Li Ao once said: If there is a new woman, beautiful and wandering, charming and confused, and excellent and excellent, sad and sexy, incomprehensible and incomprehensible, it must not be someone else, it is Hu Yinmeng.
To get such a high evaluation from the great talents of the wind, what is the origin of Hu Yinmeng?
Taiwan is a place rich in beautiful women. In the 1970s, taiwan's performing arts industry had the saying of "erlin erhu". "Erlin Erhu" refers to the four beauties of Lin Qingxia, Lin Fengjiao, Hu Yinmeng, and Hu Huizhong, who are comparable in appearance and temperament.
Hu Yinmeng was the school flower when he was in college, and later dropped out of school, and the whole school was lost, and the campus spread the saying that "Furen has no spring from now on". The impact is evident.
It is said that beauty is amorous. The beautiful Hu Yinmeng emotional experience is rich, and the most enjoyable thing is the lace anecdote that she and Li Aoshan were married and divorced but humiliated by her for half a lifetime.
However, when everyone's memory of her is still stuck in the old things of "Li Ao's ex-wife" and divorce due to "constipation", she does not know that she has long since calmly put it down, quietly turned around, and firmly embarked on an unexpected "road of no return": announcing the end of the film during the popular period of acting, and turning to the translation and writing of body, mind and soul.
In the long years of self-exploration and growth, Taiwan's first beauty has resolutely crossed from a bare-handed film and television star to a translator and author, and finally transformed into an explorer and healer of body, mind and soul.
In the book "Meet the Unknown Self", it is said: "Honey, there is no one else out there, only yourself." ”
Throughout Hu Yinmeng's life, karma arises and dies, but he never dwells on those external factors that he is powerless to change, but always maintains the mentality of caring for his heart and cherishing blessings and gratitude, and finally promotes himself to step by step to perfection.
The Manchurian gege under the father's knee and the Cinderella in the mother's eyes
Hu Yinmeng's body was flowing with the blood of the nobility.
His father, Hu Gengnian (胡庚年), whose original surname was Guarjia, belonged to the Manchurian Zhenghong banner nobility and had Russian ancestry. Hu's parents died early when he was a child, and he formed a character that was easy to escape from when he was sent to the fence from an early age. Although talent and appearance are both, the emotional and passive personality can easily affect marriage and family.
Her mother, Xuan Shifang, is a very talented woman, but she has a hot temper and treats people harshly. "In her heart, money comes first, she comes second, and others come third." Her husband's assessment of her was so direct.
One thing is clear. When the family moved to Taiwan, there was a camp bed left, which my father wanted to give to a relative. The relatives who moved the bed all came, but the mother regretted that she did not want to send it, and she blocked the person back. The father was also a good-looking man, and since then he has been estranged from his wife.
His father rarely returned home because of his escape from his mother and work, but he was still extremely spoiled for his only daughter, Hu Yinmeng. "He managed to pluck the stars and moons and give them to me." Hu Yinmeng was naturally closer to his father.
On the other hand, the mother, because of her strong and mean personality, is increasingly estranged from her husband, pushing her husband farther and farther away. Watching the daughter and her husband feel close, jealousy gradually arises, and she vents her dissatisfaction with her husband on her daughter, and often uses excuses to hit her daughter.
So, when her father was there, she was a wayward and spoiled Manchurian gege; when her father left home, she became the Cinderella who let her mother vent. At a young age, she acted as a sandwich for her parents.
What should have been a happy childhood, but due to the lack of awareness of her parents' education methods, many personality contradictions in Hu Yinmeng were created, and there was an increasingly rebellious heart lurking under the appearance of a well-behaved woman.
Reconciling with the mother, mother and daughter are an inseparable relationship
Under the pressure of his mother, Hu Yinmeng performed well in school, and has always been a well-behaved girl and an excellent student. But her mother's out-of-control education made the seeds of rebellion in her heart grow deeper and deeper.
She was afraid of the dark at night, but she was mercilessly ridiculed by her mother. Because he learned to shout a national curse casually like an adult, he was immediately chased by his angry mother with a bamboo strip for several streets, and his mouth kept shouting: "I must beat you to death today!" Hu Yinmeng was too frightened to go home.
She began to hate her mother and secretly swore that she would take revenge on Snow Shame when she grew up. Think about her future rebellion and failed marriage with Li Ao, probably this is how little it was planted.
The dual personalities of the excellent well-behaved girl and the rebellious girl are tearing each other apart and growing up with Hu Yinmeng.
When she attended Methodist Girls' High School, she usually spent weekends at the home of her parents in Taipei. This warm and happy home was called the refuge of life by her. The mother in her 40s takes care of the family wholeheartedly and takes good care of her three children.
