Let's tear off the label of "social terrorism."

Last weekend, I met a friend I hadn't seen for a long time and went to Haidilao. In this cold winter, enjoy the fat slices of meat rolling up and down in the pot, and the mood also rolls happily and happily.

"What do you usually do at home during the weekend, and I don't see you send a circle of friends, I thought you blocked me," I asked her jokingly.

"I didn't go anywhere, I stayed at home all day, I could stay at home for two days without going out." To use the term "social terror" now, I seem to have suffered from 'social terror'. I feel comfortable alone, and I feel particularly uncomfortable when I see a crowded occasion. ”

"Now even in the canteen to eat, I also sit alone, feel that there is no topic to talk to colleagues, see the leader from the opposite side, I have to bow my head and turn around, I am afraid of meeting and encountering nothing to say." 」

Recently, the word "social terror" has been frequently seen on social media. But it was the first time to hear friends around me say that they were "social fears". So I went out of my way to popularize the meaning of these two words on the Internet.

"Social phobia", as an abbreviation for "social phobia patient", originally derived from the name of a disease - social anxiety disorder.

Some institutions have done a survey, in the 18 to 35-year-old users launched a questionnaire survey, recovered more than 4,000 valid questionnaires, showing that more than 40% of the respondents claimed to be "social terror" believe that they have different degrees of social problems.

It seems that this is already a common problem among young people today.

The next morning, I received a call from my cousin, who couldn't stand the toss of more than three hours of driving back and forth on the road every day because her home was too far from the unit, so she rented a house near the company and invited me to play.

The little cousin who grew up watching her now set foot on the job and began to live independently, sighing in her heart for the passage of time.

In the evening, we ate together at a nearby restaurant. During the dinner, I jokingly asked her, did she have a boyfriend so she moved out? Unexpectedly, her answer was, "Sister, I have a boyfriend at home every day except for work, unless one falls from the sky and comes down to me."

"Didn't you often see you partying with your classmates before?" I asked curiously.

"There are fewer gatherings after work". The cousin bit the straw and said vaguely. Isn't it time to have dinner with colleagues after work? You tech companies have a lot of single, high-quality young men," I asked curiously.

"I am now a social terrorist family, at most online and people to chat two sentences, met a word can not say a word, do not know what to talk about, too embarrassing." Commonly known as , 'social death'.

I don't make small talk when I work, I don't want to take the initiative to communicate with my colleagues, for fear of delaying others' time. I also don't want to participate in a crowded party, usually on weekends I play games at home and chase a drama. What a chance to meet a boyfriend?

After almost a year of work and a mediocre relationship with colleagues, the leaders were almost unaware that there were people like me in the department. ".......

I looked at her in disbelief. In my impression, the post-95 generation in front of me has been lively and cheerful since childhood, and it is not related to the word "social fear". When I first stepped into society, I should have unlimited energy and longed for socialization, how could I be "socially afraid"?

Nowadays, the word "social terror" frequently appears in everyone's chats, self-blackening. This is actually an anxiety disorder, most people's sense of anxiety and fear of normal social interaction, but basically can be through their own regulation.

I remembered the few ways the teacher said to overcome anxiety disorders when I read the psychological counseling course before, and there were several methods that were quite suitable for social terrorists, so I shared them with my cousin:

Don't force yourself to deliberately cater to other people's topics

Suppressing yourself to cater to others will only bring greater psychological pressure to yourself and allow yourself to avoid social activities. You can first choose warm and cheerful colleagues and classmates to communicate, so that you can slowly adapt to the occasion of many people.

assertive

Sometimes we are afraid of other people's jokes or belittling ourselves just because we say it wrong or don't do it well. We can choose to share our experiences with others as a breakthrough in communication.

A while ago, the very popular column "Brother with Thorns and Thorns" in Lee Seung-hyun, before Lee Seung-hyun said that he was not good at communicating with people, nor was he good at taking the initiative to make new friends, through a meal, with the love of food and talk to everyone, so as to let everyone understand his usually unknown side.

The most critical step

I think the fastest way for most young people to get rid of social phobia is; Put down your phone, stop online games, get out of the house, participate in outdoor group sports, badminton, hiking, cycling, and more.

Exercise is a very good way to relieve stress, so that certain substances can be released in the brain, which can make the body and mind happy, calm, and relieve anxiety; Company building and travel are also good ways to communicate and interact with others in a relaxed environment.

Stop labeling yourself as "social terror." Happy work, healthy life, this is the right attitude to life for our young generation.