Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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In the relationship between men and women, when many people really fall in love with a person, they are more clingy, and they want to spend more than a few hours a day.
Even, some people feel that "getting along day and night" is the way two people who really love each other should be!
However, when we jump out of passion, we will find that people who have often been together for a long time have not been able to withstand the invasion of emotional burnout in ordinary years.
Men and women who know each other and attract each other are not necessarily the right people! The real right person is not how to love each other during the passion period, but how to manage the relationship in the details after the passion!
Too many men and women in the relationship, always think that they have gone all out, in fact, "blind" efforts, for feelings, there is no harm!
Most people who fade away by loving and falling apart while walking have the following two extreme phenomena:
Long-term separation, less gathering;
Long-term contact, almost inseparable.
Excessive less gathering and excessive separation will cause the relationship to break the line!
When the water is full, it overflows, and excessive force is bound to be regurgitated! Good relationships are never easy to come by!
All the people in the world who have finally become dependents to the twilight years are in the details of getting along, using the form that the other party can perceive and care about, and convey their love. Instead of using the form of self-touching, forcing the other person to respond doubly to love.
Whether you can grasp each other's hearts and promote the warming of feelings, the small means that should be there must not be less! People who learn, they are very useful!
The feelings between men and women, the best state of getting along, is the mutual "psychological balance"! However, all equilibrium needs to be constrained by appropriate "imbalances".
The interaction between men and women, to enhance feelings and enhance the temperature of love, needs to be properly "disconnected"!
It is said that love is a reward for giving. Therefore, in the relationship, both men and women are easily spoiled by the love of the other half regardless of return! Even, take the other party's efforts as a "matter of course"!
The more enthusiastic and proactive the other half is towards ta, the more pampered and proud he is. For such a person, appropriate "disconnection" is not the best "punishment" anti-"harvest"!
After reading the following reasons, you will suddenly wake up:
1: Take the initiative for a long time, properly stop once, ta will in turn "care about you"
The feeling of taking the initiative for a long time and the psychological imbalance must not be because you are pretentious, but the other party ignores your feelings to some extent!
If you continue to take the initiative with this unbalanced psychology, you will definitely completely hit yourself into the bottom of disappointment when your psychological pressure ability reaches a certain limit.
Many times, it is not that the other party does not have you in their hearts, nor that the other party does not care about you, but that you have created a model of getting used to getting used to your own relationship.
You didn't say anything, and the other person thought you were satisfied with the status quo. You never asked for it, and the other person thinks he's doing a good job!
One doesn't say, the other doesn't know, and the relationship unconsciously enters a stalemate!
At the beginning of the relationship, the two people must be enthusiastic about each other. But just because you have been too active and enthusiastic for a long time, you have cultivated the other party into a business relationship.
At this time, if you complain while giving, the other party is likely to feel that you are too sensitive and pretentious. Therefore, appropriate no longer active is the best psychological expression.
A person who has been warm for a long time, suddenly being cold, he must be uncomfortable! Under such unbearable alternating hot and cold, he will take the initiative to cater to you or come to you for answers. Then, you must seize the opportunity to have a calm conversation with the other party, and your feelings can heat up!
2: Let the other party understand that I can get used to you or "forget you"
Some people, do not let them taste a sense of crisis, they never know their "a few pounds or two". Although the person who loves deeply is reluctant to cut off the connection with the person in front of him, the way of "attacking poison with poison" can arouse the sense of crisis in his heart.
In the relationship between men and women, some people use their own "eating" psychology, just care about their own arrogance, without the slightest regard for each other's feelings.
Even, put the enthusiasm and deep love of the other party, with their own various personalities and edges and corners to "give back".
The reason for this is that the other party's sense of security to him is too rich, so that he forgets to be grateful.
In this world, any kind of emotion should be treated gently. When your enthusiasm is ignored, you should know how to cool down appropriately. In this way, you can not only make the other party feel a sense of crisis, but also let the other party jump out of the world of the self and feel your heart.
The main thing is that you can also really see from your own appropriate cooling, whether a person is worth continuing to pay for yourself.
If, after you cool down, the other person is very nervous and therefore changes the appearance of the former self, it is easy for your feelings to warm up.
If, after you cool down, the other party still ignores you, it can only mean that your affection has never been cared for, and the one-way relationship between you is doomed to no results!
3: After proper cooling, restore the previous enthusiasm, so that the other party has a feeling of "lost and regained"
No matter how precious a thing is, it is often placed in front of a person's eyes, and it will not be cared about because of the long time! Ta only knows that the thing in front of him is very valuable, but he is more certain that this thing belongs to himself, even if he is covered with ash and does not wipe it, others cannot "take it away".
However, even the most valuable objects are covered with dust, and it is difficult to emit the luster of the past, and they are ignored!
People are animals that need to be "stimulated" all the time. If there is no fluctuation in the heart, he naturally cannot feel how beautiful the water surface after the ripples is, which makes his heart move and joy.
Some people, because they care too much, are overloaded with initiative and enthusiasm, and finally when they feel neglected, they can no longer make themselves safe because they do not leave blank space for themselves. In the dilemma, the feelings are pushed into a dead end by themselves, either one-way operation or end...
Take the initiative to cool down appropriately for a long time to a short disconnect, and people will be afraid and uneasy in inertia. And then when he is warmed and close again, he will have a kind of "lost and regained" joy, and know how to care for and cherish!
In the relationship between men and women, they have been active or passive, which will make people feel "tired". Zhang relaxed and moderately wandering in the feelings, will let each other have a sense of freshness and passion, business relationship is not so difficult!
Between men and women, there will be no exclusion unless they are mutually attracted.
If you use too much force, it is easy to hurt others and hurt yourself!
Emotional management, there is never a shortcut to go. A good relationship depends on the means and routines after the heartbeat. Proper disconnection and proper cooling can make your feelings retain an unexpected sense of freshness in the dull years.
Disconnection, seemingly hurtful behavior, is the touchstone of feelings and the heating meter of feelings. The key is to see what kind of mentality you have about your current feelings!
The people who truly love you will definitely be very attentive to you in the days when you are warm and short-lived!
However, the means of temporary disconnection and deregulation should not exceed 2 times at most! Otherwise, you will "can't eat and walk"!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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