The three funny brothers nicknamed their mother "Partial No". Hu Yinmeng watched the funny pictures of them raising the bar with their mother, and sometimes reflected on their relationship with their mother.
She found that "mothers who are too distant and mothers who are too thoughtful are equally unbearable for children." So she began to slowly let go.
The closest thing she had to her mother was that she often went to the movies together. One day, on the way to the movie, an accidentally dropped billboard smashed my mother's lips, and the flesh and blood turned outward in an instant.
Hu Yinmeng shouted in pain at the workers who were loading billboards. Looking at her daughter's subconscious appearance, the mother was a little flattered, but instead said "forget it" in peace.
At that moment, Hu Yinmeng suddenly realized in his heart that his entanglement with his mother for so many years was actually the interference of fate. The deep feelings of flesh and bones in the heart are always inseparable. The mother and daughter have since reconciled.
It is said that the original family has a profound impact on the child's life. Encountering a bad original family, some people may not be able to walk out of their haze for a lifetime, but some people can eventually come out and even grow into excellent talents, relying on the sober awareness and ability of self-perception.
Regret half a lifelong first love
After going to college, Hu Yinmeng has become a stunning four-seat beauty, not only has become the spring in the hearts of all the university boys, but also discovered by the discerning director, starred in the heroine of the first TV series in her life, "The Clouds Are Deep and Unknown", the response was huge, and since then it has become a hit and opened a 15-year high-light acting career.
In his freshman year, Hu Yinmeng met Don, a handsome, talented, quiet and shy American.
Similar views on new things, complementary personalities, common worldview, "delicate feelings finally have the same delicate response", two young people with the same frequency resonance, opened a sweet romantic and half-lifelong first love.
In that conservative era, Hu Yinmeng's love affair with a foreign boyfriend was not understood by others. When the two go shopping intimately together, they will always cause others to look sideways, and they will whisper criticism behind their backs. Hu Yinmeng paid no attention to these external eyes and voices.
When Don decided to go abroad to work as an exchange teacher, Hu Yinmeng was sad and lost his soul for three months, and then suddenly realized that he could not let his dependence and vulnerability be infinitely magnified, nor could he hand over his personal fate to others, and he was the one who saved himself and maintained his inner independence.
Although he later recalled this first love and still lamented it, after many years of learning that Don had a calm and stable new relationship, Hu Yinmeng was relieved.
A woman who can be both enthusiastic and calmly aware can see the reality and the future clearly, know how to withdraw at the right time, and will not let herself be trapped in the mud.
A short but half-lifelong marriage
Although Hu Yinmeng's experience with the sexes began to be rich since then, she devoted herself to every relationship and often felt nostalgic when she remembered it in the future. However, the only thing that made the goddess physically and mentally exhausted and regretful, and in retrospect, only an indifferent period remained, but it was the most well-known short-lived marriage between her and Li Ao.
At that time, Hu Yinmeng was already a popular star in the show business world, but when she was a college student, she admired the talented Li Ao.
Hu Yinmeng, whose writing is quite brilliant, published a column in the newspaper "Li Ao who is maverick." The great talent was quite happy after learning about it, and soon after meeting, the two began a sensational love affair at home and abroad, and jointly interpreted the classic story of the talent and the beauty.
Although In the process of getting along, Li Ao's suspiciousness and defense often made Hu Yinmeng very uncomfortable, and his attitude towards women coming and going away also made her uneasy.
But passionate emotions are always easy to stimulate a woman's love brain, and the halo effect and expectations for the future of the other half often easily mask the details that should be alert.
One of the most ironic things is that in order to associate with Hu Yinmeng, Li Ao gave his girlfriend Liu Huiyun 2.1 million Taiwan dollars, and Liu Huiyun left Li Ao for the United States.
However, not long after, Li Ao began to feel sorry for the money, and even said to Hu's mother seriously in front of Hu Yinmeng: "I have given Liu Huiyun two million and one hundred thousand, if you really love your daughter, you should take out the 'relative fund' of two million and one hundred thousand."
Hu Mu turned her head and left as soon as she heard this, and turned from a warm attitude of favoring the marriage between the two people at the beginning to a strong opposition. The rebellion in Hu Yinmeng's heart broke out like never before at this time. Originally hesitant about this marriage, she was determined not to marry Li Ao.
So late one night, Hu Yinmeng secretly took the household registration book at home, concealed his sleeping mother, quietly went out in his pajamas, flew like a butterfly that had gained freedom to Li Ao's home, and officially married him under the witness of several close friends.
