Many people feel that 9-year-olds have nothing in their lives but reading and playing. In fact, this "Nine-Year-Old Life" is small and big, and there are adult emotions and thoughts that you can't see.
"Nine-year-old life" is adapted from the novel of the same name by Korean writer Wei Qizhe, released in South Korea in March 2004, with a Douban score of 8.0, which is a warm film without compromise. In the process of watching the movie, countless times people laughed with tears and were moved. The two 9-year-old children in the film are more mature than adults in many ways, and this maturity is not the "precocious puberty" on the surface of the urban children now, but the psychological maturity: know how to express their own meaning, know how to face their own life, but they are still a child in behavior, and now too many children are not just the opposite, and the psychological childish behavior is adult?
Bai Yongmin is a naughty but sensible child, in order to let his mother with eye disease wear sunglasses, every day after school will sell ice cream to make money. And one day his mother finally discovered this secret, sad rebuke beat him, he let his mother's scolding, but could not stop the tears of grievance. Poor and loving family environment, so that yongmin is much more mature than children of the same age,
One day, a girl from Seoul, Yu Lin, came to the class, and the appearance of this girl added a bright color to Yongmin's ordinary life. Yongmin liked this clean and noble little girl in his heart and took the initiative to show his kindness to her, but the girl unsympathetically handed over the "love letter" to the teacher, and the injured Yongmin drew three or eight lines on the table to demonstrate.
One day, Yulian accidentally fell into the water in order to catch a small rabbit, Yongmin desperately rescued her, and since then he has learned the origin behind the girl's lies, and two children with different family backgrounds have gradually become good friends of two little unsuspecting children.
In my opinion, this story seems simple, but in fact, there are many people and things that we have experienced or are experiencing. For example, working hard for parents, turning your back on your original friends for love, and fighting with people for your friends. In addition, the bravery and responsibility of the small protagonists are also a highlight of this film.
So today's article I will lead you to see our shortcomings and weaknesses from this group of primary school students in a way that is small and big. The article is mainly divided into three parts, which are interpreted from the three levels of family, love and friendship:
While interpreting these contents, I will combine real-life experience and talk about how we as adults in life can correctly cope with various emotional problems in life.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >01, family affection in the heart: filial piety is a wordless effort, action must be greater than expression</h1>
Yongmin's mother worked in a factory a few years ago, due to an accident that caused blindness in one eye, because the injured eye looks a little scary, Yongmin has always wanted to match his mother with a pair of glasses, in the process of buying shoes, the idea of wearing glasses for his mother is more determined.
Yongmin's family is very poor, but it is very warm, and his parents love Yongmin very much. One morning, when Young-min was getting ready for school, his mother noticed that his shoes had been torn with a big hole and insisted on taking him to buy shoes. In the store, when the mother bargained with the boss, the boss saw the blind eyes of the mother, so he felt very obscure and drove the mother and son out of the store.
In the store, Yongmin did not refute a word in the face of the boss's discrimination and vicious words, but silently followed his mother out of the store. After that, he used his time outside of study to help others with housework, collect dung buckets, sell ice cream, and make money, just to get his mother to wear glasses as soon as possible.
Who knew that he was working outside, let his mother find out, and the mother said while fighting: "Does the mother of a one-eyed dragon make you feel very ashamed?". Yongmin said: I just don't want other children to laugh at their mothers, and I don't feel ashamed of my mother at all. At this time, Yongmin said what he thought with tears of grievance.
In my opinion, this 9-year-old's way of handling things is something that many of us adults can't do. Here we will switch places with Yongmin. If we want to do this for our mother, when we don't have enough money, we will borrow it, or we will talk to our parents, ask for money from our parents, and then buy it. In the end, everyone rejoiced. Mother is happy, we are relaxed, but is this really right?
Yongmin wants to buy this thing out of love for his mother, if it is only a simple pursuit of the result of these things to give to the mother, without making any effort, then what weight does this love for the mother have?
In addition, in the face of the boss's discrimination against his mother in the store, Yongmin did not make any rebuttal and excessive behavior, perhaps many people do not understand this, in fact, the reason is very simple, just because the mother is present, if he and the boss quarrel at this time, it will only make the mother more embarrassed, and it is difficult to end, so that the mother is embarrassed.
So, in life, how do we express our love for our parents and let them accept this gratitude without pressure, based on personal experience, I have these 3 suggestions:
(1) For the love of parents, actions must be more than words
Now many people advocate that love should be spoken, and many children seem to listen to this sentence, and sometimes there is even a little bit of a wrong perception, parents do not need me to do anything, they just need to know that I love them is enough.
But love without action, like a glass of water without temperature, can quench thirst, but it cannot warm people's hearts. Our love for our parents is mixed with gratitude, and gratitude must be done, and action is more than words.
