Recently, Zheng Shuang's father apologized and clarified the response to the abandonment controversy once again on the hot search.
Zheng Shuang's father responded
Unfortunately, due to the negative impact caused by Zheng Shuang's suspected surrogacy and abandonment in the early stage, coupled with the excessive remarks in the recording of Zheng Shuang's family and the apology after the incident, it has aroused the resistance of the masses.
Therefore, even if fans strongly request that the radio and television lift the ban on Zheng Shuang after Zheng Shuang's father responded to the abandonment problem, this still cannot change the fact that Zheng Shuang Zhang Heng drilled a legal loophole for surrogacy, and Zheng Shuang's road to overturning is estimated to be not smooth.
Zheng Shuang fans brush the topic for Zheng Shuang
However, Zheng Shuang's father's response did reduce the dissatisfaction of some netizens with Zheng Shuangsheng's lack of nurturing and disregarding life. After all, in their view, Zheng Shuang's abandonment of the breeding is more infuriating to them than the fact that Zheng Shuang is surrogate.
In my book "How Is Zheng Shuang So Naturally Intolerable?" Why does no one objectively speak up for Zheng Shuang? In the article, a considerable number of netizens who replied to the accusation fell on the issue of "abandonment" - the child is so pure and innocent, how pitiful the abandoned child is! After all, for parents with children, the word "abandonment" is simply jumping on their minefield. Any parent who loves his or her children will have no intention of abandoning them.
For example, the 2020 Serbian film "A Father's Way to Find a Son" shows us that for parents who love their children, money will not be an excuse for them to abandon their children.
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At the beginning of the film, a mother comes to the factory with her two children and sets herself on fire to beg for a salary.
Money is one of the ultimate problems that plague the world's poor. People who have not really experienced poverty cannot feel what is called "a penny is difficult to defeat a hero", nor can they understand how much desperate despair is hidden behind those poor working people who self-immolate to ask for wages.
But the reality is cold, and the mother in the movie ignites herself, but does not ignite the conscience of the cold entrepreneur. In the end, the child's father's salary and severance payment did not arrive, but he was hospitalized, and the children were also taken away by the welfare home.
The father of the unknown child, Nikolai, after being interrogated by the police, went to the welfare center to pick up the child and returned home, but was asked by the staff to take the child back unless he proved that he was capable of supporting the child.
In order to be able to get his child back, Nikolai did the best he could. He tried his best to meet the staff's requirement of the "standard line of ability to support children" - because there was no money to pay the electricity bill, the family's electricity was pinched, so he asked the neighbor's family to allow him to connect the electricity to borrow; the house was disliked without painting, he carried the paint bucket to brush himself; there was no running water at home, then connect to the faucet in the garden...
However, his efforts have always been limited. Ran out of paint and couldn't afford to buy a new one, so there was a room that hadn't been painted; there was no water heater in the bathroom; there wasn't a computer at home; I couldn't find a full-time official job...
So, although Nikolai did love his children very much, the committee of the welfare center decided that Nikolai was incapable of raising children and wanted to send one of his children for adoption.
Knowing that he could not take the child, Nikolai, who was patient and restrained, chose to sit on a hunger strike on a bench outside the office door in protest. In the same way that his wife set herself on fire to beg for a salary, Nikolai chose a self-inflicted form of protest. But what else could he do?
He had no other choice. So he could only sit outside the door on a hunger strike in protest, as if this would make the director of the welfare center change his mind.
If there were other ways to choose, who wouldn't want to live with dignity? Poverty, the most desperate thing is not that there is no money, but that there is no way out in the face of difficulties. For the extremely poor, decent, is a luxury.
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Nikolai decided to go to the capital Belgrade to appeal.
He took the complaint that his former colleague had helped write, filled with a bottle of tap water and a piece of dry bread, and prepared to walk to the capital on foot. This distance is not very close, but it is not particularly far, it is 300 kilometers, which is almost the distance from Nanjing to Shanghai.
Living in the 21st century, we may not be able to imagine that in these years, there are still people who can't afford to pay for the 300-kilometer bus and can only choose to go on foot; there are still people who can't afford to buy the cheapest mineral water, and can only choose to drink tap water in the park or in the roadside washstand; there are even people who can't afford to eat roadside restaurants, and the rations for 300 kilometers hike are only a piece of dry bread.
Grinding blood bubbles on Nikolai's feet
We thought that a monthly salary of 1,000 was poor enough, but we did not think that every day, those who were desperate because of poverty were really and vividly staged a life that was completely different from ours.
But poverty does not stop them from warming their hearts toward goodness.
Even though he was as poor as Nicholas, in the face of the hungry stray dogs who sheltered from the rain together, he hesitated again and again, or threw a small piece of his own bread to it.
Unfortunately, reality is not a fairy tale, and kindness does not always have a happy ending.
The next day, when Nikolai woke up from the uninhabited ruined building, he saw the body of a stray dog that had been killed.
It's like Nikolai, who walked alone for five days;
Weak enough to faint on the side of the road and taken to the hospital;
When I arrived in Belgrade, I met the clerk at the front desk, but I was told that I could not hand over the complaint to the minister.
No matter how hard Nikolai stalked, the rules were still the rules.
Nikolai, who had worked hard for 300 kilometers, was refused the word "rules" and refused to ask for help outside the door of the glamorous government building.
If it were not for the touching story of "a father who walked 300 miles to appeal to find his child" in the newspaper and attracted the reporters of the Daily News to come to the media, perhaps Nikolai would not have been able to wait for the assistant minister to receive him even if he waited all his life outside the government building.
Nikolai seems to have finally taken a turn for the better. His appeal was echoed and the government would advise the welfare centre to return his children to him.
If the story ends here, it may be a heartwarming ending. However, reality is often not what people expect.
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As the Assistant Minister said, Nikolai made great efforts to get the children back, whether it was trying to change the living environment of the children, or to appeal on foot to find the children, no kind person can not be touched by Nikolai's deep fatherly love for the children.
But the assistant minister also reminded Nikolai that poverty is also a form of violence against children.
Poverty is not a sin, but poverty means no money, no power, it means being at the mercy of others and being slaughtered by others.
So, even if Nikolai gets the letter of advice, so what? As long as the director of the welfare center refuses to give his child back to him, he will always be an "unqualified father who cannot support his child".
Even in the eyes of others, Nikolai was a qualified father; even in the hearts of the children, their eagerness to return to their fathers did not work. Whether or not the decisive power to return the children is in the hands of the director of the welfare center who does not want to return the children to Nikolai.
In other words, even though Nikolai did not want to abandon the children, reality was "forcing" Nikolai to accept the fact that he had "abandoned" the children. For Nikolai, money was not an excuse for him to abandon his children, and poverty was even less so, but reality forced us to recognize the fact that money, which can be "forced" to be the reason for abandonment. Not Nikolai's reason, but the welfare center's subjective reason.
Remember when the security guard at the welfare center once told Nikolai that the director of the welfare center made money by raising the children.
Nikolai, the biological father, did not abandon the children for money, and the family was too poor to support themselves and did their best to raise two children; the director of the welfare center was able to let the children be "abandoned" by their biological parents for money. It's ironic and sad.
Although the film "A Father's Quest for a Son" tells the story in Serbia, we have a similar true story that happens around us "illusion". The muffled sound of the ending song is like the dull echo of the film after it strikes us deep inside.