The family is the child's first school, and the parents are the child's first teachers.
Parents who have incorrect three views cannot teach children who have the correct three views.
It's like raising fish in already polluted water, even if the fish can survive in the end, it is terminally ill, life is meaningless, and only survived.
After seeing the contradictory novel "Midnight" and the way the little character Feng Yunqing raised her daughter, I once again felt that the lifelong influence of parents on their children was far-reaching and significant.
Through the description of the words and deeds of the characters three times, the novel pushes the image of this pair of superb fathers and daughters and destroys the three views to the reader's eyes.
At the same time, it also proves once again that the upper beam is not correct and the lower beam is crooked, which is indeed very reasonable.
Let's take a look at the three descriptions of the words and deeds of the Feng family's father and daughter in the novel:
1 .
Feng Yunqing's public bond investment failed and suffered heavy losses.
At a time when he did not know how to be good, He Shen'an, a "friend" he had recently met in the public bond investment market, suggested that Feng Yunqing send his own daughter Feng Meiqing to Zhao Botao, a large household in the public bond drilling camp, as a lover, and use the beauty plan to probe the investment direction of public bonds from Zhao Botao's mouth in order to turn over the books in the future.
In the face of such a sinister and immoral strategy, after Feng Yunqing listened, not only did not turn his face on the spot, but also felt that He Shen'an's suggestion was operable.
It is enough to see that Feng Yunqing's own three views have long been destroyed. Not only is he bloodless, but what he lacks is the qualities that a normal person should have.
2 .
After sending away two "friends" who each had a ghost fetus and came to offer advice, Feng Yunqing considered it again and again, and finally decided to personally persuade her daughter to use the beauty plan to get close to Zhao Botao, in an attempt to probe the direction of public bond investment from Zhao Botao's mouth, so that he could turn the book again.
I have to say that although Feng Yunqing is a father, she does not have the bottom line of fatherhood and the minimum virtue of being a human being in her heart.
In his heart and eyes, there was only money and self-interest.
In the past, when he was in the countryside, he did not hesitate to lend usury and exploit the peasants for money; later, when his investment in Shanghai failed and he was cornered, he did not hesitate to use his daughter's future and happiness to pave the way for himself to make money.
His greed, selfishness, and ruthlessness, made people shudder.
3 .
Feng Yunqing's daughter Feng Meiqing, after listening to her father's brazen advice, not only did not show shock and anger, but instead showed a twisted and shy appearance.
It can be seen that after Feng Meiqing had long heard about the corrupt style of her father and aunt at home, she had already confused the merits of right and wrong, and she could not distinguish what the bottom line of shame and morality was.
Although Feng Meiqing was only seventeen or eighteen years old, his heart was already dirty. Seeing Zhao Botao's generous shot, Feng Meiqing actually already had the idea of wanting to move in his heart.
But, out of a sense of ignorant shame and fear of her father's punishment, it was clear that she was still waiting for an opportunity to act.
And when Feng Yunqing finished saying something dirty to her daughter, Feng Meiqing finally let go of the last concern in her heart. With her father's acquiescence, Feng Meiqing has since embarked on a debauched and absurd path, and has fallen deeper and deeper.
From the above three parts described in the novel "Midnight", it is enough to see that the so-called humanity and three views of Feng's father and daughter have long been destroyed.
Seeing this, I finally understood how those women who were willing to fall and fell into the wind and dust came to be.
As a father, Feng Yunqing has no regard for his life. He married a ninth aunt who was about the same age as his daughter, and the two lived a debauched life, mixed with a group of fox friends all day, smoked opium at home, and lived a bad life.
As a father, Feng Yunqing's greatest duty to her daughter is to give money. As for who her daughter interacts with at school and what she does on weekdays, this father almost never asks.
Feng Meiqing, who grew up in such an environment, naturally believed in her heart that family affection was equal to money.
She saw that her father was absurd and shameless, and the Ninth Aunt, who was similar to her own age, was debauched, and Feng Meiqing thought that this was a normal life. What she saw in her eyes and what she heard in her ears gave her a terrible demonstration.
Therefore, Feng Meiqing also imitated her father, spending all day and night in school, making some fox friends who were not doing business, either shopping, or holding various types of parties, and mixing with various men.
Feng Meiqing, who grew up in such an environment, could not distinguish at all what was right and what was wrong. All she knew was that as long as she had money, she could live an arbitrary life.
Therefore, when his father suggested that Feng Meiqing use the beauty plan to listen to Zhao Botao's investment news, Feng Meiqing not only did not show shock and surprise, but had a kind of sleepiness and pillow happiness———— it turned out that his father not only did not scold, but supported his bad deeds.
Seeing this, I had to feel sad for Feng Meiqing, born in such a family environment, and met such a shameless, selfish and greedy father, it was really a great misfortune!
Such misfortunes and tragedies are not accidental.
There is also Jia Yingchun in "Dream of the Red Chamber", whose father Jia Yu, in order to amass wealth, disregards the persuasion of his brother Jia Zheng, ignores the life and death of his daughter, and insists on marrying Yingchun to Sun Shaozu.
As a result, Jia Yingchun was later abused by Sun Shaozu and beaten to death.
There is also Juanjuan in Bai Xianyong's novel "TaipeiEr", "Lonely Love Flower", who was raped by her father and later sold to fireworks alley, and her life was miserable and miserable, still in purgatory.
These poor women, who seem to have been cursed by the devil at birth, descended into such a terrible family.
The main reason for their misfortune is the creation of the family.
The parents they meet are greedy and selfish, and they are not qualified to become parents at all.
In this world, many people have the opportunity to be parents, but not everyone will be a parent.
Being a parent requires practice, learning, and constant improvement.
The so-called parenting first raises oneself.
If the parents themselves do not have clear principles of being human and lack the correct three views, then they will not be able to teach the children with the correct three views.
I also hope that people who are ready to be parents in the world can first establish the correct three views before becoming parents, do a good job of themselves, and then be parents.
I also hope that there will be less tragedy in the world and more love and beauty.