People have always been at what stage and what they do. For example, when you are a teenager, you are at ease to study hard to get into a good university and prepare for a good life later. After graduating from college, I started to work well and began to want to start a family. Find the right people around you to accompany you in your future life.
In a person's life, he may meet many individuals. But not all the people you like are suitable to live with them. Marriage is not like a simple relationship, it requires a lot of thoughtful consideration. In the end, it is really the right choice for the right person.
Many people will rush to find someone to marry when they are not very young. As a result, after marriage, I found that my other half was not suitable for my own personality, and the two had many contradictions in marriage that could not be resolved, which was the wrong choice.
Today's story comes from the sharing of netizen Zhang Tong.
Choices made in a hurry
Zhang Tong has been playing since he was a child, always likes to play with his friends around him, and does anything, but when things are urgent, he begins to be anxious. Sometimes, I will also dislike my own behavior, but I don't make any changes, so from small to large, there are many decisions in a hurry.
When she was twenty-five or six years old, she looked at her friends and chose good people to marry together. She always laughed and said it was okay, no hurry. He was only twenty-five or six now, and he still had years to wait. Never take marriage to heart.
By the time I was twenty-eight years old, I still hadn't found the right person for me. Zhang Tong was in a hurry, and she began to let relatives and friends around her introduce her to blind dates. I hope to meet a good man during the blind date to pin her food and clothing for the rest of her life.
The blind date process lasted for half a year, and Zhang Tong always felt that this man was not gentle and considerate, and that the man's salary was too small to support himself. I have not been selected to Zhang Tong's heart, but the older I get, the time is not waiting for anyone. Zhang Tong's requirements were not so high later, and finally he hurriedly chose a man to marry.
Sun Jie is a truck driver with a salary of nearly 20,000 yuan per month. However, it is often necessary to go out of the car, so I have not found a suitable object. After the friends around him introduced Zhang Tong to himself, Sun Jie saw that Zhang Tong was the same age as himself and had a stable job, so he didn't think much about getting in touch with Zhang Tong.
After Sun Jie and Zhang Tong had been in contact for a while, both sides felt good. And the age is not too young, or hurry to get married, live a good life after marriage. Sun Jie also confessed to Zhang Tong the nature of his work, often sometimes not at home for a long time, and at the longest time there was even half a year that he could not come back.
Zhang Tong also expressed understanding, after all, the work of driving a big car is really tiring. Zhang Tong was indeed very considerate of her husband's hardships after marriage, and Sun Jie went out to the car again after getting married. In the process of getting out of the car, Zhang Tong will often call Sun Jie to greet him, care about whether he is doing well outside, and let him pay attention to safety when he gets out of the car.
Sun Jie also feels that life after marriage is really good. He also has a wife who cares about himself and can speak his own words, in order to let Zhang Tong live a better life, Sun Jie works harder and harder, and then the time spent at home is getting shorter and shorter.
The wife could not bear the loneliness
After Sun Jie and Zhang Tong got married, they did have a period of special harmony. However, because Sun Jie often goes out in the car, Zhang Tong always stays at home alone, and at first she understands that Sun Jie is busy at work, but also for her own family efforts, but also to let herself have a good life.
Zhang Tong was also distressed by Sun Jie in his heart. But it is true that life after marriage is always by yourself, and I feel that there is no difference between such a day and not being married, is it still not myself? Zhang Tong also has some resentment towards Sun Jie, believing that Sun Jie is deliberately snubbing himself.
After all, when the two are in love, Sun Jie is often around her. But after getting married, he often did not go home for a month and half a month, thinking that Sun Jie did not like himself so much, but just wanted to marry a woman and put it at home to reassure himself, and it didn't matter who that woman was.
Zhang Tong always thought of Sun Jie like this in his heart, and after a long time, he didn't feel that there was anything wrong with his thoughts. He also felt that he should spend Sun Jie's money, after all, he was Sun Jie's wife, and Sun Jie's money was earned for his own use. It is not painful to use, and often meets with the little sisters to go to the mall to shop and buy luxury goods.
Zhang Tong's generous way of spending money made a single man in the same building look in the eyes. He inquired around and knew about Sun Jie and Zhang Tong's wedding days. Understanding that Sun Jie was often not at home, he began to pursue Zhang Tong.
Zhang Tong actually still thinks about Sun Jie in his heart, but he has a relationship with Li Qing in a fortuitous situation. After that, Zhang Tong refused to meet with Li Qing, but this feeling of stealing love behind her husband's back was really irresistible, and after a period of time, Zhang Tong went to find Li Qing again, and had many sexual relations one after another.
Zhang Tong also held a grudge in his heart for Sun Jie not going home for a long time, he was already thirty years old, and how long he could wait for Sun Jie. So under Li Qing's attack on his own pursuit, he did not hesitate for long to agree to an extramarital affair with this man.
Infidelity was discovered
Zhang Tong followed the man he was looking for and began a sneaky underground romance. This man's name was Li Qing, and although he looked grand and was also very good at talking. But because he didn't have a serious job, the girls around him were reluctant to marry him, thinking that he was idle and incompetent.
But Li Qing is very good at coaxing women to be happy, and Zhang Tong is often coaxed by Li Qing to buy various things for Li Qing. Because of Sun Jie's work and because his efforts were appreciated by his boss, wages began to rise slowly in recent times. Zhang Tong took the salary and began to buy things for himself and Li Qing.
Zhang Tong could not resist Li Qing's instigation of him, and in a daze, he paid a down payment for Li Qing in this city. Li Qing told Zhang Tong that after her husband went out, there was no one at home who knew whether it was cold or warm. Buy him a house, Zhang Tong can move over and live together.
Li Qing also always told Zhang Tong some beautiful imagination of the life of the two, and Zhang Tong was also deceived by this man's rhetoric. Not only did Li Qing buy a house, but he also bought a new car. When he goes out, he always takes Li Qing to tell others that this is his husband. He did not say that his real husband was Sun Jie.
However, such behavior was eventually discovered by Sun Jie, who asked Zhang Tong what he was doing it for. Zhang Tong said bluntly: "It's not that I didn't think about returning to the family, but I found that women are addicted to stealing love, and in fact, at first it was just an accident, but then it made me fall countless times." I don't think there's anything wrong with me, you have to endure us to continue to live, can't bear it. ”
Moreover, Sun Jie's savings over the years have also been spent by Zhang Tong on Li Qing. Sun Jie couldn't bear it anymore and still proposed a divorce from Zhang Tong. After the divorce, Li Qing immediately broke up with Zhang Tong, rolled Up Zhang Tong's money disappeared without a trace, Zhang Tong regretted it, but it did not help, and Zhang Tong is 30 years old, want to find a sincere treatment of her, and it is really a little difficult to dislike her second marriage.
Marriage infidelity is always a very common topic, there will always be a person in the marriage who thinks that their marriage is not expected by themselves, they want to pursue their imaginary ideal love, but they are reluctant to live in a good environment now, so they will make the act of marriage and cheating.
Men in marriage, always do all kinds of things for their wives. But they lack a statement, always thinking that as long as they do it, the other party will know. Blindly paying but never paying attention to returns, the wife will also begin to feel that it is natural to enjoy such a life in this behavior, and slowly the wife will be dissatisfied with the current situation of life.
Marriage is not just about two people going to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate. The relationship of marriage needs to be maintained and protected by two people together. The bits and pieces of life are also the records of two people moving together into the future, and the efforts of one person are useless no matter what.
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