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It is said that everyone speaks in public and feels nervous. Adler, the founder of individual psychology, once said that the best speech must have full confidence in oneself and the audience.
It is true that when you speak, you must have confidence in yourself and believe that you can perform well. Have confidence in the audience, believe that the audience will not laugh at you, will cheer you up, you will play freely.
Today we are going to tell a story about the speech.
There is a male protagonist, as the king of a country admired by the whole world, the top traffic George VI. He is the father of the current Queen, who reigned from 1936 to 1952.
Before becoming king, George VI was called "Prince Albert". He only wanted to be a quiet and beautiful man, but his brother the Duke of Windsor loved Jiangshan and did not love beauty. ▼
He was pushed to the throne of the king. After life began, Albert was in pain, because he had a big bug that he couldn't change since he was a child - stuttering.
As a king, you often have to speak publicly.
Albert, he had low self-esteem, he was anxious, he was ashamed, he was filled with fear.
Albert stuttered while practicing his speech, and his father, George V, yelled at his son, "Don't be nervous," which made him nervous.
The Royal Doctor told Prince Albert to relax with a cigarette and read a glass bead in his mouth, and Albert vomited.
The huge expectations and pressures of the outside world, the forced intervention methods, and the father's hatred of iron and steel made Albert's stuttering more and more serious. Is he a difficult ah dou who can't hold up the wall?
Elizabeth, The Princess of Albert, finds a folk man, Logue. Logue actually cured Albert, how did he do it? He used "behavioral therapy" and "psychoanalytic therapy", both at the same time.
The towering Albert naturally looked down on Logue, but Logue asked Albert to come to his clinic every time, emphasizing that the relationship between the two sides was equal, and insisting on calling Albert "Bodi" like a family member.
Modern schools of counseling emphasize equal counseling relationships, especially the humanism founded by Rogers, with more emphasis on "help-seeker centers." The king is a symbol of sovereignty and has an incomparably revered status, so Dr. Logue in turn emphasizes that in the doctor-patient relationship, the two sides are equal, even the king, can not enjoy special treatment, must respect the doctor and cooperate with the doctor, so as to play a good effect.
In fact, Logue is well aware that Albert's stuttering is caused by tension and fear. At first, Logue wanted to untie Albert's heart knot, and he asked Albert what the first thing you remembered was. This is a psychoanalytic method that traces the memories and experiences of early years.
Albert was very resistant, angrily saying that we (referring to the royal family) never talked about privacy to others. At this time, the two met for the first time, and there was no understanding or trust. This kind of one-sided approach is easy to make people defensive. Even the average client can't immediately open up to a counselor.
As Albert was leaving, Logue thought of a way to get Albert to put on headphones to listen to music while reciting Shakespeare's famous passages, logue handed the disc to Albert, and Albert found himself reading very fluently. The reason was simple, the music was so loud that Albert couldn't hear what he was saying, but there was no obstacle. This just proves that the reason for his stuttering is doubting himself.
In order to achieve results as soon as possible, Logue first used "behavioral therapy" - instructing Albert to slip his mouth, hang his throat, relax his oral muscles, shake his whole body, learn breathing, sing out what he wanted to say, dance and spin while speaking, and even swear words, achieving good results.
But this is not a cure for the symptoms, and Logue wants to stimulate albert's inner strength to make him truly accept himself.
One day Logue asked Albert to make a model, and Albert naturally talked about his childhood—the pain of physical defects (wearing metal splints to correct X-shaped legs), being abused by a nanny and starving and suffering from stomach problems, and his parents only to find out three years later that a younger brother had died.
In the strictly established imperial palace, human nature and desire were greatly suppressed, and even normal fatherly love and maternal love could not be obtained. Inside Albert lived a scarred little boy who needed to be held and caressed.
The integration of body and mind, physiology and psychology are inseparable from each other, there is a virtuous circle, there is a vicious circle. Behind the behavioral disorders are repressed psychological needs and masked psychological trauma. Many diseases have psychological roots and emotional factors.
Logue encouraged Albert not to live in the shadow of his father and brother, "you're no longer the five-year-old," and "if you're king, you can do better."
Albert erupts like a volcano, "it's treason", he denounces Logue for being "nothing", because Albert's subconscious ambitions are broken, he can't face it, and must be strongly denied; and Logue's psychological superiority has hurt his pride, and he wants to hit Logue and protect his sense of self-worth.
In an open and safe environment created by the counselor, the client may mentally retreat to infancy, brutally biting the nipple and tearing the doll-like torment of the counselor. The counselor needs to withstand a lot of negative emotions from the client, and even direct personal attacks on the counselor. The counselor is like a container, a good breast, who must open himself up and give it unconditionally to the client.
Some people subconsciously dare not surpass their parents because they are controlled and suppressed by their parents from childhood to adulthood, and they carry the traditional moral shackles of "great rebellion". In a sense, only by completing the spiritual "killing of the father and the mother" can a person truly grow and become independent.
In rehearsals for the enthronement ceremony, Logue actually sat on the throne of Westminster Abbey. Albert was furious and shouted, "Divine right of kings, I am your king," "I have my own voice, I have the right to be heard." This move provoked Dafa, allowing Albert's power to burst out, so that he finally believed that he could become a qualified king.
Fascism approached, and Albert made an anti-war proclamation to the people of the country. Logue stood in front of him, conducting the "accompaniment" with his hand, "You imagine just saying it to me alone.".
Despite some slowness and trembling, Albert successfully completed his speech, and he truly became George VI, the beloved king of the English people.
Albert's courage to overcome himself in the face of danger is certainly admirable, and Logue's strength is even more amazing. In fact, Logue is not a doctor at all, he has no diploma, just a small actor who is not in the flow, but he is full of strength in his heart, he said "my castle, I will decide".
Each of us is a castle. The castle is strong enough to withstand the wind and rain and stand tall!
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