In recent days, have you also been a little anxious and insomnia by parents who have sunned their award certificates with various results? Is it also because of your child's achievements, suffering from gains and losses, good fear of regression, not good and worried about why there is no progress?
After the introduction of the "double reduction" policy, as a parent of an ordinary primary school student, rather than an educator, I did not pay too much attention, thinking, how the policy is stipulated, how the school is arranged, we try our best to cooperate well.
Including when the initial after-school deferred service began to be implemented, although there were people at home to supervise and tutor, it seemed that most of them signed up, and we did not hesitate to follow up. Children can improve, parents are more relaxed, why not enjoy it?
However, after the final exam, the major online platforms, parents from all over the country began to post awards, posting results - all kinds of anxiety that were exposed across the screen, a final exam, the whole out of their own college entrance examination nervousness.
To be honest, when my own children's grades were checked, I was lost all day. I believe that parents who superficially say that they do not care about their children's grades, the joy of seeing their children's grades improve, or the heaviness after the decline, is not less than others.
I began to wonder, "double subtraction" one is to reduce the burden of daily homework, the other is to reduce the burden of off-campus training, do not have to tutor homework too much at home, do not have to spend too much money to participate in off-campus training, no matter from which point of view, the reduction should be a family burden.
The truth is that parents are becoming more anxious. There is no homework, some parents can only find their own, their own exercises corresponding to the course, more laborious; there is no quiz, parents do not know whether their children have mastered the course they have learned, and they are more troubled by gain and loss...
After the end of the first exam after this "double subtraction", some educators also threw out the responsibility of parents behind the gap in the child's exam in a timely manner, which made parents originally anxious, and had to review again whether their own educational methods were wrong...
Take me for example. I am just an ordinary one among many parents, although I can't represent all of them, but my original intention is more or less the same, that is, I hope that my children will have a better life in the future.
I have two children, the eldest daughter and the younger son. From the time my daughter was in fourth grade, I was committed to family work. When my child was transferred to my current school in the third grade, I was "educated" by the teacher for a long time on the second Monday, that is, the first time I checked my weekend homework. At that time, there was sales, the manufacturer came to the lecturer to do training on the product, the teacher called the phone, so I quickly said hello to the teacher to come out to pick up, the teacher split his head and covered his face and said, nothing more than not seriously checking the child's homework and the like.
The reason why I turned over this kind of old thing is not to say that there is something wrong with the teacher, and the parents are definitely responsible for the problems of the children. That time, I didn't check the child's homework one by one, the child said it was done, I probably looked at it, and it was done.
At that time, it was explained that the child basically did not lie, and perhaps she remembered two less homework, because the previous teacher would directly send the homework to the WeChat group, and the child himself did not remember it. But the teacher decided that "a child will lie", and made three more phone calls intermittently, asking me to take the child away. Now that I think about it, maybe the teacher was just making such a phone call in front of the child to "shock" it. But I was indeed "shocked" by what training, and I was only bent on how to check my child's homework in the future...
Later, my son also began to go to the first grade, and at the end of the year, the outbreak of the new crown epidemic, seeing other parents, than themselves, put a lot of work in educating their children, I was at home full-time.
Due to the epidemic, children have not held offline classes for nearly half a year, and we do not have formal online classes, responsible teachers will send relevant videos in WeChat groups, and some teachers will just summarize the content of the day. Fortunately, less than a month after the start of school, midterm exams, both children have not regressed, and the daughter has made a lot of progress in mathematics.
The child's father never looked at my mobile phone, due to the push of big data, he said that the content above me was learning, he could not see it...
Therefore, for parents who have done their best to create anxiety articles, there is no need to look at more. And usually do not pay much attention to the child, even if there is more advice and encouragement, he can not see.
Can parents really decide on the key points of academic performance?
Or is it more inclined to say another way, "let family education return to the family, school education return to school".
With the implementation of the Family Education Promotion Law after the "double reduction", the key to "family education" has once again been prioritized. However, whether the child's academic performance is good or not, is it really determined by family education?
The son of my cousin in my hometown, the same age as my daughter, has also become a group of panicked people in the chicken baby army since entering the first grade. The reason for panic is because the beating is also beaten, scolded and scolded, although the economic conditions are average, but various tutoring classes have also been attended, and the child's grades have always been at the bottom.
When my cousin went to school, he was also ridiculed by many classmates, with poor grades, serious study, but he could not learn. Later, I found a daughter-in-law, and the culture of my younger sister was not high. The two of them endured hardships and hard work, worked hard, and lived their lives.
The cousin and his wife are not highly educated, but they are not stupid, under the educational concept of the current society, they also hope that their children can be favored by teachers in school, and will come to the society to get ahead, easier than their own lives.
It can be said that every parent's desire for their children to have good grades and be admitted to a good university is stronger than any teacher.
But they are not teachers, they are busy with learning, they just have more than enough, and they are not strong enough. Every parent is a mortal, they have their own flaws, rather than making them anxious about their children's achievements, it is better to let children learn and understand their diligence and steadfastness.
Some teachers have compared family education to the foundation of a child's life, but some children may bloom in full bloom, and some children may just be figs, not blossoming, not necessarily the foundation is broken. And the results are good or bad, we just see for a while.
Homeschooling is not an ally of schools, they complement each other, but they are two different things. If the two do their duty without prevaricating each other, they are all happy.
In family education, to a lesser extent, what is needed is a correct attitude towards life, and to the larger extent, it is to have the right values. Let children study hard so that they can play better, realize their own value, so that the people around them, so that the society, can be happier and better because of his existence. Instead, in order to find better and easier jobs in the future, to make more money... In this way, even if the child's academic performance is mediocre, he will be able to do an ordinary, even inconspicuous job in the future, at least he can be conscientious and conscientious.
This direction is wrong, all kinds of high-IQ, high-tech crimes, will still emerge endlessly...
I believe that this is the original meaning of "double subtraction" and the original meaning of "family education".
After all, with a kind, self-motivated, hard-working and down-to-earth person, there will be a harmonious and beautiful society.
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