problems have really worried countless people.
In order to take the entrance examination in school, in order to upgrade and raise salaries in society, in order to achieve the goal, many people tend to ignore physical health and mental health.
Even if you know that there are problems and problems of one kind or another,
But in school, the physical education teacher is often "sick", and his physical education class is often occupied;
In society, suffering from the absence of sports venues, those who have venues are either charged or occupied by others for no reason;
In the long run, sports have long been forgotten by us, and the way we think of releasing stress is always: brushing dramas or playing games.
Under the accumulation of time, the body collapses, the spirit is depressed, the psychology is fragile and fragile, can not withstand any beatings and tests, encounters slightly larger setbacks, and the first solution that comes to mind is to find short-sightedness, thinking that ending one's life can solve everything.
And exercise, it not only allows our body to thrive, after sweating, the release of dopamine, but also can sweep away our negative effects, so as to have a positive and optimistic attitude.
Physical health and psychological strength, when we encounter difficulties, we may think that instead of escaping or even seeking short-sightedness, we will actively seek solutions to cope.
This is not nonsense, you just have to search for yourself how much difference there is between exercise and non-exercise, physically or psychologically, you will know. And I'm not going to expand here.
Let's sum it up
In the case of Liu Xuezhou, we still see many social problems, such as human trafficking, school bullying, sexual abuse of minors, and online violence.
When we can't see our internal shortcomings and problems, in addition to condemnation and anger, we should put forward our own ideas and suggestions, rather than choosing to turn a blind eye, avoidance, or just blindly complain, which is not helpful.
The People's Daily once said something very enlightening:
"If you feel that your motherland is not good, you go and build it;
If you think the government is not good, you go to the civil service examination to become an official;
If you feel that the people are not qualified, start with you as a high-quality citizen;
If you feel that your fellow citizens are ignorant, start learning and changing the people around you, not a blur of insults, complaints, and escapes.
Horizontal eyebrows cold to the thousand fingers, bowing down to the cow.
The place where you stand is your China.
What you are, China is; what you are, China is what it is. If you are light, China is not dark;
May the young people of China get rid of the cold air, just go upwards, and do not have to listen to the words of the self-destructive and self-abandoning people;
Do things that can be done, make a sound that can be heard. ”
That is, some of the views, thoughts, and suggestions I have made in the case of Liu Xuezhou may be very naïve, and may also be absurd.
Even the measures are difficult to implement, but it is better than the current stagnation.
In today's ever-changing and ever-changing world, if we are still just stuck in our ways, sooner or later we will be left behind by the times.
After reading this article, I don't know if you have some views or opinions of your own? If so, you are welcome to leave a message in the comment area below to share it.
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