Hello everyone, I am a K star kitten from the K planet, a serious and interesting movie dating community, today I will share with you a clichéd problem - love.
Loving and being loved are the eternal needs of human beings, and it is difficult for us to define what love is, but we always want to have it. Some people are afraid to lose their hearts without loving, as long as they can continue to love people, even if the love road is bumpy, they will smile at the corners of their mouths.
However, after clocking in for two months, I found that it was much harder for workers to start and maintain a relationship than when they were in school.
Feelings need time and energy to cultivate, have common experiences and spiritual resonance, and may become a unique existence in each other's hearts.
However, school does not fill every day, and the work is 8 hours a day. Paddling in class is harmless, and the owner of the paddling at work has a lot of opinions.
If the ability is insufficient or the work is unreasonable, the time and energy will be squeezed dry, and the whole person will become a dry well, and what else will be taken to water love?
Busy with livelihood but still longing for love, this is the norm for ordinary people, and such uncool things are rarely shown in film and television works.
In low-quality workplace love dramas, although the protagonist will also encounter work difficulties, but that is only a temporary plot need, you know that ta is inherently comfortable, will always bottom out. In episodes like this, I never felt the real threat of life and the inability of working love to be able to do both.
What I want to share with you today are the movies that show the love dilemma of us ordinary people.
These films do not weave fairy tales, do not avoid problems, and focus on ordinary people like you and me. These workers are by no means idle and rich, and their love has always been intertwined with reality and subject to its clamps.
Watching these movies is like looking at myself, they make me think about the real love dilemma and the way out.
01, the loneliness and love of workers
Many people only vaguely feel that urban life is very lonely, but Cai Liangliang's "Long Live Love" summarizes one reason for loneliness: city dwellers deal with objects, rooms, and buildings more than people.
The three protagonists of "Long Live Love" are all low-level workers: the sensitive and introverted Xiaokang is the urn salesman, Miss Lin is the sales lady, and the handsome young Ah Rong is a stall vendor.
Xiao Kang and Ah Rong got the key to the apartment sold by Miss Lin by coincidence, and Miss Lin herself also had one in her hand, and the three of them took turns or appeared in the apartment at the same time, which intersected.
Ah Rong is free by nature, but Xiao Kang and Miss Lin are very lonely, and even if they contact people at work, they do not really communicate with people.
Xiao Kang returned to the company, and his colleagues were playing a game of several people hugging each other when they heard the password, and he could only stay in the corner uneasily.
Although Ms. Lin was enthusiastic about the customers who visited the house, she was exhausted every time the customers left.
It's like an after-work worker
More often than not, they are left alone.
Miss Lin made work calls while eating wonton stew, posted sales slogans everywhere by herself, smoked while taking a bath, and was trapped until the gas leaked.
Xiao Kang will take watermelons as bowling balls in the room and steal Miss Lin's women's clothes, because he has no chance or dare not communicate with people, and can only use objects to entertain himself.
The loneliness that permeates the long shots leaves nowhere to escape.
Well-off kisses "bowling"
Today, this state of "no connection with people" is intensifying.
Tens of millions of people live atomized lives in big cities. Working between cubicles, online handover work, returning to single dormitories or shared rental houses after work to surf the Internet, as if the end of the world is close to each other, in fact, at the end of the day, I have not dealt with people face to face.
But we still miss the real exchanges: face-to-face chats, hellos, shake hands, pat on the shoulders, or more intimate hugs and kisses. Or will there be a desire for intimacy, understanding and being understood.
Therefore, Miss Lin did not refuse Ah Rong's intercession at first, and he had a spring breeze for a while. She avoided Ah Rong's overtures until she met him again on that night when the gas leaked, and this time she had sex more happily than the first time.
The next day she dressed and left without waiting for Ah Rong to wake up, stepping on high heels dada through the reinforced concrete jungle, and finally sitting in a chair and crying for a full five minutes—without a soundtrack, the camera was motionless, more than 20 years before the similar crying scene at the end of "Call Me By Your Name."
Avoidance is not wanting to involve feelings. Meet, because the feelings can not be suppressed. The last cry is because I want to love but feel unqualified: I don't have the spare time to invest in feelings, the dewy love affair between the two urban passers-by, I don't dare to expect it for a long time, miss Lin hates such a state but has no choice.
And Xiao Kang's love is even more humble, he falls in love with the brother-like Ah Rong, but he does not even have the courage to confess.
Under the burden of life, "love" has become a word that workers are embarrassed to use, but it is actually the most legitimate pursuit of human beings.
We couldn't find a solution to the contradiction, so we had to accompany Miss Lin to cry until the end of the movie.
02, true love is also afraid of fate and no part
Hit workers do not dare to open a relationship, but maintaining love is much more difficult than meeting love.