(2) When we want to do something for our parents but are not capable enough, we don't have to rush to achieve it
When we want to do something for our parents, but our ability is limited, many people either choose to give up, or they are in a hurry and full of anxiety, but they don't have to. We chose to do this out of love for our parents, and love is a long-lasting emotion, slow but long-lasting.
In fact, all human feelings are like this, the long stream of thin water is far more sincere and long-lasting than the one-time, and the child's love for the parents needs such a long time. Because parents are the people we should be thankful for in the world, the love for them should be a lifetime.
(3) The best gratitude to parents is to reassure them
There has always been a saying in China that children are worried. Therefore, as a child, no matter where you are, no matter what you do, the first thing to do is to reassure your parents, to let them see your maturity in dealing with things, and to learn to think first when facing bad things, and then make reasonable choices.
Do not show your impulsiveness in front of your parents, regardless of the consequences, so that your parents will live in fear all day long, and they will never be able to rest assured that you will go to the outside world and live independently.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >02, love remains at the origin: involuntary life, it is better to force than to miss</h1>
The appearance of Yulin can be said to bring a bright rainbow to the poor and plain life of the eternal people. When I first saw this girl, I liked her. This kind of youthful love breeds and spreads in the hearts of the eternal people. So he expressed his liking for the girl everywhere, but Yulin's proud personality always hit a wall.
Although Yongmin likes Yulin, he does not dare to be too explicit, until he meets an uncle who has the same crush as him, and he plucks up the courage to write a love letter to Yulin. As a result, Yulin handed the love letter to the teacher in front of the whole class. The teacher asked Yongmin to read the love letter on the spot, and at this time, Yongmin arrived home, so he decided not to pay attention to Yulin again, and did a lot of things that made Yulin very angry.
This stalemate relationship lasted until An accidental fall of Yulin ended, Yulin accidentally fell into the water in order to chase a rabbit, Yongmin did not hesitate to jump down and save Yulin, and since then the relationship between the two has changed qualitatively, they often play together and chat together. However, the good times did not last long, Yulin transferred to Seoul, only because she had a bad relationship with her stepfather, but her mother could not be separated from her stepfather forever, so her mother decided to take Yulin back to Seoul.
In the face of the end of separation, both of them are very sad, but after all, the 9-year-old life can not help but silently accept the arrangement of adults. The night before Yulin left, Yongmin saw a regret in the uncle who was similar to himself, who had not been able to confess to the girl he liked until his death. So Yongmin came to Yulin's door with a red hairpin to express his love to her, and boldly said goodbye to her with a kiss.
In my opinion, these familiar love sections have been experienced by almost everyone in their student years. Some people forget it after it has passed, and some people cling to it until many years later and refuse to let go, thinking that the love is the most beautiful and pure. I have to wait until one day, there is such an opportunity to reconcile with the true love in my heart, but people who are so persistent often end up regretting it in the end.
Because we were completely different from those who entered the society when we were students, we who loved each other in the first place were forced to be separated. After many years of reunion, we were overjoyed and felt that we could start again, but after we were together, we found that the person in our hearts was completely different from the person in front of us. This sense of gap will make you regret and make you entangled, so the beauty in your heart is destroyed by your persistence, so it is better to force it than to miss it.
So, in real life, how do we correctly face the beautiful love affair of the student era?
First of all, the love of the student age is destined not to last, so cherish the present;
If we recall it well, we will find out how immature we were when we were students, always quarreling with the other half because of inexplicable small things, the taste of a cup of milk tea is not right, and the flickering of a glance when walking will make us quarrel, so that the relationship that is not long is shorter.
So if we really like each other, then cherish the moment, because we must know that many things become extra precious because they are short. Therefore, don't let go of your own willfulness because of a little thing, and let the time that should be happy be wasted on quarrels.
Second, what you don't get is the best, but the end of attachment may be the beginning of another tragedy;
Remember that Chen Xiaozheng in the movie "To Youth" is a good example, when he graduated from college, for a better future, he gave up his beloved Zheng Wei, but in the years since, he has been thinking about Zheng Wei and wants to be able to get back to good one day. When the two reunite many years later, each other is no longer the same person they were, and that obsession is just to increase the annoyance and hurt the person who loves you at the moment.
Zhu Deyong once said:
"What every man and woman remember most is the first love that died prematurely, because it did not go on. ”
So no matter what the reason for the separation at that time, we should let go, because today's me, not yesterday's me, maybe we loved to die and live, but now we are not necessarily suitable for each other, so letting go of attachment and embracing tomorrow is the most correct way.
In the end, when I calmly put it down, no matter at what stage of my life I look back, it is a beautiful memory
The taste of first love is the taste of green orange, light, astringent, but it is unforgettable. Since you can't forget it, hide it in a corner of your heart; when you are upset, when you think of this paragraph, a breeze will spring up in your heart to calm you down; when you are proud of the spring breeze, remembering this paragraph will make the smile on your face two points deeper.
