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With the development of the network and the acceleration of the pace of life, people's pressure is also increasing.
Looking back decades ago, when people could not see the high quality of life of other people from the Internet, there was no contrast, and the heart was naturally peaceful, but now there are comparisons everywhere, how can anxiety be avoided?
Usually, anxiety has two outcomes, the first type of involution, in the workplace, on campus, and in all walks of life, this kind of meaningless competition is extremely common, this behavior instead of improving efficiency, but also making people more and more tired.
The second type is to lie flat, if you can't compete with others no matter how hard you put in, it is better to lie flat on the spot and not participate in the competition.
These two behaviors seem to be opposites, but in fact, they show the current struggle of contemporary people with the status quo of life, and also imply that everyone is extremely tired.
Perhaps because social competition is too fierce, many college students and even graduate students are prone to not being able to find jobs after graduation.
According to data from relevant departments, the total number of ordinary college graduates in 2020 will reach 66.11 million, but only 4.15 million graduates have jobs in such a large group of graduates.
The range of jobs chosen by people has also become narrow, and young people used to like to try novel and adventurous industries, even if these companies can't bring them a stable life, but young people just have to dare to think and fight.
However, after the outbreak of the epidemic, everyone realized that a risky life could not bring security to themselves, only a stable iron rice bowl could reassure parents, and at the same time, they could have a career when the critical moment came.
It is precisely because people want to find a better and more stable job, so some students will not go directly to the job even after graduation, but will "eat the old" at home for a period of time. The popularization of compulsory education, the depreciation of academic qualifications, and the difficulty of employment, what should young people do?
And for today's young people, blindly inward rolls and exam preparation, which one is the smart choice?
New type of nibbling old
The results that graduates most expect are either to pass the civil service examination or to get a master's degree. It's just that these two options are thousands of troops crossing the canoe bridge, and there are more people competing and fewer people going ashore.
I believe that everyone must be around a few young people who are preparing for the exam at home in order to take the exam or prepare for the judicial exam, their behavior can also be regarded as a "new type of nibbling on the old", in response to this phenomenon, the supporters believe that if the family conditions allow, staying at home to prepare for the exam may not be a good choice, after all, once successful, you can have a brighter development prospects, if you can achieve the goal and ideal, why not try it?
However, opponents believe that the graduated student is already an adult, and if he relies on the help of his parents at the age of struggle, it is absolutely ignorant.
Professor Liang Yong'an of fudan university's department of Chinese said that graduates are best to eat at home for three years before going out to find a job. Why would a professor at Fudan University say such a thing? What is the meaning behind it?
Self-worth and anxiety
It is not that the higher the education, the higher the salary, but to some extent, the higher the degree, the higher the probability of getting a high salary.
But once a graduate graduate graduate graduates are not looking for a job that they expect, they will have anxious thoughts in their hearts.
Why have you worked so hard for so long? In the end, it is not as good as a specialist student.
Professor Liang Yong'an said that in some industries, academic qualifications can not play a direct role, and what students obtain at the postgraduate education stage is not a craft or a skill to do things, but to make a person's spiritual world more abundant and improve his understanding of everything in the world.
However, if this job treats people with a more valuable and rational eye, the advantages of academic qualifications will not be superior.
Graduates who can't find a job are bound to have feelings of confusion and uneasiness, which is actually not mental anxiety, but value anxiety.
If you want to get rid of value anxiety, you can make two choices.
1, find a valuable but not necessarily interesting thing, such as shining in the factory, become a part.
2, from the personal feelings, do not take interests and job adaptability as the primary goal.
The reason why Professor Liang Yong'an believes that young people can eat at home for three years after graduating from college is mainly because young people need a transitional time to get rid of confusion and anxiety, and only after sinking their hearts and thinking carefully can they understand what they want.
There are also some parents who are more dominant, and they will directly pave a path for their children, but for children, should they listen to their parents? This point should be decided according to the actual situation.
The same is true of the choice of inner roll and lying flat, but at this time, the lying flat is not just going with the flow and stagnating.
Do not blindly seek employment, after being ready to take the initiative is the most appropriate choice.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205
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