Hou Xiaoxian's "Love Wind and Dust" shows us how fragile the love of ordinary people is in the change of the world. Any small change can become a straw that crushes love, and we call this frustration "fate without part" or "fate.".
In "Love wind and dust", Ah Yuan and Ah Yun are a pair of green plum bamboo horses in jiufen, a village near Taipei.
Jiufen does not have the hustle and bustle of Taipei, and the houses are built against the slopes of the vegetation. In the evening, the street lights are lit, and under the dark blue sky, the wind will slowly blow the clouds halfway up the mountainside, blowing up the screen of the open-air movie, and Ah Yuan and Ah Yun will return home together.
The two are very affectionate, and the families of both sides are also in favor, and you think they are very compatible, and it seems that they should grow old with a blank head.
However, such affection cannot be left alone in the changes of the world.
Ah Yuan and Ah Yun went to Taipei to work, and lived a simple and happy life until it was broken by a military service notice. At first, the two wrote letters to exchange their lives, and then Ah Yun's letter was broken, and the letters sent by Ah Yuan were written with the words "No one to check this person".
Later we learned that Ah Yun was married to the little postman who often delivered letters to her.
At first, I thought that this change was a bit abrupt, but on second thought, it seemed that this was the norm of life.
Who said the green plum bamboo horses will definitely be together? A single piece of paper, a misunderstanding, too many things can end a sincere relationship. Ordinary people have a low ability to resist change, and genuine love does not guarantee good results.
Ah Yuan cried more painfully than Miss Lin, but he couldn't help it, this was Ah Yun's own choice, ah Gong told him that this was fate, and he couldn't force it.
The English name of "Love Wind and Dust" is dust in the wind, dust in the wind. Wang Jingwen, the actor of Ah Yuan, said that he liked the smoke raised in the camera when Ah Yuan said goodbye to his first boss and returned to his hometown with his companions to visit his family.
Many things pass like smoke with the process of life, you have a kind of attachment, but clinging to it remains in your heart, and you can only continue to watch the current changes and move forward.
03、 Where is the way out?
When it is difficult to meet love, it is even more difficult to maintain and cultivate positive results, so are the young people of contemporary social animals doomed to have no connection with love?
Yang Dechang, who has "dead eyes" and "idealism" but practiced ideals, may tell you: Don't give up.
In Yang Dechang's two later works, "The Age of Independence" and "Mahjong", love occupies a large part, but this love is not limited to men and women.
In Yang Dechang's heart, there is actually only one thing between people and people, that is, "truth", "truth" is the premise of love.
The protagonists of "Independent Times" Xiaoming and Kiki are a working-class couple.
Xiaoming has a sense of justice and compassion, but the biggest principle is self-interest: in order to seek promotion, he can turn a blind eye to the unfairness and injustice of the civil service.
He originally opposed Kiki's job hopping, but after learning that the new job was more promising, he asked Kiki not to consider the trouble that job hopping would cause to her friends, and quickly changed jobs.
Kiki is innocent and lively and gentle in front of everyone, but when someone questions her for pretending, she is also confused, suspecting that she is pleasing others, never knowing what she wants.
The two quarreled and even broke up because of the attitude reflected in the change of jobs, but after experiencing a series of events, Xiaoming resigned from his job as a civil servant and decided to start his own business and live innocently and steadily. Kiki also decided to stop caring about what others thought and be herself with a clear conscience.
The two people who were supposed to break up in the elevator, one waited for a long time and then pressed the door button, the other went to the door and turned back, and hugged and reconciled at the elevator entrance.
"Mahjong" is also similar, Yang Dechang in these two films almost innocently punish evil and promote good: sincere people eventually become dependents, and people who play tricks eventually become the object of play.
For people like Yang Dechang, being honest with oneself is the first step, honesty is the source of strength, and everything established on the basis of dishonesty is a castle in the air.
People who love each other understand each other and are willing to make changes for each other, because they know that the other person is the one who has a true heart with themselves and does not want to be separated from them.
Yang Dechang calls this joy of soul fit love. Because they love each other, they are willing to do everything they can to overcome obstacles and bridge differences.
Ask yourself, afraid that love cannot be maintained and simply do not start, or duplicitously say that you do not love so much, in the end it is still a bitter escape.
The solution given by Yang Dechang is: to remain sincere, to maintain hope, to do our best, and never to give up. As he wrote on his tombstone: "Dreams of love and hope shall never die" ("Dreams of love and hope, never fade").
Since you admit that you want love, you will do your best to find ways to make love last, such as improving your ability to work to free up more time and energy, or finding another way. The process may be bitter and difficult, but even if it fails, it is better than never starting.
I think that if Yang Dechang shoots "Love Wind and Dust", Ah Yuan will at least go to Ah Yun to ask for an understanding.
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