Therefore, decisively put down, the beautiful first love will never be degenerated in the heart, no matter at what stage of life to recall, is the most beautiful memory.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 Friendship Back to the Beginning: True friendship can still go back to the beginning after misunderstanding and disappointment</h1>
Before Yu Lin came, Yongmin, Jin Fu and Ji Zheng could be said to be the three musketeers of the school, always together, close as brothers, Yongmin was the eldest brother of the three, whether at home or at school, Jin Fu and Ji Zheng would find Yongmin to help with anything. Because the three families are not well-off, they are often bullied and excluded in the small society of the school. So Yongmin found the overlord in the school to challenge, and the happy thing was that Yongmin actually won the battle, and since then, the status of the three in the school has been very different from the past.
However, The arrival of Yulin broke the indestructible relationship between the three, and Yulin did not like Yongmin to fight, and Yongmin gave up the position of overlord of the school. This point Kim Bok and Ji Zheng do not understand and do not agree, because once Yongmin gives up that position, it means that they are going back to the life of being bullied before, but Yongmin does not care about the opposition of the two and makes his own choice for the girl he likes, which is the beginning of the crack in the relationship between the three.
Indeed, Yongmin's heavy color and light friends, really make people a little difficult to accept, the three people grew up together, went to school together, accompanied each other for many years, took care of each other, just because of a word from an outsider, Yongmin ignored the feelings of the two friends, and made their own choices.
Because of this matter, Jin Fu was dissatisfied with Yulin, so he provoked everywhere, but Yongmin always helped Yulin, so the contradiction escalated. Jin Fu found an opportunity to negotiate with Yu Lin, and as a result, the two wrestled together, and Yongmin pushed Jin Fu to the ground on the spot, so the misunderstanding and disappointment reached its peak in Jin Fu's heart.
But just when the Three Musketeers were about to become strangers, there was a money theft incident in the school, and someone told the teacher that Yongmin stole Yulin's money, and Yulin did lose 11 yuan, and Yongmin just saved 11 yuan in order to buy glasses for his mother. Therefore, everyone took Yongmin as a thief, and Yongmin did not want to go to school anymore. But at this moment, the two former friends came out for Yongmin, Ji Zheng beat the informant, Jin Fu pointed at YuLin's nose and said everything That Yongmin had done for her, which made Yu Lin very moved and took the initiative to tell the teacher that her money had not been stolen.
This is the true friendship, innocence, without any impurities, after experiencing so many misunderstandings and disappointments, Jin Fu and Ji Zheng can still do without hesitation for the Eternal People, in my opinion, this friendship is very thick, is countless days and nights accumulated, will not disappear because of overnight misunderstandings. However, such thick feelings are also many in our real life, but after many encounters similar to the misunderstandings in the film, the former sisters have become plastic sister flowers, and the former brothers have become plastic brother grasses, why is this?
I guess there are some reasons why friendships in real life are so fragile:
(1) Former friends have become their current connections
Most of our friends in life start as classmates, and then accumulate with each passing day, deep feelings, but when we grow up and enter the society, the first thing we face is the problem of work economy, and when we need help in the face of these problems, the first thing we think of is our former classmates and current friends.
So I called him, how difficult I am now, what I need, the other party is full of promises. But in this coming and going, the friendship that was once a relationship has become the current network, no matter what feelings, after being linked to interests, it is no longer simple, and everything must be weighed against the pros and cons.
(2) As a friend, there is no need to interfere with his love
Everyone knows a truth, the person in love is blind, no matter how good your relationship with him is, do not easily comment on or participate in his love, no matter in your eyes, how unbearable his other half is, but in his heart is a baby.
Maybe you will feel that as a friend can not watch him get hurt, this time you can be friendly tips, but do not participate too much, put yourself in the right position, because in the eyes of many people, love is greater than friendship, and you know, the harm of love is a compulsory course in everyone's life.
(3) As a friend, you must be able to pay the true heart and get back to the beginning
To know that no matter what kind of emotions in life, there will be bumps and bumps, which is inevitable, but many people in the face of the contradictions in friendship, have chosen to die and do not interact with each other, some because they can't pull down face, say sorry, some because of the proud character, no you, and others, I don't care.
But why don't you go back and think about it? Why did you choose him as a friend in the first place? Since you can afford to make this friend sincerely, why don't you have the courage to say "I'm sorry" now to let this friendship go back to the beginning.
epilogue:
Although "Nine-year-old life" is about the affairs between children, in my opinion, it also has reference significance for us adults. This film made me learn a lot and think a lot. It can be said that this movie is a microcosm of life, from which we can see a lot, the right and wrong and pros and cons of family, love, friendship, and learn a lot of correct practices and choices from these right and wrong pros and cons, so this film is very worth watching and thinking about repeatedly.