Browsing the web today, Mrs. Cheng shiny and walked into my field of vision.
She is Su Xun's wife, the mother of Su Shi and Su Rui, and the enlightenment teacher of her two sons. Sansu father and son became a generation of literary heroes, and Lady Cheng's contribution was indispensable. The historian Sima Guang wrote the Epitaph for her.
I was moved by her story.
Let me see that a wise mother supports the progress of the family and the excellence of her children.
01 Mother's tolerance, trust and support make the family successful.
Lady Cheng was born into a famous family, married to Su Xun in 18, the Su family was extremely poor, she did not have any complaints, but "filial piety and thriftiness", and never asked for money and goods from her mother's family, Sima Guang commented that "poverty does not pollute the name of her husband". Mrs. Cheng is not only very strong in her heart, but also cherishes her husband's reputation and is willing to help husband and wife together. That alone is touching.
When Su Xun was young, he liked to travel, and he tried many times, and many people looked at him coldly. Mrs. Cheng never looked down on him, always understood and supported him, she believed that Su Xun was talented, had an independent personality, and was not "unlearned".
Su Xun watched Mrs. Cheng work hard to manage the housework and devote herself to educating her children, but she was able to live in poverty and keep her ambitions, and she was deeply moved, and she wanted to study hard, but she was worried that she would not be able to earn money to support her family. Mrs. Cheng took up the burden of supporting her family herself, and from then on, Su Xun closed the door to thank guests, worked hard to study, and eventually became a generation of literary heroes.
Su Xun said, "I think of myself, I can still learn now, but my family treats me and is born, and I learn and waste my life, so what!" ”
Mrs. Cheng replied, "Zi Gou has ambitions, so that I can be tired!" ”
Su Xun's achievements are inseparable from Mrs. Cheng's encouragement and selfless dedication. "Mian Fu godson, the bottom is in Guangda" is Sima Guang's highest evaluation of her.
That's the power of trust and support.
Even today, Mrs. Cheng's burden forward, selfless dedication is the vast majority of people, difficult to do. It is estimated that many families have long been "chicken feathers in one place".
Today, the equality of men and women in society, and the trust and support of both sides are still a benign driving force for family progress.
In fact, Su Xun in the early years is a problem youth in today's day, and Mrs. Cheng is like a parent who has successfully taught, guiding her to the peak of life with the most peaceful mentality and the most tenacious will.
The ordinary heart is tolerance, tenacity is the will, which is also the mentality and spirit that most of us parents lack in education.
02 An excellent mother, the first thing to achieve is the excellent character of the child.
Mrs. Cheng has been familiar with poetry since childhood and knows etiquette well. In addition to running the household chores, she is also the initiation teacher for the children. Teach them poetry books, tell stories of success and failure in ancient and modern times, and cultivate their character, sentiments and integrity.
Lady Cheng told the Su brothers the biography of Fan Huan, an honest, talented, and courageous official at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty who was framed to death by the traitorous party.
Before the execution, Fan Huan bid farewell to his mother and asked her mother not to grieve. His mother wiped away her tears and said, What you have today is a good reputation like Li Bing and Du Mi, what else do I have to be sad about? Reputation and longevity, why should we have to balance both?
When Su Shi heard this, he said excitedly: "Mother, I will grow up to be someone like Fan Huan, will you allow it?" ”
Madame Cheng was touched and said to Su Shi, "If you can be a person like Fan Huan, can't I be a person like Fan Huan's mother?" ”
Under the guidance of his mother, a righteous fire of righteousness, sacrifice for righteousness, and loyalty was deeply buried in the hearts of the Su brothers.
Su Shi said in "Remembering the First Lady Not Destroying birds and birds" and "The First Lady Does Not Send Su Zang" that Lady Cheng taught the Su brothers to have a benevolent heart, and that a gentleman who loves wealth has a way, and that all non-share wealth cannot be taken in vain.
It is Mrs. Cheng's teaching that has forged the Su brothers, a positive and enterprising attitude towards life and a correct world outlook and values.
It can be seen that the mother's education of the child in early childhood has far-reaching significance.
Mother is solid land, holding up lush trees, mother is fertile soil, nourishing life in the arms!
Throughout the ancient and modern times, behind how many families and how many celebrities, there is an excellent mother standing!
Mothers, support the progress of the family, the excellence of their children.