However, the romance of electric flint can not withstand the consumption of chai rice oil and salt, not to mention that the cornerstone of marriage under the impulse of gambling is not strong.
Li Ao's personality conflicts, strong possessiveness and jealousy, and conservative patriarchal ideas are incompatible with the open-minded and socially frequent Hu Yinmeng.
Because of the fear that Hu Yinmeng would "go eyebrows with other men on the road", she was not allowed to go out for a run; because Hu Yinmeng, who had never been in the kitchen, did not know how to cook rib soup to thaw the frozen ribs first, Li Ao was hysterical and angry after seeing it, calling her a fool who lacked common sense of life.
Hu Yinmeng was stunned and deeply shocked. Later, she realized the reason why Li Ao was partial to the execution, so she began to look at him with a calm mind, trying to help him and save the marriage.
However, a marriage with too much gap between the three views is doomed to go far.
Li Ao's illegal appropriation of his friend's property shattered the last illusion in Hu Yinmeng's heart. Hu Yinmeng made up his mind. Married in May and divorced in August, this impulsive marriage lasted only three months.
Because Hu Yinmeng took the initiative to return the property of his friend who was illegally usurped by Li Ao, after the divorce, Li Ao sued his ex-wife in court and repeatedly went to court.
Emotionally devastated, Hu Yinmeng seems to have experienced a thorough baptism of life, her body has lost 44 kilograms, but she is good at caring for her inner true self, and she still maintains a vision of humanity.
After learning that Li Ao was riding a tiger and had to fight a lawsuit hard, all the resentment in Hu Yinmeng's heart completely disappeared.
Passionately engaged like her, calm awareness is like her!
Even more than a decade later, Li Ao, who failed to completely let go of his resentment, began to attack her in various TV shows, and even mocked her constipation embarrassment.
Instead, she saw that Li Ao still seemed to have some kind of uneasiness and fear in his heart, and she couldn't help but feel a kind of compassion and indebtedness, and she had failed to let him understand the psychological truth that she had already released in this karma.
It doesn't make sense to have a relationship that has ended and is constantly entangled in the past. "Only hate itself is the destroyer." The resentment that constantly arises hurts only oneself.
The past can be nostalgic, but don't indulge. Knowing how to let go and turn around at the right time is the maturity of the mind and the best protection for oneself.
Self-awakening, turn around and embark on the "road of no return"
Ending his failed marriage with Li Ao, Hu Yinmeng seemed to have reached a kind of detachment. She actively adjusted her body and mind, focused on filming and writing, and devoted her free time to reading, which was greatly soothed in her heart.
One day, in a small bookstore, she stumbled upon the writings of Krishnamurti, India's spiritual leader and "most eminent religious figure." His profound insights into the bottom of human consciousness made Hu Yin hate and excite him.
She knew that she had finally found the key to open the door to the exploration of body, mind and soul, and gradually faded out of the show business circle until it completely disappeared, leading herself to the "road of no return" of professional exploration of body, mind and soul.
In those years, she faded the aura of stardom, immersed herself in research, devoted herself to translation, writing and environmental protection, and was the first to introduce Krishnamurti's ideas to Taiwan, becoming a spiritual teacher who can cross herself and cross people. She is no longer the first beauty in Taiwan that people can think of at any time, but she has become a goddess in the field of body, mind and soul exploration.
She bravely dissected herself, actively healed herself, and understood all the causes and conditions that had been born and died. With a profound understanding of the first half of his life, he published his autobiography "The Inconceivable of Life".
Today, in pursuit of inner abundance and without remarriage, she lives indifferently and quietly. Although it is the year of the flower nail and does not apply powder, it still exudes a calm and indifferent beauty.
Zhang Shaohan said: "The beauty before the age of thirty is given by my parents, and the beauty after the age of thirty is created by myself!" ”
Everyone wants to have a good life, but they can't decide who they are born with and what kind of fate they will face.
Unsatisfactory, frustrated or even blown by life and work, neglect, incomprehension or denigration of those around them... They are all external "unsolvable problems". We may not be able to prevent them from happening, but we can adjust our mindset.
No matter what kind of card God gives us, all we can do is try to play it as well as possible.
Take care of your heart, listen to yourself, embrace the child who is "true within yourself," and discover the wonders of life.
May we all maintain such a mentality in the face of life and live a different wonderful life.
Beauty in the heart, years undefeated.
The prologue of fate, you arrange.
Resources:
1. "The Inconceivability of Life - The Autobiography of Hu Yinmeng"
2. "Hu Yin Dream | the original family is the basis of each of our existence, how do I get out of the influence of the original family? 》
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