Richard Feynman, an American physicist, made great contributions to the development of the atomic bomb and was awarded the Nobel Prize in Physics for his research in quantum electrodynamics. Feynman was not only a scientist, but also a writer and artist, good at playing tambourines, and also good at opening various safes, and was a very interesting person.
Feynman once said in his book The Joy of Discovery: I am not obliged to fulfill the expectations of others.
We have lived in the expectations of others from a young age, in school for the expectations of teachers want to be a good student, at home for the expectations of parents want to be a good child, in the unit for the expectations of the leadership want to be a good employee, when in love for the expectations of lovers want to be a good lover who is willing to pay empathetic good lovers, after marriage for the expectations of the family and want to be a good husband and wife, good father and good mother.
Everyone said that there was a future in college, so we studied hard to go to college. Everyone says that finding a well-paid job will make life better in the future, so we'll go find a high-paying job. Everyone says that we must have a house and a car to live happily, so we desperately try to save money to buy a house and a car, and everyone says that we have to have a child when we are old and have nothing to rely on, so we go to have children. We have been more or less pursuing the life that everyone expects, we often live in the expectations of others, we dare not do what we want, do not dare to be unique, do not dare to do what we want to do, we are afraid that we do not meet the expectations of others, afraid of others saying that they are not good or bad.
In the short decades of life, most of us have never seriously thought about our feelings, never seriously considered how we want to live. We have never thought about what kind of work we really want to do, what kind of lifestyle we really want to live, what kind of people we really want to be, what kind of people we want to be.
When we want to quit our jobs at the age of thirty or forty or want to start a business, our parents will come out and say that we are messy, friends will say that we are impulsive, lovers will say that we are irresponsible, and the unanimous view of everyone is: What is it that we are not working well at such an old age?
However, if a person dies at the age of thirty or forty, the unanimous view is: It is a pity that such a young person died.
In fact, we have no obligation to fulfill the expectations of others, our lives should do what we expect, we do not need to or others' expectations, we just need to live in our own expectations.
You don't have to listen to anyone's opinion, just as a lion wouldn't listen to a sheep. Therefore, only refer to the opinions of people who are stronger than you and have higher ranks than you, and then make decisions based on your own inner feelings. Other people's undesirable suggestions can choose to automatically ignore the blocking.
You have to understand that in your short life, you are more important to yourself than others, and your expectations are more important than others' expectations.
We should not be busy every day, do not blindfolded to go forward, do not have a little time to leave for ourselves, we should think about it, what is our lifelong dream? Then set a long-term goal based on the long-term goal of doing something important but not urgent for a few hours a day. Don't let low self-esteem and cowardice limit your imagination, and don't seriously underestimate yourself all the time.
People can do a lot of things with a little snack, the height will be far beyond imagination, and nothing is unattainable.
What future can a rural girl from a poor family who has been unable to move, slurred, and not good-looking since she was a child because of cerebral palsy, who has dropped out of high school, have any future, and can she become a writer? Can you become a poet? Isn't that whimsical? However, Yu Xiuhua is such a person, at the age of 22, she ignored everyone's ridicule, wrote poetry every day, published her first poetry collection at the age of 38, joined the Zhongxiang Writers Association in Hubei Province at the age of 39, and she wrote herself into a myth with her trembling hands.
I am not obliged to fulfill what others expect of me, I only do what I want to do most.